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im 13 and im SUPER SCARED to wear tampons.My best friend(12yrs old) wears them and she told me it hurt the first time she tried them. im ANXIOUS to try them, Do they hurt really bad ? (link)
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I was exactly like you at your age, afraid to use tampons. I actually was so afraid that I didn't start using them until I was 15. My best advice would be to give it a try. It's a little painful at first and scary but believe me, once you get used to them it is completely worth it. Many tampon brands sell light or slender tampons that are smaller than regular ones, so I would start with those. It will feel uncomfortable the first time and might hurt a little (depending on your personal female anatomy) but how will you know if you don't try? Give it a shot, its only going to be a few seconds of pain/discomfort and you can always take it out if it hurts too bad. Also, make sure you ask an older female that you feel comfortable with how to use them properly because a lot of why it could hurt is not using them right. I wouldn't go by the pictures on the directions that come in the box, those used to scare me away from using them. Good luck! If you have any more questions about this, if there's anything else you'd be too afraid to post directly on the website feel free to ask me personally, I'll answer anything!
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when you are so far down how to find the strength to climb back up? (link)
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I have asked the same question myself many times and believe me, it's not easy. I've been to therapy and it didn't help and I am still struggling today but it's gotten better. First of all, like everyone else said, suicide is not the answer. If you ever have that thought just think about all the other people that will be hurt by losing you. That's what I used to do since I didn't care much about myself. I would recommend therapy. It didn't work 100% for me but it definitely gave me someone confidential to talk to who really did understand what was wrong with my brain and why I felt the way I was feeling. As someone who was suicidal and who still suffers from depression I would say to bypass the advice about "finding god" ( unless your extremely religious) because that wouldn't help me at all and stick with the advice from the first person who responded to your post. It's the small things in life that you really enjoy that you need to do on a regular basis. Find things to actively do. I find that doing things that I liked to do when I was younger such as fishing or flying a kite or drawing a picture help me a lot. Those activities remind me of an easier, simpler time where I didn't have to worry so much and really make me happy. Good luck! Hold on and don't let go! If you ever need to talk further, get in touch with me through here, I'm always willing to talk!
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21 female
I've had sex once, and it was amazing. It wasn't with a boyfriend or anyone though. By anyways, after I had sex I freaked out making myself think I was pregnant for no reason. I'm on birth control, have been for years now and I always take it the same time. And I'd always always always use a condom BUT i just don't think I can calm down any time after having sex. I don't know why I'll always think something went wrong and I got pregnant.
Even if I'm with someone I like or even love, I still feel like I'd be like this. Does it mean I shouldn't be having sex then? Does anyone else feel this way? After I had sex for the first time I actually felt sick to my stomach because I was freaking myself out. (link)
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This is definitely a pretty normal feeling, especially if your having sex with someone who's not your boyfriend or who your not completely 110% comfortable with. My advice to you would be to seriously sit down with yourself after you've had sex and basically reassure yourself that your not going to be pregnant because your not going to be if your on the pill and using condoms. I mean, its not guaranteed that you won't get pregnant but think about it, birth control is usually 99% positive for preventing pregnancy (you can find this information on your birth control perscription) and condoms are also about 90% positive at preventing pregnancy (this information can be found on the box). So if your using both as you say you are then you are very protected.
Also, I used to get nervous after sex with guys that I wasn't dating because they wouldn't have cared if I got pregnant and I knew they wouldn't be any help to me if I did get pregnant. Once you find a guy who you are very comfortable with and who maybe you even come to love, you should feel a lot more comfortable because you know that they will love you no matter what and they will be able to help you god forbid something ever did go wrong and you ever did end up pregnant.
I think it's a hard thing to get over but you are being very safe and responsible so you really shouldn't be worried. I've been much less safe then you, I actually only use condoms because I can't use the pill and I've never had any close calls in the 6 years that Ive been sexually active. Good luck sweetie!!
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13/f
Well i want to look good for my new school. Im currently moving in with my mom.
Witch is in sort of a bad naborhood, and she really has no yard.
I know you all say eat healthy. But she believes i'm fine how i am and she really only eats junk food.
Before you say i'll grow into it, my doctor said im done growing.
Im 4"10 taller than my mom and as tall as my dad. But im doing this for my person reasons. To feel better about myself and accomplished. I'm not one of those people who think there fat when there not. I'm not fat, but i do have a very excessive amount of fat on my thighs and my stomach. Its not all around to where i have a flat stomach. its in one small area but there's allot of it (Stomach, thighs) i even have some stretch marks on my thighs, but surprisingly there's not that much fat on my thighs.
I was thinking of starting to run, but its a bad naborhood. I would get into sports too but my mom doesn't have that much money. Any ideas? Besides excersizeing inside. My mom thinks i don't need to and she doesn't want the noise. (link)
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Okay so I completely understand where your coming from. I always had a little extra weight on my thighs and butt and stomach. I didn't think I was fat but it was frustrating to me so I always tried to get rid of it, especially when I was your age. I hated running and hated going out in my neighborhood to exercise so what I always did was small exercises in a space in my house. You don't even need exercise equipment, its expensive. I literally would go on the Internet and find exercises that can be done in a small space like crunches or squats or wall sits ( you lean against a wall like your sitting in an imaginary chair and hold it for 30 seconds to a minute over and over). They really do work if you really work at it and find the exercises that will help you the most. Unfortunately there is no magic pill you can take or magic food you can eat that will make you loose weight, it is a lot of hard work. This website shows different workouts that can be done in small spaces, i think its great. http://www.military.com/military-fitness/workouts/stuck-inside-indoor-workout-ideas
Also, as you said, it's important to eat right. I know you know that already but people don't just say it to say it, it's true.
I'm 19 years old and I still have trouble liking what I look like, Ive tried tons of diet pills and none worked. What worked is doing lots of my small exercises and eating healthy foods that I enjoy.
Hope I could help!!
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