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Whats the best way to overcome fear? I find that I will often build up courage yet when it comes time to stand I usually draw back. Can a girl ever love a shy person?
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The easiest way to over come fear FOR ME, is to just do it. Most things in life seem a lot harder than they really are. If you just GO FOR IT once... you will realize how much you have been missing, and it will become easier everytime you do it. It's kind of like me and getting shots (haha bad annalogy I know) But I am terrified of shots, and everytime I know Im gonna get one I just tell myself that Im GONNA let them do it, and once I get to the doctor I start falling apart. And when they tell me iM gonna forreal have to get a shot, its like the words automatically make my entire body shake. And usually they have to wait for me to stop shaking before they can give it to me...this has taken up to 45 minutes before... and its like I want to let them do it so bad and be brave, but I just cant. If you want something bad enough and you just do it, you will realize how easy it really is and if you continue to use that method things will get easier every time. And Yes, a lot of girls love shy guys. Hope this helps but I KNOW how hard it is to overcome fear, even as I am giving you this advice I still find it hard to follow when I am scared about something but I do know fear is mental and if you can go for it, itll be all good from then on! :)
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heard from some ppl that you were good in the sexsual department so i was wondering if u could give me any good sex tips .. 69, or doggy style? =) thanx a bunch.
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umm sorry. Im good in relationship department. thanks anyways
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Okay so I have a boyfriend that I have been going out with for like 3 months now...I really like him but i feel like he only knows the key points in my life....he doesn't really know my feelings and emotions i guess you would say and then i have an ex-boy friend that i really fucked things up with and he knew everything about me and connected with me emotinally....my ex-boyfriend life doesn't really fit my life style and my friends and family don't really like him...i dont like his looks but i love that kids personality and i can tell him everything....my current boy friend has the same kind of life style as me and is very cute...he has good grades and plays like every sport....my parents really love him to ....i feel like we have a lot in commmon but i dont feel like we emotionally really connect...i think maybe after getting to know each other things might change but i am still really close "talking" wise with my ex boyfriend...should i try and just wait it out and things will probably get better and we will get closer with my current boy friend or should i break up and sort out my thoughts???? (link)
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Thats up to you. If you like your current boyfriend and he fits your lifestyle and your parents like him, thats always been the best route for me. If it were me I would wait it out and see what happends. Just cause your dating someone dosnt mean you cant be emotionaly connnected with your ex. sometimes if your parents dont like them, its better to be friends with people like that anyways.. that way there is no chance of losing them.
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so here goes..
a while back i got hurt real bad by this guy. and i didnt really want to do the "dating" thing again for awhile.. but then it happened. i started dating this guy i had known for a while and im really happy with him. hes like my best friend. but theres one problem? he picks his friends over me..alot. and he says he really loves me..he'd do anything for me and all that stuff. and hes liked me for? as long as i can remember? but now that we've started dating, it seems like he could care less about me? but then one day he'll do the sweetest things? its so confusing. what do i do? (link)
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Well... Some guys aren't comfortable smothering girls with how much they like you, and how much they want to be around you. As much as Im sure he would love to be around you all the time, he needs his friends also.. but so do you. If he chooses his friends, dont get mad... even if it frustrates you - just go hang out with your friends. Dont let him know its a big deal. You can only try so much though, your supposed to like a guy for imperfections... but if things dont come together maybe hes not the right guy for your lifestyle? I dono, just some things to think about...
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i have a boyfriend we've been going out for a while now, and well, he likes me and cares about me i know that, but it always seems like i'm making the effort, that i'm always putting myself out there to do things, and it's really getting to me, and i'm not sure what to do, but the thing is he doesn't know anything is wrong, i've told him but he still doesn't really get it i guess, if you asked him how we were doing he'd probably say really good, but i don't really know what to do about it all (link)
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Treat him that way for a while. When he asks whats wrong, tell him what your doing and tell him why. Maybe he thinks that if he tried to hard he would smother you, because alot of girls are really bothered by that. If he is busy with sports and things like that, then you have to respect that. I have dated sporty guys for ever and it used to bother me so much when my boyfriend of a year would choose sports over seeing me, but sometimes even if they dont say it... they would really much rather be seeing you. Guys are alot more serious abuot things like that. But Maybe thats not what the problem is... if not then maybe you should let him know you are really serious about it. And give him a little of his own medicine, dont call him - if he wants to talk he will call. Dont ask him to do things, let him --- things like that. Hope this helps
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Well Elise i dont have any questions ... but i did want to say that you give really good advice
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Thank you =)
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Whats up Eliseee!!..okay well..i was datin this guy for several months or whatever..and then i found out he was cheatin on me n' all that crap..and he was seein another girl behind my back and lyin to be about it..first of all shes a bitch..n' i deff dont like her..second..he still like tries to talk to me n' tells me he loves me n' trys to kiss me n' all that stuff and uhm..yeah..it pisses me off because he just plays around like im stupid..but on the other hand..its hard not to have feelings for him because i really thought i knew him n' its like he put on a front the whole time we were together..i mean i dont understand how a guy could be datin someone and act like hes so in love with me and stuff..and then be the same to someone else..its horrible..i dont know..i just dont understand.. (link)
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It dosnt suprise me... there are only a few guys in the world who arent ass holes. I hope you find someone better, but im sure you already have =) There is two things you have to keep in mind when you like a guy
#1. All guys have the potential to be assholes
#2. All guys only want one thing at this age. No matter what the tell you.
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Okay elise.. i dont know what to do about this one guy, instead of like other people the problem is he really really likes me. Okay you know how if you kinda start to like some1 and they really really really like you back and stuff and are obsessing over after like a week of yall and ur not even talking yet? yeah its kinda crazy. smothering i guess. But i dont know what to do because i only kind of like him and hes pushing me away but i dont wanna be mean and ignore him.... hellpp oh yeah and i love you! lol (link)
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I dont like when guys like me TOO much either. I like the thought of them b eing like "in love with me" But... I dont want them to like smother me with it. I definitely know what you mean. This is hard because you never want to be mean.. but maybe you shuold just talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him your views on how a relationship at your age should be... you dont fall in love with someone over night. And your not looking for a soul mate at your age. Thats the best I can do on this one, sorry
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hey elise...i have been reading this web site and you give out great advice, well anyways..i like this guy and well i liked him through out football, b.c he was older i didnt get to see him that much but he lives in my neighborhood and my mom would try an make everything work out that we would get to see each other..like we would take him to the varity away games together b.c he was on jv he likes to see what the older guys are like...he held my had in the back seat and called me every once in a while, but thats all that happened... i told him i liked him and stuff but he never opened up...well i guess he moved on b.c after like 2-4 mouths of liking him and being just friends, he started to date this older gurl thats 2 years older then him..they dated through out b-ball and still do...well she is gonna go to ECU so she can still see him on weekends...it hurt me the day they first started to date i went home from a b-ball game and cried really badly and my mom was the only one that could understand...now as i said there still together and now he is one of the coachs for my middle schools baseball team and im on the softball team and now im gonna see him quiet a bit around school on game days and stuff...but from the moment i sall him again it brought back thouse memories with him...and i have tired to move on and now ill see him often and then summer is almost here we'll go to the pool together but i still get this crying feeling b.c everytime i look at him i see that older girl with him...please help me...i have tried to move on but i got hurt by another guy when i did try to move on...gosh i dont kno what to do? (link)
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This is REALLY difficult for me to answer... because, I dated a guy for a year and he broke up with me and I had a had time getting over him. I JUST now found someone I really liked after a year or looking for someone new. It's hard to get over someone.. i know. But Sometimes its the best thing. I have also been involved with older guys, and thats not always the best either because no matter what they tell you.. they just want some. Hang out with him some, but tell him to let you know when his girlfriend will be there because it bothers you to see them together. Let him know how you feel and show him how awesome of a person you are. If you have been reading this website, you have prolly seen where I have told people... the less you ACT like you care, the more he will wonder why you don't care. It's not always what you WANT but I find it easier to NOT like someone if they aren't all nice to you and stuff. If you let him being an ass get to you... eventually you will think of him only as an ass... if you decide to try and get over him that might be a good idea? sorry if i wasnt much help on this one
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hey ugh.. what do girls like better..boxers or breifs?...or boxer breifs :0
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depends on the girl... sorry, maybe you should take a survey.. haha
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what up elise. i went out with this guy...and i thought it was real and all, but then it ended up he was playin me almost the whole time. he was also making up lies and shit bout us doing stuff. he said we "went all the way" more than once and everything in between. all i did was make out with him. now i have this reputation at school as a slut and a hoe and i can't seem to get rid of it.... :( i need help. (link)
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That's really not something that is gonna just "go away." Once you earn a reputation like that, your going to keep it. The only people who believe it is prolly only people who dont really know you. Once people talk to you Im sure they will change their opinions. But think about why people start rumors...because they want to talk junk, and make someone feel bad. If you dont let anyone know it bothers you and you just act like its not happening... it's more likely to stop "spreading." The more you seem like you care, the more pleasure peopel will get out of talking shit abuot you.
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Wow.. i love elise, what should i do? (hint: if i was a rich girl na na na na na na na na na na na.. see i;d have all the money in the world if i was a weathy girl irl irl irl) hahah (link)
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You should TELL HER YOU LOVE HER EVERY DAY!!!! And you wouldn't have alllllll the money cause Id have some =)!! haha I love you too baby!
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so my good friend, has a boyfriend who shall not be named, and well i hook up with jo everynight, and i just feel bad because like my friend really likes him, but i like him too, and plus his penis is HUGE. your help would be greatly appriciated. (link)
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wow... your real mature
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Mkay, well I've liked this guy for a while now. Since like, november maybe. and, I gave up on him back in january. but then, recently we started talking again and he told me the reason he broke things off w/ me in the first place was b/c of everything his friends said about me. and he didn't really want to hear their shit about me, everyday for going out w/ me. Well, we started basically "talking" again and then he just went crazy on me the other night. I think it's b/c he's finding every excuse there is not to get invovled w/ me...even if it is dumb shit. but he's using that as an excuse not to talk to me, n trying to fool himself that i'm such a terrible person. I know better, i know he likes me, but he won't let himself like me. What should I do? I can't give up on him, that's not an option... (link)
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Well I mean, what can you do when you like someone.. but they dont want to be with you. You cant force them to want to be with you. The more you act like it bothers you and the more obsessed you act, the less he will like you. You should NOT have to defend yourself agenst his friends. Honestly.. I would never want to be with a guy that for one had friends that talked about me, and two BELIEVED or let what the said get to him. If he dosn't want to get involved there is nothing you can do. You never have to toally give up on someone. Even if you just act like your over him... show him your an awesome person and show him your not worried about whether you can get him or not, make him think your gonna do better without him. If he dosn't come back then, i dont know what to tell you babe.
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Hey sweety,
You see I have this friend, and we were like BEST FRIENDS, but then when she came to my highschool, we kinda fell apart..and I want to be BEST FRIENDS again, and we are getting there, but we still aren't CLOSE...And i REALLY REALLY miss that...How do i get her back as one of my BEST FRIENDS!??!!??? (link)
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tell her how you feel. and make an effort to be around her, ask her to hang out. but make sure you follow through with your plans... dont just ditch her because i had that happen to me before with someone i thought i was close with... we always made all these plans and then she always ended up doing something else. eventually i lost interest in trying to be her friend cause i always ended up with nothing to do. Hope this helps!
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Hey babygirl..yeah so I have a few "friends" that seem to be there for me sometimes- but it's not like i can count on them whenever I really need them. I like being with them when they actually wanna be there for me, but otherwise it's not really like a friendship..I try to be there for them but it's kind of like they blow me off. Should I even try being friends with them or is it not a true friendship? (link)
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this depends also... I suppose this is a good question, but there are many different possibilities. Really a *true* friend should be there all the time. But not all "friends" have to be *true friends... You can have ALOT of friends and a few really good/true/best friends. Then on the other hand, maybe you could confront them about it. Maybe you could just hang out with them to have a good time, but not share informtaion you wouldnt want anyone else to know with them, and not go to them for help. Or of course you can always just not talk to them as much. It depends on what you want :)
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Elise, I have a small problem. My wang is large, and my partner does not find our "sessions" pleasurable because of this. What should I do? (link)
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Well....... maybe you shuold call sunday night sex talk... haha this is NOT a ?? for me =) wow, thanks anyways
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Golly Elise, I like this guy, but i dotn know what to do, help me pleaseee (link)
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Well... this depends, =) If you dont want to post details you may feel free to IM me @ EliseGrayce... thanks :)
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