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ok so im 15 and im going to a friends house this weekend and my friend invited her bf and my bf.... me and my bf were talking and he wants to have sex this weekend, hes 15 too.... im really scared and dont know what to do ive asked my friends and they just dont know what to say about it... i need advice please help me im freaking out i have so many questions like does it hurt, what if we get caught, what if something goes wrong, what if he breaks up with me the next day. please help me im soooooooo scared! (link)
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It's okay, take a deep breath.
I lost mine about a month before I turned 15. I'm now 23 and I look back and regret it. Not just because the guy broke my heart (he did), it was just because I was too young. I was simply not mature enough to handle the possible consequences. When we are 15, we believe we are so mature but we're not.
The best thing for you to do is tell your boyfriend you are not ready.
Re-read your question, only read it as if you're someone else. Pretend you are a stranger reading your question about some other girl. Does that girl sound ready to have sex?
To me, she sounds nervous, uneasy, scared..
Don't do it.
You want your first time to be perfect, right?
Does perfect include being scared, nervous and afraid of getting caught or the guy leaving you? I doubt it. Ask yourself if you're ready, and there is your answer. =]
If you decide you're not ready, tell your boyfriend that. If he is a decent young man, he will understand and he will stop pressuring you. If he doesn't understand and continues, you can find someone better. I promise you, you can.
Keep your chin up, girl! =]
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One of my male friends said that if his wife does not want to satisfy him sexually then he has a right to cheat on her with another woman. Or if she denies him sex then he should cheat. He says that women should always please their husbands. A lot of people agreed with him on this. I don't its okay to cheat just because your wife doesn't feel like having sex. What if your wife can't have sex because of medical conditions? What do you think?
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I agree with you; its wrong. Your friend is being selfish and not keeping to his vows to be faithful through thick or thin. I understand a need to be sexual and he is missing that, but that does not make it okay to cheat on his WIFE. I think they need to talk, have better communication and figure out why she doesn't want to have sex with him. This all could lead to an issue with something he is doing. If she has no interest in him sexually, maybe a divorce would be a better idea. If that is the case, and he is wanting to get gratification elsewhere, this just can't be a happy situation for anyone involved. I would say he needs to get his shit together and work with the woman he promised he would to, or move on and divorce. That's just my opinion though.
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so i have a boyfriend but i'm starting to create feeling for one of my best guy friends named G. Me and G have been friends for 5 years and i'm starting to create feelings for him because i'm realizing that he actually cares about me but i have a boyfriend. i really like my boyfriend but my feeling for hi are starting to fade as my feelings for G are starting to grow. I don't know what to do like do i stay with my boyfriend or try to start a relationship with G? and also G likes a girl but he wont tell me who and that makes the situation so much worse because i don't want to make things worse by telling him that i like him when he likes someone else. I honestly need help because I've been developing these feelings for one of my closest friends and i don't want to say anything that would ruin our friendship and also ruin my relationship with my boyfriend. I care for both of them truly but my feelings towards them in a dating relationship kind of way are leaning more toward G because i barely ever see my boyfriend but i see G all the time and talk to him more. i need help on what to do please!! (link)
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I'll bet money that the girl 'G' likes is you.
But one thing you should keep in mind, is do you think you're losing feelings for your boyfriend and gaining feelings for G because he's new? The beginning of these things are always exciting and once you have been with someone for awhile, the excitement fades. That doesn't mean you should move on and find someone new though. I would say you should look at your relationship with your current boyfriend before you do anything. Look at it and don't think about G. Look at all the good things your boyfriend is and does. Then consider the possibility that G isn't all that amazing. (Things are still fresh with G and its hard to see bad qualities about someone when its so new). Maybe you'll be better off with your current boyfriend? Try looking at it in that light and see how you feel. Who knows, maybe you would be happier with G but is that a risk you're willing to take?
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What should I do?
I love this girl so much, I just don't know how to tell her. I don't know if she feels the same way...We're best friends and have been for a long while, but sometimes she looks at me, says things, or does things that send me mixed signals. There's just something there and I don't know what it is. I'm so sad because I'm so far away from her...
All I know is she's the only person on this Earth I'd do anything for. It's not the piddly,"Aw your so cute, I love you babe," type of love. It's the, "I will still love you when you're old and fat. I'll still love you when you hate me. There's not a damn thing you can do to make me stop it. I'd give my life for you in a heartbeat and I don't know what I'd do if I ever lost you, and if I ever had children, I'd only have them with you," type of love. I just wish I could tell her. It's just so hard. Help me, please? I've thought about bringing it up, but I don't want to ruin what I already have. (link)
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I think you should just ask her how she feels about you. If she asks why you're asking, just say sometimes you get the impression that she might be flirting or giving you mixed signals. Tell her you wouldn't mind if she wanted to take it beyond friendship, but that you're also fine with just being friends.
Females are strange creatures. I know because I am one. I have flirted with friends who I could never see myself actually being with, I just felt like flirting. I feel bad about it but its what girls do sometimes.
Just talk to her and see what she says. The worst thing she can say is "lets just be friends" and you would still be right where you are now. If she says that, then just say Okay and maybe direct your affection toward someone who can reciprocate. =]
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l have a friend its been a month since we started talking he loves me l know hecause he told me we have been kissing only now he wants to have sex with me should l do it with him. l have my boyfriend but we are not in good books and l actually no longer like my boyfriend. (link)
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You don't like your boyfriend? First off I think that is a completely separate issue. I would break it off with your boyfriend and take care of that, because there's no use being in a relationship with someone you don't like. However, I wonder if you don't like him because this new guy who 'loves' you is in the picture?
I would absolutely NOT let this guy 'finger' you. How old are you? I know its difficult to say no sometimes and being young sometimes it might feel like you love someone after a month, but let me assure you, the best is yet to come. This guy doesn't sound like he loves you, it just sounds like he wants to get his dick (or finger) wet and that's it. He's probably a teenager and sounds like he's after that one thing. Ditch him.
Is he the reason you don't like your current boyfriend anymore? If so, still get away from this guy. He sounds like bad news.
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