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so I've known this one guy since 7th grade. (I'm in 11th now) We were really close friends back when I went to public school with him during 7th grade. I transferred to a private school and have been in a private school since the 8th grade.
He's really good friends with my ex-boyfriend, whom, lets just say my parents put a restraining order on (long story).
So I work with my best guy friend. Let's call him B.
So since the 7th grade, I've somehow known that B has liked me all along.
A few months ago I admitted to him that I like him and he says he has since 7th grade and has not stopped caring about me.
Three problems:
1) My parents are REALLY strict about who I date and who I hang around, they don't want me hanging around many people from the public school in my town. It's not that it is a bad town or anything, I just have no idea why.
2) Like I have mentioned in the past, he is good friends with my ex and I have a restraining order on my ex. So my parents are not too thrilled that B hangs around my ex.
3) B has a girlfriend that he has been with for almost a year.
On New Years Eve when we both worked until closing time, we were talking and he just kisses me out of the blue. He said he knows it is not right but says he does not regret it.
B says he would rather be with me but we both know its kind of impossible due to my parents. We both work at the same place and usually after work is when we talk a little bit. We can't hang out together because my parents will think that my ex will somehow show up also.
B and I text each other and talk almost all the time. He always says things like he misses me.
Saturday, he came to see me when I got out of work.
I just have no idea what to do because I've started to fall for him. I really do not know how to go about handling this or fixing it.
Have you ever been in the same similar kind of situation?
What would you do?
Thanks a bunch! (link)
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I dated someone my parents wanted nothing to do with i am not saying to do this but what i did way lie. i would tell them i was hanging out with my best friend but go to him instead. parents cant always know what is best when it comes to friends and boyfriends. just because he is friends with your ex doesnt mean he is like them. but parents will never know that. the girlfriend thing i have a coulpe things to say about. if you were to be with him how do you know he wont be telling a different girl this when you are dating him? He likes you that is true but he has proven that dating someone doesnt tie him to them. so you have to think about how he could hurt you. what i did i ignored my parents and friends didnt know my situation so unless you have been there you really cant say what to do. just trust yourself if you have to lie to be happy lie your heart out. always do what will make you the most happy. in the end you will prove to your parents you can make a good choice but you have to know he wont screw you over like he wants to do the his girlfriend he is dating now i have a saying never date someone you dont like more then you ex. If you can honestly say you like your ex more you are most likely to cheat on them so get over the person you are dating now and you need to make sure he is. i am saying this because he is dating her liking you more so she gets hurt and thats not fair thats all i am saying.
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16/f. alright. so today in school, we had lunch (as we always do) and my boyfriend has my lunch. apparently, so does his girlfriend. i usually wait for my boyfriend at a specific spot and we all meet up there (a group) to sit and socialize and stuff. well, today...i didn't see my boyfriend coming for a while. and i was standing with my friends. and i see him walk towards us..but he stops at where his ex girlfriend was sitting. he sees that im there, he makes eye contact with me, yet he goes to his girlfriend, says hi, kisses her (like as a hello)...and starts talking to her. without saying hello to me first. he talks to her for about 20 minutes..and then he comes and says hello to me as if he just saw me...yet he meets with us everyday. what do you have to say about this? i don't think he's taking me too seriously..he's in my grade btw. (link)
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I dated a guy for two years and to this day he is my best friend. A ex boyfriend or girlfriend is an ex for a reason and they are with you because you are different. most couples stay friends. but jeliously will only bring you apart. so what! thousands of people kiss when they say hello. but he kisses you different then any of them. its not like he passed your table and ignored you to go to her. she was just on the way. most couples share friends so catching up on gossip isnt a bg deal. I think he loves you but he loves to keep people as friends ex girlfriends or not. he did see you were there but he could have ignored you all together. thats why he loves you. he did look and saw where you were he just stopped to talk to his friend (which is an ex) first. my ex is my best friend though i would never be with them again. like i said ex's are ex's for a reason you are there girlfriend now. just have fun and dont worry. If they wanted to be with their ex they would. but they arent theya re with you and they love you. dont worry about him talking with an ex. getting mad over nothing will only further you from him. if you need anything just email me fuzzballbob@msn.com
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I hooked up with this gorgeouss junior a couple weeks okay. We've been friends since the beginging of the year (I'm a freshman; girl). Oh I guess I should say a hook up for me is making out (hardcore haha ) and 2d base and maybe a bit of 3d. BUT ANYWAY so he came over a couple weekends and we just watched movies and hooked up... then prom came around. His bestfriend told me he was going to ask me and I was just kinda like ugh i dont wanna got to prom. So this kid ended up asking someone else. Now... he doesnt call or IM me much anymore and barely talks to me in school. I feel like he hooked up with me, got what he wants and now he's done with me. What can I do to show him I dont need him (besides the obvious of flirting with other guys, i do plenty of that). Im not really sure what I'm asking. Is this normal for guys to do this? I guess I'm just new to all this.. being my first year of Highschool...
help me out?haha.. (link)
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Sounds like he knows you dont need him by showing him you dont have the same interest like going to prom. If he wants to go and you dont he will ask someone else. (he is not going to take you to something you dont want to go to) but if he does have different interest that is why he wont call or im as much. no guy wants to talk to a girl they dont have as much in common with as they thought they did. Its nothing against getting what they want and moving on. more like they wanted to share what they like with the person they are hooking up with. if they dont share anything in commmon later on down the road like in your case the calling and IMing isnt going to happen as much. When guys hook up with girls they think they have something in common with them if that shows to prove false they move on like asking someone else to prom they probably think they have more in common with the girl they asked then the girl they have been hooking up with. guys will go for what makes them happy. sound like you to both went the right way.
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Ok... there is this girl in my class that is so FAKE.. she never rele acts the same.. U can just tell that she isn't herself around any1.. her clothes are in style but they r alll the same one's evry week.. How do u ask her if she is uncomfortable around us?
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ok my point of view. i am really outgoing now that i am 20yrs old. but in high school i never knew what someone wanted me to say or do. I was like the girl you are talking about i wore the same clothed every week because those were the clothes that were comphy. some people cant buy alot of new clothes and if you dont sit at the same lunch table her personality may seem really fake. and some people are. deep down they want to get along with everyone not just one certain group of people. most likely she is uncomfertable but bringing it up will only make it worst for her. if you really want to know, ask her to hang out with you and your friends and the mall or the movies and she how she acts. if she seems nerus you are probably right she is most likely uncomfertable. she just wants to be friends with everyone just like any girl.
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Me and boyfriend have been dating a year now . We've had quite a few hard bumps in the past , but we managed to get through them. We've broke up two times but it was'nt even a whole day. Things just feel like they arent the same anymore , i mean i love him to death and im still happy . I just wish it could be the same as when we first started dating . We didnt argue . every little minute we got to spend together was always the best time of our lifes. We argue a lot now and to be honest i cant even point out the reason we do argue , its always something differnt. He broke up with me one time because of my jelousy and iv changed , he talks to any girl he wants and i dont really get mad and if i do i keep it to my self. Its like [ we're ] not happy anymore. I mean we love each other but its just not FUN and AMAZiNG like it use to be . Im not ready to end this relationship , sometimes it just doesnt seem like he cares too much its always me doing this and worring about that ya know . I just want ways to get it back to the old " us " , but everytime we say we will do it, never works =( . Please , he's my first love . Im going to talk to him about it because i really want to know if he wants us to be together .
Tell me what to do , please . (link)
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First off I'm not going to tell you what to do I am going to give you advise to take action to. Things in relationships ALWAYS change you don’t get the fun filled charger every time you hang out and that’s because you are use to it. They say once you get over the butterflies of a new relationship what keeps you together is the love. If you get mad or jealous always be honest in a nice way never make it an argument. But, do not keep things bottled up because when you let it go and tell him its always you being mad. Just letting loose on him all at once isn’t fair to him. If something bothers you let him know. Calmly discus it so he doesn’t do it as much. He does care but he isn’t going to be the same as it was in the beginning. He shows it in a different way because you aren’t just starting the relationship so you don’t have to flirt like you use to. its more like he is your best friend because you have been growing together the past year. so when he shows you that he cares it is different then it was in the beginning. If he didn’t love you he wouldn’t be with you. but he will always be interested in making new friends which include girls and that’s no problem. because your not going to stop talking to guys just because you have a boyfriend. the couples that get married are the ones that don’t get jealous. because you will make friends of the opposite sex your whole life. If he makes a friend that is a girl who is to say she wont become one of your best friends. I dated a boy 2 years and we broke up because i wouldn’t stop getting upset and i never even knew why i was mad. it was always something small and its not worth it. if something is upsetting you i will give you this advise. honestly count to ten sounds stupid but when you count thing 'why am i honestly upset' and by the end you will relies it is pointless. if something is honestly coming between the both of you just talk to him about it. but never make something a fight. nothing needs to ever be a fight. we are young and having a good time.
pretty much if you are a jealous person (as i am)you will always be that way but you only are because you love him. if you didn’t love him you would get jealous. and he needs to know that. but he needs to know you wont let it effect you in your relationship. he needs to be able to make friends of any sex its just natural. once that is realized you will make it as far as you want to go.
if you need anything else email me
fuzzballbob@msn.com
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