Member Since: February 26, 2012
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Last Update: February 27, 2012
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me 16 bf 18
everytime my boyfriend lets me down or makes me sad he says that he is not worthy of being with me..he also says that since he cannot stop loving me the only way out is killing himself..he never wants to cause my depression or make me cry but he does..I really love him and sometimes I get extremely scared because I really don't know what he is capable of doing..I am afraid that if I don't feel the same way in the future I will be forced to stay with him because of this..what should I do? :( (link)
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You need to tell a Parent or School Counselor or Teacher about this, and then break up with him. You, at 16, do not have the ability to help this boy. He needs professional help. Do not let him make his problems your problems. The very best thing that you can do for him is to break up with him, so that he is forced to get help. BUT you need to tell someone( as stated above)about this, so that they can help decide if his family needs to be alerted to his condition and to make it known that you are scared for him-and you.
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Okay so I am married My husband got my couches for mothers day several years ago of course threw a finance company. We borrowed 1700 and owed back over 3000 yeah I know crazy. October of 2010 my husband and I split up and he traded my couches for a coon hound. yes another stupid mistake. They have the title to my van the van broke down. not worth fixing to many problems to much money in order to get another car we had to junk the van to pay for a new car. Well August of this passed year. We quit making payments because my son was diagnosed with Adhd, Separation anxiety, and Aspergers. He requires schedules, lists lots of doctor appointments and counseling. My husband started working we barley pay the bills now. I have to stay at home with children due to daycare is to high. I made contact twsice with the fiance company the first bill because they didnt tell me id be paying over 3000 back and second when I couldnt afford to pay them any more both times i was told if you dont make your monthly payment we will be contacting the police thank you. Finally Igave up told my husband when I get my income tax we would just pay it off. well now we have a court date March 13. We are supose to get our income tax back this week. I looked on where is my refund. the amount of almost 2 thousand as been taken out off my taxes that is almost the amount I owed. a little more than I owed. QUESTION how can they take me to court to pay the money if they are taking it out of my taxes?? I dont understand why I have to go to court if i paid them threw my taxes. (link)
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You have to go to Court or you automatically lose. Explain your situation to the Judge and say that you can only afford so much per month due to medical conditions in your family. He can possibly convince the Company to work out payment arrangements with you.
In the meantime, you need to find a part time job that you can do when your husband is at home. The time away from home responsibilities will do you good, and the money will help your family.
Oh, and a piece of advice...don't ever just stop making payments on any bill or commitment. It is a surefire way to get taken to Court. Send in SOME money, and talk to SOMEONE about why you can't pay, and what can be done.
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My boyfriend loves sex! I do to, don't get me wrong, but it's hard to enjoy it when it's so painful, and sadly my boyfriend loves the painful stuff. We did anal one time and I was practically screaming in pain and crying the moment it started. Not once, even when I was crying and trying to hold in the screams of pain did he stop or ask if I was alright. After that he promised he wouldn't put me through that again, but we've done it twice since then and it was the same everytime.
Then there's the "Blowjob"... I throw up every time. After he's finished I run to the bathroom to throw up what he's done to me, and he just watches me throw up from the bedroom like he's watching tv and my pain is nothing to him. I love him so so much but I don't want to have to be in pain to please him. (link)
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Stop letting yourself be treated this way and being used for sex. He does not care about you...he cares about his sexual satisfaction. Give yourself (and your body) a break, if you don't-your spirit and confidence is going to be broken as well.
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I'll get right to the point. I can't stand living anymore. Everything about my life has turned to sh*t. All my friends ditched me fir no reason and now have a new group of friends who all hate me. They continuously talk about me behind my back, give me dirty looks in the hall, and cyberbully me.I can't walk past them without seeing them whispering, staring at me, and then a sudden burst of laughter. I have mo friends that are girls. I get called a slut for hanging out with guys so much. Every day for the past two months I cut myself. I became bulimic about two weeks ago. I've. Attempted suicide twice. The only thing standing in the way of me really trying hard to kill myself is my parents and my sister. No one knows about my bulimia. The only person who knows about my cutting is my old friends because I did it even before all this sh*t happened. I'm terrified that they are going to tell somebody. My grades mainly consist of b's and c's. The only time I feel ok is when I'm acting on stage, but I had to transfer out of my performing arts class because my old friends are in it and I couldn't take their constant dirty looks and whispering and laughing. I really don't think I have anything going for me. I hate my life so much. Does anyone have advice on what I can do, besides telling my parents or my councelor about my problems? (link)
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You start believing in you! The only reason that kids are mean and hurtful is because they are desperate to fit in-and so badly don't want to be teased themselves that they start harassing and bullying others first in an attempt to keep it from happening to them.
You sound very intelligent and kind.
So now you know why they act that way, you should be able to empathize ( feel sorry) for them. They are not happy, but scared kids. You are better than that, and you need to act accordingly. No more letting other people dictate how you feel about yourself, only you have that ability.
If you are afraid of these kids then I would for sure tell someone of authority ( Parents or School), so that it is documented in case they try something to harm you or if you can't deal with them anymore. You can let them know that you want to handle it on your own, but make someone aware.
My advice on dealing with them directly is to simply ignore them, or even tell one of them while they are being cruel to you... that you know why they are doing this to you, and that it breaks your heart that they are going thru that insecurity and feel the need to fit in so badly. Kids want a victim to hurt...if you are not a victim...then they will move on due to no thrill.
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does it hurt your first time when you have sex? (link)
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Yes, it is painful. The degree of which it is painful can be determined by how comfortable you are with the person that you are with. How much you trust them, care for them, etc.
What you do need to realize is that now is the time to decide WHY you want to have sex. Although the media and the like may make it seem like sex is no big deal...it is a big deal, ecspecially the first time. You will be giving away a huge part of yourself that you can not get back. And you may regret it later on, or even right away. How will you feel if the boy no longer stays with you after you do it? It very well could happen. Then you are left feeling used after giving away something that should mean a very lot to you.
Best wishes to you, and please think this all over very well before you make a decision to have sex.
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Sometimes when Im at home, I cant see anything for a few seconds and then I can see again. It happens a lot everyday. Its been happening for a while and its gotten worse. I cant see anything but the dark for a few seconds. what is this?
sometimes when I stand up I loose all vision and get light headed. I do wear contacts. Why do I go blind sometimes?
Sometimes i got blind for a few seconds, like ill stand up and ill get this weird feeling in my head and i wont be able to see for about a second or two.
I get dizzy, cand black dots start to appear everywhere & then my ears start ringing & everything goes dark (link)
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You must see a Doctor. It could be something simple to remedy or it could be serious. Seeing your Doctor will give you the answers you need, instead of worrying and the problem getting worse.
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