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Hi everyone..especially girls. I stumbled across this website and saw a lot of young people asking valid questions, but they were being answered poorly. I thought that I might be able to help. I will do my best to answer all of your questions and provide you with the most advice I can. However, I have the most to offer in the areas noted.

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okay well theres this guy....and its kind of a long story but me and him were talking and he told me he loved me and everything..but then i found out that he had another girl and he denyed everything and said he was never talking to me and yeh all that good shyt...well we didnt talk for another 4 months almost and then we talked one night and he said he was sorry for lying and then he got on his cell phone and called that other girl (i was talking to him on his house phone) and i could hear him yelling at her and saying he didnt want to be with her, then after all that he came back and said sorry for making me wait and he told me he broke up with her, two days later this girls friend told me they were still going out. so instead of letting him lie to her again we called three way..and i didnt talk to him for another almost 4 months again..and we started talking...and recently things have been getting WAAAY better... and he tells me he loves me again...but then somtimes itll switch between each day and it seems like he doesnt even want to talk to me or anything...and yeh...i really love him with ALL of my heart, but im not so sure because he doesnt even want me TALKING to guys or hanging out with them or anything...i think this is kind of wierd because after what he did, im not sure if he still talks to girls or not, and i promised myself if he does it again im done with him, but does he have any reason to not let me talk to other guys (we dont go out) and should i still be with him after all that drama and lying??

i need help with this PLEASE!?



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Do not give this guy another second of your time! He is a cheat. The reason he doesn't want you talking to other guys is because he is a cheater, and will probably always be! usually when a person is cheating they begin to distrust their partner, this has nothing to do with their partner, it has to do with them feeling guilty. This guy may or may not care about you..you deserve someone who will treat you right and who doesn't get to tell you what to do. In healthy, normal relationships, a person can talk to anyone they like!

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I've never had vaginal intercourse, but about 6 years ago I fooled around with my first and only bf. I performed oral sex on him and also let him perform anal on me without using a condom.
I tell everyone that I'm still a virgin and saving myslef for my husband. No one knows about what I did with my ex bf.
Should I get tested for any STD's? Just to be on the safe side? I know it was 6 years ago. Also, what are the chances that I could have caught something?

You are stilll a virgin in the sense that your hymen iisn't broken. However, a technical virgin is one who has abstained from all forms of intercourse(including anal and oral). Really that doesnt matter; some may call you a virgin some may not. You should go get tested! There are still STDs that you may have contracted. HIV shows no symptoms for around ten years, Hepititis C is also only seen in the long term. However, don't worry yourself too much..think logically and get tested to be safe but your chances of being ill are slim.

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K so about a month ago Mr. X (who doesn't know I exist) walked across my PE class to get the the basketball court outside. Usually we have people walking in and out all the time so it wasn't so odd. Other than that, I barely see him around school. I took a PE class to meet him maybe but he is in a more advanced class.
So today, I went inside his PE Class and was playing hoops when he walked in and looked at me with a suprised expression on his face and asked his friend "Is this the ------- right class?". I didn't understand why he would say that because usually people walk into the gym and play all the time.
So my friend and I moved to the outside courts and started playing hoops in the rain. There was only a guy at the edge of the court, trying to tie his shoelaces. Other than that it was just me and my friend. Then Mr. X walks outside with his friend and stands at the edge of the court with his friend, dribbling a soccer ball with his feet. Anyways, he just stands there for like 10 minutes, dribbling and talking to his friend. It was odd because everyone inside was playing ball and he led his friend outside to where me and my friend were playing.
Sorry if this is long but is he interested maybe or...? I rate 5's.

hi,
I think it's definitely possible that he interested! If he is or if he isn't you should try to get to know him, since you have never spoken to one another, you'll be able to find out if there really is something..other than the physical attraction. Also, you might be able to tell if he likes you by talking to him or hanging out with him by the way he acts towards you.

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okay hey i bet you get this all the time but i wana know if
A. does it hurt when you have sex?
B. does it bleed?
C. if someone looks down there would they be able to tell you had sex?


thanks so much!!!! mucho lovee!!!

hi,
a. For many people it does hurt. Make sure you are relaxed and turned on and use some sort of lubricant.
b. Someone said this all ready but I'll say it again-only if your hymen isn''t fully torn( a tampon or injury can cause this).
c. Doctors can tell if your hymen has been broken, other than that it only stretches for a short period of time.

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OK so my best guy friend is in a fight with one of my good girl friends. These 2 are always like one minute best friends, one minute he hates her. I put her in my top 8 on myspace and hes like "ewww, take her out now." and i did. I know it was a small little thing, but it kinda scares me now .. am i letting him control me? If i tell him how i feel, he will get mad he is really sensitive. I dont wanna lose his friendship. What should i do?

There are quite a few reasons to tell him how you really feel. First of all, you should be in control of the people you are friends with. Also, what if your other best friend's feelings got hurt because of the way your acting- and if they did, you could lose her. Your friends will eventually make up and you could still be on the outs with one of them if you don't take both of their feelings into consideration and act with fairness.

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17/female.

I've been in two relationships, and they've been great except there's always been something really tiny and pointless that I've dwelled on and thus never been able to be fully happy. I don't know what's wrong with me. For example, I'm with a wonderful guy right now but it really, really bothers me that he's not a virgin. I know this is really stupid because the past shouldn't matter, but I dwell on things. What can I do to stop thinking about these things and enjoy myself? Does anyone else find that stupid little things concern them in a relationship? I hate feeling this way!!

Thanks

Hi,
First of all, nothing is seriously wrong with you! Usually when girls act this way, it means that they don't really want a relationship. Stop taking things so seriously and learn to just have fun- and not judge the people that you date. There are also a lot of perks to being single and you might want to try it for a while if you havent yet.

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M/13

Okay everything has been going great I mean i havent even been on this website for like 6 months which is really good it ment i wasnt confused.

Now i still have the same crush that just about all of the older mebers know about But anyways so for the second time i bottled my feeling somewhat up and tried not to think about her that way.

This has been working for about a month and then school started to overwhelm me I have more homework than ever i am trying to get my room and loft area i have two projects i need to do another project for the high school for theatre and tec theatre that i want to go to. which i am not really sure i want to go to anymore
so natrually i am really stressed. And on top of all of that i didnt have the mental power to keep my feelings for the girl i liked locked up
So i kind of just blew up

So all i need is some relaxtion tricks and tips to keep me not so stressed? basically any could things to help me relax

To stressed,
Everyone feels the way that you do sometimes. It seems that you have too much on your plate to be thinking about girls, which isn't a bad thing. I know when I get stressed out I like to make myself a list of things that I need to accomplish. Once that is done, work on the list but remember to take breaks when needed. Remember to still have fun; go for a walk, ride your bike, call a friend, basically don't forget to do the things that you like to do. I would also advise you to do the project for the highschool-you want your options to be open no matter what you decide. I hope I helped.

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