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Hi, ive just been to my doctor and had a pap smear he told me i have an ulcerated uterus. Could u tell me what this is? How it happens also what happens now, and what it means for me as im currently trying for a baby. Is it still possible to concieve. Im very confused as he just said he would send me to a gyno which could take months. Any information would be great help (link)
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Yes you can still conceive. They'll probably tell you can't, but believe me, you can.
I was told, vehemently and finally that I could never have a baby because I had an uncreated uterus with fibroid tumors. They were so sure about it that I never bothered to use protection with my then boyfriend, now husband.
After my son was born the doctors all said "Ok, now you have your miracle baby, cherish him forever because that was medically impossible and will never happen again".
After my daughter was born they said "Well that's certainly very peculiar and you got very lucky, but it's ipossible you will ever get pregnant again".
After my next daughter was born I just went and got a IUD lol
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I am 22,female and I am from India.I am deeply in love with my boyfriend and we ve been in a relationship since the past 2 yrs.I lost my virginity to him and these days we have started having fights over many issues which is making me feel guilty for loosing my virginity to him?I dont want this feeling.How do I get rid of this feeling?I cant stop making out because I dont want to hurt him on this too... (link)
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Never regret sweety.
Even if your relationship ends tomorrow, you gave your virginity to a man you loved at the time. At that time, it was beautiful, so it will always be beautiful.
Nothing last forever, all we can do is appreciate the beauty we have at today so we can take those memories with us for the rest of our time.
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Although I am sure I'll get a lot of controversy for this, I am a senior in high school and my boyfriend graduated last year. We've been dating for a year. Our relationship has always had ups and downs like any relationship. We have really bad fights, fake break ups, and then make up. Everything is okay in the end.
Lately I've been feeling indifferent about the whole relationship. While he's usually sitting at home and playing videogames all day, I'm at school trying hard to get into college. No matter how hard I try to motivate him, he never seems to want to get a future. I tell him I can't have a future with him if he doesn't try. He says, "I'm trying." He's been saying that for maybe 6+ months now. I don't want to be selfish or inconsiderate, because I know how hard it is to find a job, but I remind him how relatively easy it is to get into college. He never tried his senior year because "it's expensive". I'm dirt poor and so is my family, yet with the right research, I am already applied for college.
Another thing that is getting to me is that he doesn't seem to try in our relationship anymore, either. We go on dates every month or so. He doesn't really go out of his way for me anymore. He drives far to come visit, but he doesn't really ever give me gifts or flowers or anything like he used to. He used to surprise me just because.
I told him he changed, but he says, "No. You have." We fight about it constantly because it makes me feel unloved, and he always puts it back on me, saying I never do anything for him. Okay, I get mad and I am a bit selfish sometimes, but I do a lot for him. I've called several people to get him into college and get him a job. I get him really nice things when I usually don't even have the money for it. I do my best to show him how much he means to me everyday. He doesn't even cuddle with me or kiss me anymore. I barely ever hear "I love you". I only hear it when we fight.
Please help. I just really don't know what to do anymore. This relationship is just dying out so fast... (link)
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Honestly it sounds to me like this guy is burning out. There are a couple of factors to consider here:
1) He just got out of high school. He probably wants to take a break before diving into college. Statistically speaking, students are far FAR more likely to succeed in college if they take some downtime after high school, while students who dive into college right after high school burn out with an alarming frequency. Point of fact, you may want to take a little time off before you go to college, even if it's just a semester, because like I said, students who jump strait into college after high school suffer a truly alarming burn out rate.
2) It's possible he sees no point in going to college at all at this time. Keep in mind (assuming you're in the USA) we're living in a time when people with masters and doctorates are flipping burgers at fast food restaurants. I have a friend with a Masters of Civil Engineering, and he's working as a stock-boy at Save Mart. And while it's true that people with college degrees are likely to earn a million dollars more in their lifetimes, those statistics are taken from over a 50 year period, and do not factor in the current explosive deflation of the value of education. Yes it will pick back up, but for now, a college degree isn't worth the paper it's printed on, in fact a college degree, on average, costs as much as a house; so in the current economic climate, students graduate college already in enough debt that they could have purchased a home, with no way to pay it back because the job market is non existent. That fact is probably scaring the hell out of him. Don't take my word for it, do some independent research on the current situation with college graduates. It's very eye opening.
3) Pressuring your partner will do you no good. In fact, it will drive him further away. You're young and the race is long, you have to take time to goof off and relax a bit. If you don't, you'll end up a strung out stress addict. Taking the time to stop, think and plan your next move in life is far, far better than rushing at life head on. That's why architects can take years planning a building; it's better to plan smart now than rush to compete.
4) All relationships go through a similar period to what you're describing, where one (usually both) parties stop trying to woo the other. Usually this happens after marriage, so I'm not sure that's what's happening with you two, but it's worth considering. You admit you're sometimes a little selfish, maybe you should conciser taking HIM out on a date or initiating some couple-ey type activity yourself.
I was actually in the same position as you 15 years ago. My boyfriend had lost his job and stopped taking his college classes. Rather than let him sort out his life at his own pace while he was collecting unemployment benefits, I rode his ass hard to get a job or go back to college. My mother was telling me that he was ruining his life by taking his time, that he was being lazy and just didn't want to be responsible, and rather than trust him to be the man I knew he was, I started pressuring him. He responded by getting a job. In San Diego, 8 hours from me because that was the first company to respond to his job searches. That job allowed him the time he needed to sort out what he wanted to do with his life, and now he's a successful chef with a loving family, that doesn't include me.
Ultimately my advice is to back off and let him work out whatever he needs to work out. Don't stop trying to be affectionate, just stop pressuring him and just be there for him. Even though it feels like it, and they tell you in high school that there is a huge rush, trust me, there really isn't, and it's not worth losing a long term relationship by pressuring him in this economic climate.
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how long does it take to die with internal bleeding to the head? (link)
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It depends greatly on how quickly you are bleeding, where you are bleeding from and weather or not the blood has a place to flow or if pressure is building up.
For example, if the membrane around your brain is bleeding, drop everything and go to the emergency room. If you're bleeding from your ear, you'll be fine, just get to the doctors asap.
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Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and we're in the 8th grade. We've been having trouble with coming up with open-ended questions and good conversation starters. The other day, we were walking outside after school and I said guess what and he said what and I said u now have a free ticket to ask me anything and he said I think I'll hold my ticket.. ? What did he mean by that? Does he not have feelings for me anymore? Should I dump him? (link)
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That means you put him on the spot and his mind blanked, so he's going to 'spend his ticket' when he thinks of something. Keep in mind, you can pretty much guarantee he wants to explore your life, and giving him that ticket is pretty much a blank check to do just that. There are a million questions he wants to ask (most of them dirty) but he has to gauge which questions will be offensive to you and which ones won't, and how to phrase those questions. Asking "Who have you cheated on me with?" is a VERY different question than "Would you ever cheat on me?"
I don't understand why you would even think to ask the 'should I dump him' question unless you were already looking for an excuse to do so, or he really scared you by not asking you a question. If you are looking for an excuse to dump him, just do so instead of dragging it out. If you're scared by his apparent lack of interest in asking a question, don't worry, deciding which question he wants to ask you is in the forefront of his mind.
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i've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months & hes 16, im 15.
we've gone out 2 other times one time 1 month into the relationship & we broke up but got back together the next day then 3 months into the relationship broke up & got back together 3 months later, since last year.. and now we're 4 months. hes not the best boyfriend he's made me cry A LOT. hes not the sweet type, only when he wants to be. we've had so many issues in our relationships but we've gone through every single thing and made us the strong couple we are today. hes perfect to me though, hes sweet, a jerk , respectful , caring , and uhm sexual ? yeah sexual .. i find all those characteristics perfect in a boyfriend but we're all diffrent with diffrent tastes in men right ? well hes always respected me & never done anything to me if i didnt want him to .. he always touches my boobs & sucks on them sometimes. i've also given him a hand job before. he started telling me he wanted to have sex. im a virgin & hes well experienced.. :/ as in hes not a virgin but he hasnt had sex with a lot of girls, erm i dont think ? i feel like he deserves this though but whenever he upsets me it makes me question if i should give myself up to him, what if i get pregnant ? what if he uses me ? what if i regret it ? plus i get so lazy to shave down there & im not sure if he minds that :o & some days i have oder like a fishy scent which makes me curios cause i cleanse myself very good down there i trim my hairs and shave when it gets too bushy, im not sure how to handle that & im not sure if i should have sex! (link)
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Firstly, don't ever have sex until you feel it's the right time. Men don't understand that our first time is a thing we will always revisit in our memories. Wait, and let it be perfect. Try to explain this to him, but don't be surprised if he rolls his eyes or otherwise dismisses your feelings on this issue. Men usually don't come to understand that women have different feelings and needs than them until their 30's (that's why in many cultures men weren't married till they were older).
Secondly, you're going to have to deal with his sexual frustration somehow. That's just a fact. And it's going to get worse as he get's older till around 22. Depending on how you feel about the nature of oral Vs. vaginal sex (in other words, if you feel that oral sex 'doesn't count', like most women do), I would suggest going down on him. Giving a frustrated male oral sex when you don't feel ready to have vaginal sex can really smooth things over. One of my best friends when I was your age kept her boyfriend satisfied that way till she finally got her perfect first time.
As for your vaginal hygiene, the best way to test that is to just Ask him what he likes best. If you're too embarrassed to do that, wait for a night when you're feeling into it and let him get to third base. Don't just ride the sensations though, pay attention to his reactions. As for the smell, if you're keeping clean it's nothing to worry about, we all have our own scent and we are often disgusted by our own scent while our lovers love the way we smell. If you're clean you should be fine, but let me give you some tips on that scent: Don't douche. Douching actually makes the smell worse as your vagina tries to flush all the foreign matter out (water, solution, whatever), always make sure you wipe front to back after going number 2 (this may seem obvious, but a shameful number of women don't realize that wiping back to front is unhealthy and contributes to foul odor, so it bears mentioning), and every once in a while, use a boric acid pill to flush your vagina out. I know that sounds VERY wierd but google "boric acid vaginal suppositories", you'll be amazed at what you find.
Yes there's a possibility he's using you. That's a risk you're going t have to decide for yourself if he's worth taking sweetie... That's a risk with every man you will ever meet, and sadly, there are only two ways of finding out if he is or not: Either have sex with him when you feel ready, or put him off till he gives up to see if he values you more than he wants sex (you shouldn't wait too long though, even Gandhi had his limits).
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so my boyfriend and me have been going out for 5 months now. and we never fight its great. cause were both really chill :) .... but .... :( **iam 16 years old btw. (female)
(now i kknow this is going to sound bad please dont judge it just happen.... i feel aweful and i regret it but please dont judge with what i am about to say.)
--> so i really do love and care for him and he tells me he feels the same way. but his personality is always humor not to serious just likes to joke and have fun which i dont mind i find it amusing :p and im kinda the same so it works great. but last night i was sleeping over at his friends house with him and we were all in his friends bed. (me, my boyfriend and his friend) and were all pretty close haha but jokingly to piss off / amuse his friend as a joke me and my boyfriend started having sex. in the bed. and his friend lying right there (dont judge i know it sounds bad) but to be honest i only do this stuff cause he tells me to and i just wanna make him happy. i will admit im kinda whipped. but anyways so then as a joke he told his friend to join in. and hes always joked about 3 some. / sharing me (jokingly) and we had something like this happen before but not that bad just kiss. (same guy) as a dare. with him there. and so anyways he kept telling me to. and they both kept telling me to and to be honest i felt really pressured. and so i gave in. at first it was like jokingly i let him fuck me. :( with my boyfriend right there in the bed. and i just did it cause i felt pressured to by them. and my boyfriend just laughed at first and made little comments. then lied there and \"slept\" per say but i know he was awake but i dont know why i let his friend keep going. i honestly just didnt know what to say i wanted it to stop but i didnt have the guts to stop him. i was frozzeen. i didnt enjoy his friend at all i just wanted to be with my boyfriend. :( anyways i think this time it made him mad. cause he left the room. got up and walked out. and i was left there with his friend . and his friends like i think he cares this time... im like well then why did he tell me to? :( ugh!!! anyways i got up and left to and went to the couch away from them both and just cried all night. think im stupid and just fucked up how could i let this happen. now hes mad :/ which isnt what i wanted i really love and care for him i just wanted to make him happy. not mad. i did what he said i went along with his joke. and anyways his friend told me this ....
\"yeah he never admits to liking you and or any of his girlfriends and he wont ever admit it to us cause he just is hiding his emotions but i can tell as his bestfriend he really does care and like you cause of what he got you for christmas and the fact that what we just did effected him (it apparently never effected him in the past) but he must really like you cause he never spends money on his girlfriends and in the past hes onlydated a girl about a month or two and they fight all the time and we have been together 5 (almost 6) months and no fighting. and the fact he is moody and u effect his moods shows he cares.
(but the next morning he just walked by and left the house. he didnt say goodbye or anything to me....)
so basically im just asking. was last nights incident proof that he cares about me cause it effected him to see me with another guy? cause it never used to effect him apparently when he had a 3some in the past. and is what his friend saying true? or did i just fuck up and loose a guy i really care about :( i dont know what to do. or should i dump him cause he is treating me like a trophy and has no respect for me? :/ :( like i dont know what to think anymore. i do not want to loose him though cause all our friends are the same. i just dont know if im being treated like a trophy and used. or if he really cares and hes just starting to show it. please help :( sorry for it being so long :/ (link)
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Most of the answers here are all about how you should dump this guy. They have clearly been hurt in the past and aren't concerned with reconciliation so much as hurting someone back.
First things first: You need to understand that every guy you will ever be with, EVER is going to have possessive or jealous feelings about you. its simple biology. How they react to those feelings will vary wildly, but it will still be there. Your boyfriend most likely truly thought it would be a great experience for all three of you, and chances are, if he had been into it and supportive, you probably would have loved it too, if nothing else, for seeing him so into it. But, given how his best friend said he feels for you so strongly, this time it hit him hard.
Many more men than will admit love to see their women with other lovers, but most aren't ready for the roller-coaster of emotion when it happens. That sounds like the case with your BF; He wanted the three of you to get closer, wanted to see you wrapped up in ecstasy, but got hit by the jealousy harder than he was prepared for, and (in typical guy fashion) projected those feelings onto you rather than dealing with them himself.
I've been through this roller-coaster before sweetie with my husband of 15 years, it CAN ruin a relationship, but it doesn't have to. You just need to wait for him to calm down, be supportive in the mean time. He's going to yell at you, just be calm and quiet through it, then when he's in a head space to be more rational, point out that he asked you to and you only did it for him. Keep pointing that out and calmly say you are sorry it went badly, but you only did it because he asked you to. Eventually, his rational mind will kick in and he'll calm down, and likely ask you for a threesome again (again, WAY more men than will admit to love seeing their women with another man, usually so they can have you afterwards and 'reclaim' you) DO NOT SAY 'you pressured me into it' unless you want him to feel angrily guilty about it.
Good luck!
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