about

Hey my name is Ellie :) I'm 16 years old from Staten Island, New York. I'm a pretty laid back and nice person :D or well.. at least I think so lol. So feel free to ask me anything, I'll try my best to answer your questions. If I don't know the answer, I'll do some research and send you all the links I can find to help you. Also feel free to add my aim or msn account, I talk to anyone. Thanks!

advice

ok so lately theres alot of times where im in a convo with someone then we stop talkin about that and its akward and hard to start convo's
any suggestions for good conversation starters or things i could talk about would be appreciated

Lol I get that a lot too. But just ask a lot of questions.. Like what they like to do, their favorite music, movies, ect. Eventually you'll find something you two have in common and it'll start a conversation. Like say you both like soccer... Then you two could talk about the position you play, different games you played in, games you've watched, ect. It's really easy :) Good luck and have fun!


- Ellie

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when i recieved oral sex from my boyfriend it was that great.i wonder why please help.

When having oral sex, the guy tends to stimulate the clit (or clitoris) while doing it. The clitoris has over 3000 nerve endings. So it's like this unbelievably good feeling. But be careful because it could also be this unbelievably painful feeling if he stimulates it too much or too rough. But, that's a different story. Hope I helped :)


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Hello, Im not sure this is the right place to put this.
But you know.
I want some pleasure.
Ive done.. you know.. fingering before..
but its not that great.

How do i make it sooo good for me?

HELP.

Hm... well there's a bunch of sex toys you could use.. like vibrators and stuff. I don't get off by fingering.. I don't know why. But you could stimulate the clit and it'll feel better than fingering and you might even reach an orgasm that way. Hope I helped :)


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hii

well heres the story its pretty long.
last week was the last week of the holidays and i was chatting to my friend on the net and she just randomly says to f*#k off and that she hates me and never was really my friend. so i'm like really cofused and thinks she just going through some troubles at home so i leave it. later that week i try talking to her again and the same thing happens but this time she starts telling me that no one likes me and i'm annoying and to stay away from her and her friend who are also my friends. i got really up set and cried.Then school started and i styaed away from her as much as possible which is hard cause i'm in her roll call and i'm in the same group as her. Then all my friends started sitting down the back with her and stuff and some of my other friends told me that she was saying stuff about me and saying that i started it all and that she wanted to start a punch up with me and stuff. then last night her and another girl from my school started a convo with me and started like harassing me calling me a sped and just making fun og me basically. i think i'm going to tell my teacher whats going on. i saved the 2 convo's she had with me calling a hoe and stuff.I just don't know what to do about my friends like all my school friend from my group hate me. what should i do

p.s sooooo sorry for how long it is
xoxo thaks for the help

I had the same problem when I was in 9th grade. I had met this girl who was a "trouble maker" but made really good friends with her in 8th grade. Then the summer, I started hanging out with more people and she got jealous. She started to cuss at me and everything. Then when school started, she had this other friend (who used to be my friend) and they both would call me slut, whore, hoe and try to spit on me. I told my teachers and everything. But it never really stopped. I even went to the cops because I had enough. Nothing was done then either. Eventually she just gave up and ended up in rehab and thats how it ended. But for you I would say to actually go and tell someone. Maybe your school will actually listen to you and not blow you off like mine did. As for your other friends, Tell them that what they're doing upsets you and that they really have no reason to hate you since it's between you and that ONE girl. Not you and the entire group. You could also try telling them what really happened but more than likely they'll still believe her and it's a lot of unneeded drama. But if telling someone doesn't work, Just try to wait it out a while and when she's alone (in person like at school or something) approach her and ask her whats going on and why she doesn't like you out of nowhere. She used to be your friend so I don't think she'll blow you off in person. Well I hope everything works out for you! good luck!!

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My left labia is red and hurts with pressure (i cant cross or close my legs) my clitoris is also a little swollen. I am sexually active and am wondering what this is. Please help?????

Well I'm not a doctor, so I can't give you an exact diagnosis. But I will still try to help you by offering some advice on what to do and what it POSSIBLY could be. My first suggestion would be to see a Gynecologist ASAP. But my nonprofessional diagnosis would be that it's probably either infected by bacteria, you have yeast infection that has just started (if white stuff that smells like beer or bread started to eject from your vagina, then it's probably that...but that normally wouldn't effect the labia much...) But don't rely on what I tell you. You might not have a yeast infection. Do as I said before and see the doctor. Sorry I couldn't help all that much lol but good luck and I hope you get better!


- Ellie

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okay so im in ninth grade and i absolutly HATE my high school. it is giant, my class has about 1000 people in it right now, so that means my whole school has about 4000.
i hate being around alot of people, and i hate large crouds, so abviously this is not a good environment.
i really really dont want to stay at it, but i dont know how or where or if i can transfer.
and the fact that i have like two friends, one of which is transferring to a private school next week, and my ex best friend is in one of my classes and 'picks on me' the whole time and the councelor cant change my schedule, does not help the situation!!!
ive looked up schools, i really want to go to a private school, but my parents are divorced and we dont have like any money right now, so that dream is basically crushed.
i dont know what school would be good for me. i know i want a small learning evironment, and i have alot of learning disabilities, some of which include severe adhd and dyslexia, so i dONT know what school would take me.
i live in austin texas, so i need a school there. i was looking at round rock christian academy, but the site is skrewed up so i dont know...
so, i need suggestions for schools in austin. and most importantly, i dont know how to tell my mom that i want to switch schools! im really bad talking to people and i dont know how to bring it up or tell her, cause she already thinks im messed up (she thinks if your emo that your messed up).
so any suggestions?!?!?!?!?!?!

anything will help.....THANKS IN ADVANCE :)

Well my suggestion would be to go to your school counselor and tell him/her that you want to transfer and if they can give you any good schools that would accept you. See here in New York, we have an Alternative school. It's for bad kids or kids that have social phobia or kids that have a hard time learning. The entire school consists of about 50 kids.. if that. It's a really good learning enviornment and the teachers are really nice. Maybe ask about a school like that in your area. And about telling your mom, Just tell her that you're having problems in school with certain people and that you don't like being in such a big school. She'll understand. Hope I helped and good luck!

- Ellie

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14/female
ok, i dont think a guy had ever liked me,well aleast i never knew it so i want a guy to like me. any tips or ideas?? i know flirting is a sure way but after a while you have to step it up....

Well there are tons of magazines that have articles like "10 easy ways to get a guy to notice you" blah blah. Personally, I think you should just be yourself and do what feels natural to you. Don't try too hard that you're humiliating yourself every time you're around guys, Just go with the flow and things will just seem.. right. You know? But yeah flirting is a sure way to get a guy to like you. It shows that you're interested. Plus if a guy already likes you and you flirt with him then it'll let him know that it's okay to make the move. There are other ways to get a guy to like you as well. Ask questions about him. Like whats his favorite music, movies, tv shows, hang out spots, ect. It's an easy way to find something you two both have in common. From there you should begin to build a friendship which if you play your cards right, will eventually turn into a relationship and so on. So I hope I helped and good luck ;)


- Ellie

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When my b.f. and I started dating, I knew that he had dated several girls before me, and I asked him for all of the pictures he had of him w/ ex's. He willingly obliged, and b/c I tend to be a little bit jealous, I ripped them up, used the toilet on them, and flushed them away. He never asked me if I kept them or destroyed them and I didn't say a thing about what I did. Now one of his ex's killed herself...and he asked me for the pics of him and her back? What do I do now? What do I tell him?

Oh wow... That is brutal. Well you should be completely honest with him. Tell him what you did and apologize for it. Lying will only dig the hole deeper. Just tell him how sorry you are for what you did and that it was only because you were jealous. I'm sure he'll understand. But if he doesn't, Then just let him cool down about it and then try to talk to him about it. I hope everything works out for you two and I hope I helped somewhat lol. Good luck!


- Ellie

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im trying to connect two of my pictures together but i dont know how

Trying to connect two of your pictures for what? Myspace? Alright well if it is for myspace then there's two ways. Depending how you want to put them. If you want to put them next to each other (with no space) on your profile, There's a code to do it. < img src ="URL TO IMAGE" > (Replace the URL TO IMAGE with the url to the image lol duh. But you can use photobucket or tinypic to get that) or if thats not what you're talking about and you want some form of photoshop, Here are a bunch of sites I've found...


with image editor like Gimp you can place any image around each other with use of layers and filters, and also create a gif,
http://gimp-win.sourceforge.net/stable.html
if you wanted to have an animated gif, you could use try Beneton Movie Gif
http://software.benetonfilms.com/Beneton_Movie_GIF.php
and if you were looking for a motion viewer there are online slides ,
Slide
http://www.slide.com/
Picturetrail
http://www.picturetrail.com/
RockYou.com
http://www75.rockyou.com/

online tools,
LunaPic Online Photo Editor
http://www.lunapic.com/editor/?
Online Image Editor
http://online-image-editor.com/
GIFWorks.com! Free Online GIF Tools
http://www.gifworks.com/image_editor.htm...
Photobucket.com
http://photobucket.com/
Flickr - Photo Sharing
http://www.flickr.com/
Gickr,Create animated Gifs online
http://gickr.com/



Hope I helped :)


- Ellie

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How much will it take for my cherry to pop? becuase im not even sure that i have one becuase when i masturbate and finger my self i can stick it super far up and nothing pops?

Do i just not even have one?

Your "Cherry" is called the Hymen. It's a stretch of skin that covers the vaginal hole from the inside of the vagina. When you have sex, It breaks. Which is why they call it "Poppin' the cherry" it sometimes bleeds, hurts, ect. But Some girls (especially those into rough sports) have already broken their hymen doing other activities besides sex. Like horse back riding, biking, ect. So maybe you've already broken your hymen earlier on. Keep in mind that when you break the hymen, sometimes it doesn't bleed or hurt or anything. Also keep in mind that just because your hymen broke due to other activities, it doesn't mean you're no longer a virgin. But I won't get into what makes someone a virgin or not because you didn't ask that lol. Well I hope I helped :)


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ok so im talking to this guy. he is known to be a player some what. not really a player but like he will talk to girls and jus drop em and go to the next one. i have talked to him before and he did that to me and we are now talking again. but this time it seems like he's changed. like at first he acted the same way but now he seems really genuine and wants to hang out all the time and tells me he likes me and cares about me which he has never told me before.
should i believe him or still believe hes player?
i know thats not much decription but .....

Well time changes and so do people. Maybe he's changed for the better, or maybe he hasn't. It really depends on if you like him enough to go through what he put you through last time. Not saying he will, Just saying that you should do what you think will be better for you. Hope I helped :)


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i wanted to dye like just a strip of my hair blonde but i dont know how besides like a whole hair dying kit which would be a waste. so i wanted to know if theres anyway i can dye my hair with like bleech or somethingg

Thanksss

There are no kits that you can buy so you can only do a test strip, I checked lol. But it's better to buy the kit you're going to use and test it using that, so it's the same chemicals. If you're planning to dye your hair with hair dye and not bleach, bleach wouldn't be able to tell you if the hair dye will harm your hair or not. It's a different chemical. So what I'm saying is, If you did test your hair with bleach and it was safe on your hair, doesn't mean that the hair dye will be safe as well. It might be a waste of money but you're going to have to buy the full kit to do a test strip. Hope I helped :)


- Ellie

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16/m.

K to start off, my girlfriend of two weeks broke up with me about three weeks ago this friday (aka the week after homecoming..). I took it as a low blow because the monday after she broke up with me she had a new boyfriend (WTF?!) I was infuriated, and he isn't the nicest of guys (pot head). ANYWAYS, I got over it and I started to like this girl who has liked me for a while now. And I asked her out and we're currently dating. Im just wondering if it was too early for me to get back into a relationship? I mean the girl Im dating now is amazing and I wouldn't give her up for anyone, but was me rushing into another relationship a bad decision?

Some people move on faster than others. It really just depends on when you feel you're ready to move on to another person. But just make sure it's what you really want and that you're not just doing it to get your ex girlfriend jealous. Using people is never okay. Hope I helped :)


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How can you tell if u have lice and not dandruff?

Well lice looks completely different than dandruff. Dandruff is white flakes caused by not rinsing all the shampoo out of your hair, Lice are tiny bugs that are typically black from drinking blood (unless they're just hatched then they're much tinier and kind of brownish looking). But you'll feel them crawling around and stuff, Where as Dandruff just itches and it comes out of your hair when you scratch your head. Lice don't.. But if you think you have lice, Then I'd suggest asking a parent or guardian to check your head for you. Hope I helped :)


- Ellie

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what are the first signs of being pregnant? when do they usually start appearing?

Early signs of pregnancy would be:


Nausea
Missed period
Sore or tender breasts
Odd feelings in the abdomen
Lower back pain
Tiredness (a need for extra sleep)
Weight gain
Change of appetite
Sensitivity to certain scents (lotion, body spray)
Throwing up
Darkening around the nipple (theres another word for it I'm just not sure)


and the earliest is about 4 weeks pregnant or right after you've missed your period.. But every woman is different.. some don't have any symptoms while others have them all and start as early as a week into their pregnancy. Hope I helped :)


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ok i fingered my girl friend..... problem is i might have had semon or pre cum on my fingers.... is there a chance she could be pregnant because she is a week and a half late starting her period.

It's possible. Tell her to get a pregnancy test or to see her doctor. Also, if she isn't pregnant, Discuss with her about getting on birth control. It'll help in these types of situations. Hope I helped :)


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ok so this guy and i were messing around and we ended up having sex. well he didnt have a condom but im on birth control (yaz). but im also on antibiotics which affect the birth control. so one of his friends was coming so we stopped cuz we didnt want anyone to know. so he didnt cum but could i be pregnant because i have been really tired and i've started to feel sick.

i just want to know if its possible to get pregnant if he didnt cum

Well since you're on Yaz, It's a slim chance of you being pregnant. But since you've also said your medication effects the birth control, There's still a chance you could be. Also pills are only about 95 or 97% effective. I could be wrong on the percents though. But anyway, To answer your question, Yes it's still possible to become pregnant even if he hasn't officially ejaculated (cummed). When a guy gets excited during sex, He lets out pre-cum. Which still consists of sperm. So it's possible to become pregnant. If you still experience some symptoms and have missed your period, Take a pregnancy test. It's the only way to know for sure. Hope I helped :)



p.s.
Since your medication is effecting your birth control, You should really see your doctor and ask about an alternative to the birth control you're taking now. Or even change the medication you are taking.


-Ellie

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ok its October 10 and the end of my period was October 6th
on October 7th and 8th me and my boyfriend had sex, and we didn't use a condom, and he cummed inside of me. Could i be pregnant?
And when could i find out ( when do the symptoms show and when can i take a pregnancy test? ).
Please help.
Thanks!

When you take the risk of having unprotected sex, You take the risk of becoming pregnant. Doesn't matter if you've done it once or a billion times unprotected, you can still get pregnant. Right now, it's too early for you to tell if you're pregnant or not. The symptoms wouldn't start to show until as early as 4 weeks pregnant. My advice is to just wait until you've missed you period (if you miss your period) and take a test after that. You can take a pregnancy test as early as a day after your missed period. Some pregnancy tests can even detect pregnancy 5 days before your missed period. Hope I helped :)


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so just wondering, do guys like it shaved all off down there or a little bit or trimmed????

It depends on the guy and what turns him on. Some like shaved, Some like trimmed, others like it all natural and full. Just ask your partner what they like best and take it from there :) Hope I helped.


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ive given bjs n hjs before but ive never been eaten out before or fingered. i just figure it wud be awkward n i wudnt know wat to do while he did it. any advice?!?! THANX!

Well you could either join in by doing him while he's doing you OR if you're not into that, you really just have to sit back and enjoy. There's not really a guide or rules on what to do while having oral sex performed on you. My advice would be to just enjoy it and don't stress so much on what you think you're doing wrong. Hope I helped :)



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