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My name is Lisa a.k.a. GirlShrink

I am here because I am passionate about giving good advice and helping as many people as I can via the web.

I am a Psychotherapist out of NYC and I have founded and am the Director of my own Advice and Counseling site - www.GirlShrink.com where I advise mostly women on all relationship, mental health, and self-improvement topics.

I write for various print and online publications as well as my own advice column - Ask GirlShrink and a free self-help newsletter, Better Choices.

There isn't much that I haven't heard already, so don't be shy about your questions. Just know that I shoot straight from the hip - no sugar coated psychobabble. Just my educated opinion on your situation.

I look forward to hearing from you soon!

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OK there's a real problem in our school and it's sorta weird. If you get called a whore, people in my school take it as a compliment. Does anyone think this is very disturbing? Oh yea, and the people in our school who are popular are the sluts and the girls and guys who drink in school. I sorta wanna know how to stop this. Thanks!

All that is is the tables turning for the girls who use to be called "fast" 10 years ago. Now they have taken some power back and made it cool to be called a slut or whore.

Who knew?

Well, there isn't much you can but follow the beat of your own drum. Kids set the tone of the morality of the school - not teachers etc. They can try - but at the end of the day, it will have to be a group of influential kids who make it "uncool" again to be called a whore.

Just chill and stand your ground. Look at them like they are bananas when they say something like that. I mean honestly, I don't care what they say - there has never been anything good about being a whore. They know it. You know it. And I know it.

Good luck duck!
-GirlShrink

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ok well my feet are shped very "dis-formed" lets say. they have webbs between them just like a duck and when i wear flip flops with all my friend i feel left out. they really make fun of me. what should i do??

signed,
duckie

Listen you!

Ashton Kutcher has the same thing. He made a success out of his life - so what do you care about those "friends".

We all have little imperfections that we have to work with or work around - I have a million moles on my back - so I never wear a halter. That's just what it is and I'm fine with it. And you will learn to be too. It's just part of who you are. Don't let it define you.

Much Success!
-GirlShrink

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m a virgin and its like im supposed to lose my virginity to my boyfriend back home... everything is so perfect and we haved talked about it having sex. before i left for vacations we talked about it and agreed that if it would happen, it had to be after i went back home ... i couldnt be happier with him but now ive been gone a month and i have been dating a guy here.. im with my friends and he even came to have diner with my parents. i already met his and his friends; everyone is so happy that we are together and we see each other everyday. his friends tell me and my friends that they havent seen his so happy with anyone and the truth is that im happy with him. here is the dilema, do i sleep with him or not? i want to but i have a bf back home and if i dont tell him that im not a virgin, can he find out physically? like what other ways can i break my hymen? advise plis ..

Hi Summer.
There a few obscure ways you could break your hymen. Like if you already very athletic - a gymnast or something like that. Sometimes they do it with very rigorous exercise. Very rarely a tampon in a young girl. But is that really the way you want to go?

I think it may be a better idea for you to hold off on the sex until you figure out who you really want to share that special moment with - and in the meantime date who you want to date.

If you are sure that your feelings for this new guy are strong enough - then it may be a good idea to end things with your boyfriend because of course if things were so great than this guy wouldn't have gotten in between the two of you anyway - right?

But just a warning - I wouldn't have sex or start a relationship with a summer fling. If there is no real chance of you seeing this guy when you go back home, then take it for what it is - a summer fling and nothing more.

Good luck duck!

-GirlShrink

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