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im 13 and im SUPER SCARED to wear tampons.My best friend(12yrs old) wears them and she told me it hurt the first time she tried them. im ANXIOUS to try them, Do they hurt really bad ? (link)
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I used to be scared to death of tampons, simply because I didn't know how to use them. They really don't hurt, just follow the instructions on the box and everything will go fine :] If it takes a few tries before you get it in correctly that is completely fine too! Honestly, I am seventeen and still typically wear pads just because they are easier for me. My suggestion is use pads whenever you can but if you need to then wear a tampon. Eventually most girls end up liking tampons way better than pads anyway because they forget that they are there and don't have to really worry about it...Just don't forget to change it every few hours!
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. We're both 22 and have a lot in common, and the beginning looks promissing for a successful long term relationship. The compatibility, his behavior, his mix of almost everything I want from a man, him finding what a lot of what he looks for in a woman with me... Though early, it seems like this could potentially blossom with time into something beautiful. So far, we bring out the best in each other, we push each other to do better, and we function like a team in many aspects. I honestly think this relationship makes both of us happier and better persons.
We haven't had sex yet, though we got to the stage of doing everything else, including sleeping together in the same bed without clohes on. I am not a virgin, but sex is a serious topic for me. I don't take it lightly, and I only want to think of having it in the context of a long term, loving relationship possibly heading towards marriage. I have had two serios relationships previously, which both ended at their own times due to compatibility reasons. After my second relationship I had told myself that I will only have sex again with a man that I am compatible enough to head into marriage. That doesn't mean waiting until marriage itself, but having a relationship with a good enough shape for that, if it makes sense. I don't want to get married now, but I see myself there in 2-3 years.
There is a strong attraction between me and my bf, which is why we got as far as we did. Despite the physical connection so far, I deffinetely don't feel ready to take it to the final end and have the sexusal intercourse, with all the risks and vulnerability it implies. I need more time for the relationship to develop and ...well to see how much of a long term it can get.
Last night he told me, while we were on his bed,that "That's it. This has to happen soon", because he "can't wait much longer". That "It's been already more than 3 months", and that "he's already showed me" he loves me and he's interested in more than just a sex fling with me.
I felt hurt by his words, and taken aback, because up to this point he acted very patient and encouraging, telling me things like "I can take as much time I need". I am curious ,was this something said in the sexual tension of the moment, or if it goes deeper and should worry me as to his feelings and intentions. I also don't want him to suspect any other reasons why I don't want to have sex with him, and on the other hand I don't know how to tell him everything on my mind without scarring him off.
I am sorry about the long post, but I am a bit confused about what I should do in my interaction with him. What I am not confused about is that I don't want to go all the way yet... So I guess I am asking for some feedback and for views of how people would handle this situation. Thank you (link)
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I know you asked this a while ago and I also know that I am younger than you...But trust me, I know what I am saying on this. Please do not get sucked into what I did. I was dating someone for over a year who said the same types of things about waiting however long I needed then one day BAM! He made me feel like I had to and I gave into giving him my virginity. I tried to make it obvious that I didn't want to. No, we were not sleeping in the same bed. But yes, we were doing the same kinds of things. When one party is not fully willing to do something this is considered rape. I was always beating myself up over what happened to me and I absolutely hate it because I was not at all ready and I tried to make it clear but apparently failed. If he is trying to pressure you...Which it sounds like he is...That is not something you want to get yourself into. Wait until your gut says "okay, I am ready for this, this is exactly what I want" and when your heart says "This is where I am now so go for it" You always have to listen to your instincts and if you are at all uncertain say no. Again, I know how terribly difficult that is and how much you may want to say yes. But if something is making you feel unsure then just don't do it. Even if it were to, God forbid, make you lose him, it's not worth it. It is not worth putting your morals on the line to make someone else happy. Please learn from my mistakes.
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