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:Hey, im a m/16 virgin, Junior in High School
-i have never had a serious relationship, at all. When i was in 8th/9th grade or so i had a few "intimate" moments but nothing worth mentioning. Right now im quite lonely. betrayed by a few of my close friends (not really there fault, just time takes it toll) I tend to be a "friend" of many people. never have I once gotten sexually close or even talked about this to anyone.
At this point I am deperate for a sincere relationship. I am the type of person that would ask a girl out, as long as it was a 50% chance or higher I would get a "yes". But at this point I am pretty sure that not one girl would even consider me.
I'm not amazingly attractive, nor do I have the IQ of a genious. But I'm kind, smart, and caring.
I tend to question alot about life, and If a girl or friend in general cant hold there own ground, I may just lose that person from my life because I'm to damn annoying.
What should I do? I know alot of people as "friends". Not one would consider even going on a few dates with me to get to know me. I am a bit lonely and I feel that if I dont find someone soon, to at least raise me up a little higher, I might become depressed, or extremly lonely.
Since I'm a Junior I have a little more pressure/respect for my decision and I can justify what I do/am (Single/Not -Single)
How can i get what i want, a serious relationship with a great girl that will understand me. and someone who i can take an intrest in and help too (Im not selfish ^_^)
any advice at all would be great! (link)
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I understand where you are coming from. I know what it's like to be lonely and want a meaningful relationship. Don't be TOO hard on yourself, because there are girls out there that would be, if not are, interested in you.
I hate to say it - but going out of your way to search for a girl that you think will satisfy a temporary lonely feeling, may leave you more dissapointed than you had anticipated. Not because you are incapible of being seen as attractive or intelligent, but because a sincere relationship is not something you can force.
You can't rely on another person to "raise you up." Though we live in a society where who you're associated with in one way or another could increase your popularity or 'social status'... These types of things do not promise security, sincerity, or freedom from depression and sadness. In fact, dating someone for reasons other than because you truly care about them, could seriously backfire on you.
These high school years, a girlfriend, sexual intimacy, etc, may not be as important as they seem. There is more to life than the pressures of the world around you.
God bless,
Megan
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i had a crush on a guy thats treated me like shit for a year & a half now. im guessing it's best to get him out of my life, but he thinks telling me to kill myself is a funny joke & i should learn to lighten up. "/ i started ignoring him, which is working, but im wondering if i did the right thing. cause right now i feel miserable & like i will never find a guy that treats me with some kind of respect.
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You made a very mature decision when you decided to ignore him. Focusing on a reflection of another person's insecurities ( aka - his desire to say negative things towards you or just plain treat you like crap ) will not get you anywhere. It's very easy to feel like you won't find the right guy after being dissapointed this way. Us girls can be a little to dramatic and emotional sometimes - especially during boy trouble. You will find a guy that treats you with respect as long as you respect yourself first.
God bless,
Megan
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13/f
..please. helpp?
k i'm like crying right now.
so theres this guy i like alot. and i mean A LOT. i've seriously never liked anyone as much as i like him. last year he was in my class and i'm pretty sure he liked me, because even before i liked him he was always staring at me and talking to me all the time and stuff. plus his friend pretty much insinuated it. anyway, this year hes on my tea,. but he isn't in my class, which basically changes everything. he's not in ANY of my classes so really i haven't gotten a chance to talk to him since june because i'm shy so i can't just randomly walk up to people and start a conversation. but still i like gave him looks and stuff. he still seemed nervous when he was near me a little bit, or stared, i dunno its hard foor me to read boyss ugh lol.
so there's this girl who came to our school about 2 weeks ago, and shes on my team in his class. i was worried about it because i guess the guys think shes hot. so anyway, they started talking a few days ago, and now suddenly they're going out. i'm completely crushed because i really really REALLY like him and i really thought something could happen between us. i mean, they met not even 2 weeks ago and they're already going out, and i've liked him so much for almost a year. i feel like its somehow my fault because i could have done something? i don't know. but i'm seriously like wikeddd upset now, i need help. please.
thanks xo
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Guys can be tough girl, but no worries! Letting your heart break this young could be a BIG mistake! I'm a shy girl too, so I understand how you could have trouble getting this guy's attention by approaching him or starting conversation with him. Now that he is going out with this other girl - trying to interfere with that relationship most likely wouldn't help you "score any points" with either one of them. Try not to stress too much over what could have been done in the past to change how things are now. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Guys will come and go left and right. Keep an eye out, because there could be someone waiting around the corner for you.
God bless,
Megan
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female..15 years old.
OK..so i got this bf about 2 days ago.I like him but i think i would be ashamed to be out in public with him.but lets backtrack...on new year's eve my friend,her bf(david) and his friend(justin) wanted to spend the night with me so my dad let them..and me and justin hit it off well and i liked him but then i got sent off for six months and just got back 2 weeks ago.ok back on track..ok well now that i have this bf...my friends want to have the same kind of party again so me and justin are supposed to be hooking up and i like him alot but i just got this new bf and that would be mean..so should i stick with my bf or go for justin. (link)
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You might not want to keep yourself involved with a boyfriend if you are not entirely devoted to him, and you're feelings for him are not strong enough to keep you from hooking up with someone else. Maybe even ask yourself this- "Do I want a relationship, or a hook up?"
God bless,
Megan
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