All my life i've only wanted to help others, to give advice, to be noticed for helping. I've been through very many situations and I feel that I found many answers and paths to overcome problems we face through daily life and love lifes. I want to create a loving world.
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Age: 18
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Im 21 , i have a stressful job, husband is in the military, everything points to stress however some opinions would be be helpful. We have unprotected sex, no pull out methods, in hopes We could have a child someday. The both of us have little chance due to some medical factors. Though i Havent had a period since july 26 and it is sept 21 considering are chance are low i have lately, the past 3 weeks, been experancing lower abdomal pains, like periods. I have been unusually hunry, and very sick and nauseous if i dont eat often. All i want to do is sleep. My breast are Not sore (just my nipples are) i Havent had any spotting, no back pains, and have been very emotional. At this point becas i have a stressful LIFE, and because We want a child, i feel i mighht, as crazy as it sounds, be "thinking" myself pregnant. Or other words, its all in my head. I have Not yet taken a test, in fear of just disapointment. Can some giv me opinions ? (link)
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Take the test, though the fear of being disapointed might happen, you can always try and try again. My opinion would be that yes your very stressed and you don't want to be in this position due to the fact that you can actually fake a pregnancy, your body will actually create its own baby by creating a sac of water in place of the baby, yes it is possible. That's only under strong conditions and you don't want to get there. You have a full life ahead of you. Don't stress yourself out because of these medical factors, you can overcome them and I believe your husband believes the same. It's about trying again and again. Until you make it happen. You need to eat healthy, snack on healthy alternatives such as a banana, apple, kiwi, cantelope. It will make you remain stable and help reduce the nausea.
Don't worry about being emotional, everyone is emotional due to stress, though some might not show it. You will face stressful moments later on but remember it's about learning to overcome and adapt to stress, try and try again, you will be a mother in no time.
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I like this guy , his friends absolutely hate my guts . He asked me out , i still haven't answered and its been 3 days .. I feel heaps bad . But the only reason i haven't answered is because i don't want to get him in shit with his friends because he's going out with me . I told him this , he told be that be doesn't care what they think .. But i know he does. And girlfriends come and go , but friends stay forever . I don't think he really realizes what he might be putting on the line :$$
HELP ! (link)
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As a guy I can tell you this, a real friend would support him into going out with you. Yes, girlfriends come and go, it's life, what can you do. Im glad he told you he doesn't care about what his friends think because he shouldn't at all. If you really like this guy then respond to him with smiles and love, say yes! He will accept you for who you are, not what his friends think. The love between you to will be stronger and more stable than anything that his friends say. Tell him yes! Follow your heart.
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Ok so im like 13 now and i think i got a promblem. i love sex..... like at night i take my hairbrush and shove it up my you know what. and now its all i think about! i want to stop but i don't know how.
Last week i went to a sleep over and i slept with a guy(naked) in a sleeping bag. and (this part is gross) i let him finger f***k me. He say he loved me and now any time i see him he wants to invite to his room. So (i was not thinging) i said yes! the next thing i knew we were doing it. he still likes me, but i fell sooooo bad. i mean i can't even stand next to him (or any guy) without feeling horny! I don't what to do!! so, am i a slutty freak? (link)
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Your not a slutty freak, your coming to the age in which your body responds sexually. The best way to overcome it is having self control, the moment you feel arroused, counter-act it by doing something completely different, such as listen to music! At night yes, if you feel the need to masturbate then go ahead and do so. The first thing though that you need to do is become more self controlling, learn to react the right way when it happens, becoming more self controlled will help you later in the long run in your life. Loving sex isnt a bad thing, but not being able to control yourself is a bad thing.
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Sixteen, female, from the United States.
I've known I've had a few "mental issues" for the past four years. I used to be one of the self-mutilating crowd, mainly because of a past boyfriend who was suicidal and tried to get me to go along with him. I used to be extremely angsty, whiny, all that shit. Luckily, I grew out of that side. However, the beatings I was giving myself didn't stop.
I've told my parents multiple times in the past that I had a weird thing for pain. They caught me cutting my wrists once, and my mother put on her caring face and tried to help me through it. She hired a therapist to talk to me about it, who honestly didn't help a single bit when it came to the self-mutilation thing, but was at least there to listen to everything else. The understanding and kindness lasted for about a week or so, then everything pretty much went back to normal.
My parents aren't horrible parents; they're just a little...uninvolved. My mom only talks about her life at work or with her side of the family, my dad doesn't talk much at all, and my sister's too young to understand much. The biggest attention I get from them is A., when I do something -really- good, or B. when I do something "horrible" (forgetting to wash dishes, making sarcastic comments, etc.), and they feel like screaming at me about it. In that kind of situation, they pretty much completely forget about my condition and start calling me worthless, stupid, over-dramatic, etc. To the point where I usually just storm out and take it out on myself downstairs. They have to know what I'm doing down in my room, they've seen the scars, and yet they pretty much ignore most of it when we have to interact again.
I feel better when I'm in pain. I've already realized this for a while now. When I'm hurting myself in any way, I'm not often doing it because I'm depressed. It distracts me, it keeps me clear-headed, and often, I enjoy the feeling. Kind of like listening to music or eating chocolate, only a little more...extreme. But sometimes, I really do fear that if I go too far or lose control, I'll end up hurting myself or someone I love.
I'm already slightly unstable enough as it is, because I had a -lot- of shit go down with a past boyfriend a few months ago; when he found I was hurting myself, he flat out yelled at me to stop it or else he would never see me again (although he ended up leaving me anyway a week later for another girl). That kind of sent me over the edge. Not the edge as in "I became depressed and sad and suicidal", but more of "I feel like burning something and laughing hysterically".
Anyways. I don't have anyone to talk to about this "problem"; all my friends think I'm kidding (literally, I've told them about six times in all seriousness and they sluffed it right off), and I don't have any family members that are close to me. I'm not hurting myself enough to make me (or, apparently, my parents) worry, but it is starting to interfere with my everyday life, and I know that things like this just escalate from there.
Advice, anyone? I would ask for internet hugs, too, but that might be asking too much. D: (link)
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We'll here is a hug for you c(^-^c)! The pain is depressing I know, I went through the same phase and I came out strong. No therapist is going to help you, they can only guide you through certain paths, you just need to know which path is right for you. I myself use to have parents yell at me and tell me things no child wishes to hear. The best way to overcome it is to quickly and effectively barricade yourself with something that will get your mind of the self mutilation, such as you said you loved listening to music. You need to help yourself by becoming yourself, but a better you. Help around the house, wash the dishes the moment your told, your parents are there to put you in the right path. Just listen to them and they will listen to you.
Create a way to counter-act the problem, create a time in the day to just be you! Feel the need to yell in a pillow at the top of your lungs if needed. The joy of hurting yourself will eventually become something worse, like you said, you might burn something or become mentally unstable, you need to ask yourself, is what your doing worth the risk to hurting others, it may not feel like it, but everyone will be effected if something terrible happened to you. You have the will power to change your life around, you just need to find the strength to pull it out and use it to make your life happy and joyful again.
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How do I get a guy I like to respond to my texts? (link)
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The best way to get him to respond is through simple caring questions, such as "How was your day!" or "What did you do today!" Don't be pushy, be caring, to increase the chances of him liking you, talk to him in person more often, don't seem stalker like, but talk to him about what he likes, interest him by being interested in him! You'll be having him call you in no time!
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I'm a 14 year old girl from Australia and right now i feel absolutely fucking terrible. i weigh 105 kilo's. its utterly disgusting. i cant even look myself in the mirror with out being repulsed. i dont even look at photo's from a year ago. when i was still over weight but not THIS big. i just want to know if there is some sort of diet that you can go on that will help you lose weight FAST.
P.s. its pretty fucked when you live in a country with THE BEST beaches and you cant even where a bikini. or any sort of swim suit because your gross looking. (link)
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A very effective way to lose weight is through a Liquid Diet and exercise. Another way is to try to kick up your metabolism by eating 5 small meals a day, or there was a diet I used but is very challenging called the Warrior's Diet, which includes all day activity and eat as much as you want at night as long as its colorful [Vegetables]. You are 80& of what you eat, and the best way to lose the kilos is through hard work and determination. In no time you'll be showing everyone up in a bikini (: I believe in you!
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A while ago I asked for some ideas for my boyfriends 18th birthday gift. I'v decided to go for the ID Bracelet but i don't know what to get engraved on it?
Ideas??
Thanks :) (link)
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Well depending on what he loves to hear the most from you would be a great idea, such as "I love you [his name]! Or go with just putting his name on it! Its the love you put in your gift that makes it special (:
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