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My wife was a slut and I want every one to know but I don't want her to know it came from me I want to shame her. But I want to keep her as my wife.

Im assuming that you are a grown man. you said that you want to ell the entire world or the people you guys know that she is a slut, yet you want to stay with her as your wife. Does that make sense to you when you said it out loud. Im sure it didn't. you have to realize that she is your wife, if you think that she is a slut just divorce her and live your life. Telling people about her sexual life will not make you feel better about the pain the she have caused you.

Side Note : What happens in your home is between you and your wife. the moment you put other people like family and friends in your marriage they wont come out. Deal with your situation like a grown man don't act on your emotions because you wil regret it in the end especially if you have children with her.

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So I know this girl and we both went to highschool together. I've always admired her and I wanted to be friends with her but I was always so shy and when she did talk to me I'd come off stand off ish because I felt self-conscious of myself. Over the years after high school I kept bumping into her at random public places but we never said hi or anything because I guess we were never that close. Anyways this year, my bf got into dentistry and surprisingly the girl also got into dental hygiene at the same school as my bf. So occasionally I would see her at events and stuff and the other night I was so drunk that I came up to her and hugged her .... Ive been feeling so embarrassed ever since and I can't help shake off the feeling that I came across weird. Unconsciously I feel like I'm trying to find ways to be her friend but I feel like I'm coming across weird and obsessed. It's like fate keeps bringing me and her together..is this weird? I feel self conscious. How can I stop feeling this obession of wanting to be her friend?

First off you're not weird but i do think you are totally over thinking things a little. Its normal to feel that way about someone that you want to be friends with but i think that when you meet her you over think things like what will her response be like towards you and that makes you act awkward towards her. You mentioned that you always meet her in passing off and on i think before you do meet her again relax your mind first don't look at it as an interview , just look at it as you're meeting your best friend or your closest friend that you have. say hi to her like you normally do take out the pressure off yourself about she must be my friend. You could even use your boyfriend as a way to start a conversation too or use him as a bridge to get to know her. that can work as well.

I HOPE THAT HELPS YOU IN SOME WAY

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Should i break up my 7 year marriage?
My husband is a gambler and we are aleays broke
I recently met a man who is a widower and livling
with his sister i like him but I think it is too soon for him to move in,
Please help
I am 53 Gentlemen in question are 63
Thank you

Thank you for Trusting your question to me
First off let me just say that you deserve so much better in your relationships. I'm guessing you have already spoken to your husband about getting help for his addiction of gambling. If you have not done this you should sit him down and tell him how you really feel about it.
If you felt that you have done everything in your power to help save your marriage and it just gets worst and worst you should call it quits but don't enter another relationship soon after because that's never good to do. You need to get to know yourself again, know what you love about you, what you need to change about you that you don't like, how it feels to be in love with yourself and most of all what you will accept and what you won't accept in a person especially the one you wanna be with.
That's good that you speaking with someone. What I'm concerned about is that you catching more than friendship feelings for this person while you are married. You know in your gut your womanly instinct is telling you what to do.

Whether you decide to stay in your marriage is up to you like i said if you feel as though you tried everything you could to save your marriage yet it didnt work ..leave this person plus I'd say to you get to know yourself again first before you enter another relationship because heartbreak sucks.

I hope this helps you ..good luck with everything

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Honestly I had no idea where to post this or ask this as I never have before but I’ve had serious, serious confusion. I am a female. I know I like other women and I feel as though I do not like men. I have a boyfriend. I really like him but I don’t think I like him in that way. I never want to marry a man and my question is what do I do? And how do I tell him I’m a lesbian?

there is no right way of telling your boyfriend that you are a lesbian lets start with that. you should have a sit down with him have tell him how you truly feel lay everything on the table because sometimes he may have strong feelings for you looking at marriage with you, you wouldn't know. Sometimes he would like that you are a lesbian who knows right. be honest with him because if it were you i'm sure you would want to know that big secret.
If you felt that way before you got with him then you should not have gotten together with him, but if that you recently realized that you are attracted to women do yourself a favor and tell him that you don't like t=him sexually but just as a friend.

I wont lie to you telling him that it will hurt him really badly. He may want to distance himself from you and everything like that Just be prepared to lose that person in your life.
The next month or so after you tell him you would look back at say im glad i finally told him.

I wish you all the luck with this. i hope what i said helps you

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My fiance (27m) and I (24f) have lived together roughly 4 months and been engaged for about two. Once in the past (before we were engaged) I caught him texting his ex and almost broke up with him, but he promised me he would never do it again and begged me to give him another shot. I did because he never cheated and the messages weren't very flirty and never amounted to anything. We've been together 7 months.

Then last night I went through the history on his phone and found out that just in the last week he was looking at photos of his ex on facebook and Instagram. I also found messages to a girl he kissed once a few years ago (who he went to school with). The conversation wasn't flirty and she was just asking him professional questions for their job field, but then he asked if she wanted to get drinks next time she was in town. I upon finding these things of course freaked out and told him we were done and I was leaving.

He insisted that none of it meant anything and I was overthinking things. He said he was just bored at work and absently looking through his ex's photos because he was just "curious". He also insisted he offered to go out for drinks with this girl as old friends only and nothing more and showed me proof they never went out following the discussion.

He agreed to delete his facebook and promised me he would never go on it again and that he loves me more than anything and that he had no idea these things would hurt me. He also agreed to relationship counseling and that if I ever catch him doing anything like this again that he understood me ending things.

At first I didn't believe any of it, but I kind of do when I think about it. He has had lots of female friends in the past and even lived with two girls at one point. Neither of which he was dating. One of his other best friends is also a girl (older married woman) and i knew that when we started dating and have met her twice. He's also never been in another serious relationship so I kind of can maybe understand how there could have been these misunderstandings. This is his last chance though and I'm not believing him again if I catch it happening. Am I being naive?

I also understand we got engaged super early in the relationship, but I don't like how everybody seems pretty uninterested in our wedding plans. Our wedding date is supposed to be a year away and I really thought my friends and family would want to be more involved, but one of my best friends is entirely uninterested in coming down to go to it because she's in another state. My mom would rather we just eloped and my dad hasn't even met him. His mom says she can only come if we do it within an hour of where she lives and his two best friends feel pretty much the same. As you might imagine, this isn't how I thought my dream wedding would be. My other best friend said she'd be there no matter what and it seems like one of his other best friends feel the same. My idea is pretty much turning into that we should have a very small wedding (if we make it that far) wherever we want it to be and use what we would have spent on a bigger wedding on a honeymoon for us. Either that or just putting off the wedding until whenever.

Another looming issue is his desire to get a house (in the next 3 months) in our current residential area. While part of me is fine with this, another part of me always thought in a year I'd be moving up north and to a big city for grad school. I'm not sure yet that I want to give up that dream if this is how things are going to be.

I of course love him to death, want to make things work, and don't want to make a mistake of giving up on this out of petty doubts. I know the grass always seems greener on the other side, but I also don't want to settle if the person I'm doing it for isn't the "one" after all.

first of all you went against your own gutt feelings when it was showing all the signs that you needed to see.

YOU were too young to be engaged to someone after two months of knowing them.

There was no trust in your relationship from the time you snooped through his phone. I'm not a believer in look through my phone see what you find kind of person because my mom always told me whenever you look through someone's phone that means that you are looking to find something, just don't be upset or surprised when you find something you don't like. the first time you found out that he was cheating on you and you said that he wasn't. im sorry to say but HE WAS CHEATING ON YOU!!!! you were just too in love with you to see that. honestly you need to realize your worth like seriously.

The thing is that each time you took him back it made him know that you accept him cheating on you and treating you how ever he likes to.

A MAN WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU ALLOW HIM TO TREAT YOU LOVE. He doesn't love you...he doesn't even like you if he did he would not be putting you through this heart ache and pain.

Your wedding situation.....don't enter vows with someone that doesn't value you and dishonors you every opportunity they get. there is someone out there made just for you. it might be him and just needs to grow up or it might be some else you would know that until you know who you are. you need time for yourself you need to discover who you are as a person. date yourself. you are still young.... i believe that you can do this ......don't marry this guy if you don't trust him because it wont get better if you do

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when should my girlfriend & I start sleeping together?

there is alot you have not mentioned in your question like how long have you guys been together, you guys ages and what made you wait to have sex....but i hope my answer will help you in sone way.

there are alot to consider if you'll are below the ages of 18 then wait until you are of even further than that.
If you are over the age of 18 id say that you should know when you are ready, Make sure that your girlfriend is fully comfy first.
Make sure you take all the precautions there is to take if you dont want any STD'S or STI'S and dont want a baby being born before you engage in any sexual activities.

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I'm a freshman in high school, a girl. I've been friends with this girl for a little under a year now, and we're good buds. We've hung outside of school a couple of times, it's always been fun. Recently, I've been feeling very fond of her, and want to be around her more often for some reason. I've never had a bf/gf before, let alone a big crush. Do I like her romantically or do I just want to be closer friends with her?? I have no idea. Any advice from your experience?

thats alot to take in....i commend you for having the courage to write for advice on this.

You and tis person have been close for a while right so right now if you are thinking about that person twenty four seven, you get sad if that person leaves you or your you even dream about them at night, that means you probably love that person. A crush is kinda the same thing honestly there isnt really a big difference in the two.

Now knowing all that and seeing that you have never been in love before. There are big risks here of getting your heart broken. if you love that person and you decide to tell them that you have feelings for them. Be prepared to be rejected because they may not like you the same way you like them ok. Be okay with knowing that its alright

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Hi, I'm currently a Freshman in college. My family is about to go on a trip overseas. They've traveled several times over the last couple of years, and I haven't been able to go, because of the annoying attendance policy at my former school district. I have 3 exams coming up, and one right after we would get back from the trip. I'd be missing 2 days, and mostly quizzes that count as grades. Is it worth it for me to go? Or wiser just to stick around, chill, study and catch up on some rest (my family aren't the quietest, I'm sleep deprived as I type)? Thanks!

Hey there so the thing is that family trips will always be there i understand you want to go on vacation with your family ive been here once or twice before. As you said that you have exams going on as well. I would suggest that you should chill and relax plus when you are done with your schooling you could take all the trips with your family as much as you like...AND GET SOME SLEEP SOMETIME

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Hi, I am a 16 year old girl and i have a crush obvisly at this age. So i have liked my crush for a couple months now. I also helped him to get a girl that he liked, he asked her out she rejected him. I was screaming in joy( which is completely messed I know) anyways, recently I was talking to him and went on a silly tangent about valentine's day since it was today. SoI said to him if I had I man I would want him to give me food, he then said I have food and proceed to point at the cupcakes on the table. Also, I said that I kinda want a boyfriend and he responded with yay since I told him previously that I didn't want a boyfriend... I could be completely delusional I don't know. Also, i find myself ALWAYS texting him first....

i think that you are over thinking it honestly. since he just got rejected i personally think he was just answering your questions in a friend stance like okay i get you type of thing. Don't over think it too much ...you should tell him how you really feel about him one day because the more you give him subliminal hints that you like him the more you hurt yourself honestly. i wish you all the luck in the world

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So basically I got dared to tell my best friends that I liked him more than friends. So I did it then he told me he liked me back. I didn’t know what to do so I said pranked then he got really mad. He blocked my friends and I from everything possibly. I’ve been trying to make accounts so I can talk to him and reach him but he keeps on shutting me down. I feel so bad and terrible you don’t understand. I’ve been upset since this happened. I miss my best friend. How do I get him back as a friend and make things okay?

first of all what you did to him was unforgivable on your part. You should have known better because he was yo\tr best friend. The friendship you had with him now has changed forever. the friend that dared you to tell your best friend that you love him probably knew that he liked you like that so do your self a favor and examine your friendships.
You need to give him space because right now he's hurt by you and you need to apologize to him but just give him my girl.
you knew that he loved you after he said it you should not say prank after that cmon you should know better that that if you called himk your best friend. give him time. next time treat anyone as you like to be treated.
Hope that helps you out in some way

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