Hello. My name is Ally. I started Advicenators a descent time ago and have decided to become active again. I enjoy answering questions about anything and everything, so don't hesitate to ask if something's on your mind. I strive to be as open as I can with my readers and try to relate to situations in as many perspectives as I can.
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Location: Upstate NY (currently residing in FL)
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Age: 15
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Member Since: May 15, 2004
Answers: 7
Last Update: June 8, 2005
Visitors: 1025
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I've tried using tampons and I want to be able to use them for the summer, but everytime I put them in (i know the right spot) it gets stuck after a certain point, even when I use slender, and it doesnt go up anymore. Help! (link)
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If you don't have it positioned properly, this problem could occur. It could be you aren't going back far enough. You may have to force it to some extents in a proper position, but be careful.If it's really an issue, sometimes it helps to take them out of the applicator and guide them with your fingers, or putting one leg on the toilet and giving it a try. Don't worry, tampons are evil; I only use them when I have to.
Hope this helps! :)
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Hey, I'm Sakura. I need some help! Okay, here's my problem.
I really like this guy. The problem is, I spaz around him! I always get so nervous, my voice rises and I jump up and down like a rabbit on coffee, even when I'm not directly talking to him, he just has to be in the room!
Now, I heard that he thinks I'm weird because of this. It's not my fault! So, what can I do to keep my cool around him? Thanks for listening! (link)
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Hello Sakura-
Looks like he's just a little confused. Don't take it personally. Maybe you should try to get to know him a little, just try to inniciate a little conversation on something he might relate to. When there's a little less mystery surrounding this guy and he gets to know you, I'm sure you'll be able to calm down!
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I had a great friendship with a girl, but I made the mistake of asking her to open up to me about my past and feelings. My logic was since she's so afraid that my opinion of her would be lowered if I knew about her past, then she would come to some relief in knowing that my opinion of her would never be changed by something she did years ago. She told me, then days later she was furious about me knowing about her past. So my problem is this: I am in love with her, and she's very distant. I never asked her out because she's against dating, but now she is around another guy a lot who also loves her. I don't think she's attracted to me, so there's little hope to begin with (We told each other everyone we had a crush on. She was on my list, I wasn't on her's). This guy is open about his love, and is very touchy-feely towards everyone, especially with her. I'm afraid she'll start dating him, and never really speak to me again. I give her rides from school, and recently she just walked off with the other guy without saying a word. I caught up with them, and she said she was walking home, and had plans to go mushroom hunting. But she walked in the opposite direction of her house and it was starting to rain. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into this,or if she really doesn't want to see me anymore. So should I tell her how I feel and ask her who she'd rather be with, or should I spare myself the pain and depression that would follow and ignore this or ignore her. If this, then how do I possibly get over her, I don't really have many people I can talk to and I'm so very in love. (link)
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Hello.
Congradulations on almost getting me in tears. It doesn't happen too often. It looks like you have a lot of questions to ask her and no real inniciative to ask them. It looks like you have to start with telling her that you really don't think any less of her because of her past if thats what's bothering her, then start on this other guy. Don't come with too much too fast, or she may think you're starting an interrigation. Try sending her a note asking her talk, and see what happens. It looks like she may just be feeling a little dirty because she thinks you know too much, and trying to block you out with another guy. Be gentle with this, it may take a little time to get better. Remember that it always gets the darkest before dawn.
If luck can save you, I give you all the luck that I posess.
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i am 19. i am in a 5 year relationship and we have a one year old son together. i am going to college to be a nurse. lately there have been a lot of problems between my b/f and i. well i was going to move out, until i found out that i am pregnant. now i have cancelled my new apartment and am staying here for now. i know that we will not be together forever and i do not want to raise two kids alone. i am considering abortion and have an appointment scheduled for next friday. my b/f wants the baby and is excited. everyone in our family already knows that we are expecting again. i am too young to give up my life completely. i do not know what to do. if anyone has any advice i would really appreciate it. by the way, i am 8 weeks pregnant and due on christmas. PLEASE HELP (link)
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Hello.
A very nasty situation, especially since you and your partner no longer have strong ties and you have ambitions for the future. I have to say abortion would be a possibility, as you want to start school and this will take up much of your time and you already have a young son to think about. I understand you want to concentrate on schooling so you may be financially stable as you begin a new life without your partner, but you also need to consider the emotional toll this may take on you. There are going to be a lot of unsettled thaughts in your head, and you have your morals to consider. Try to remember that you also want to be strong and emotionally stable for your son. I also suggest that if you do go through with this that you have some abortion counciling. In most cases the abortion clinics will provide this free of charge.
All the luck in the world to you.
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me and my friend amanda have known each other for a little bit over three months. within these three months i went out with her best friend and she went out with mine. but 2 months into our friendship we fell in love with eachother. i broke up with my g/f not just cause of her but she was one of the main reasons. but anyway she is still goin out with one of my bestfriends, and me and her have already gone out on "dates" if u will and i have kissed her. but 2 weeks ago she said we cant be friends. well we became friends and fell in love again and went on a "date". she is still goin out with my friend though. she says she loves me but idk if she is just makin it up or what. me and her are always on the phone at least 2 or 3 hours a day. and i love her more than anything. i dont kno what to do about all of this. please tell me what to do. (link)
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Hello.
Seems like a very awkward situation. It was a very noble thing of you to brake it off with your old girlfriend if things were happening like this. It looks like you two just have to brake a communication barrier. I would suggest talking to this girl and telling her how painful it is to see her with this other guy, when she insists she loves you. Asking her what she really wants might help also. It seems to me like she does have feelings for you, but likes her boyfriend also and doesn't want to hurt him and leave him for his best friend, which also may conflict your relationship with him. She has a lot to consider. First try to get down to bare facts and talk it out. Hope this helps!
Best of luck to you.
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Hey everybody! I hope you have fun answering this question! :)
Guess what!? I need some flirting tips! So go ahead and tell me some, I don't care what they are, just tell me! :P Anything you know about flirting, kissing, etc... in general would be great! 'Cause I need that type of advice right now! Thanks a bunch! :D (link)
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Hello.
You seem very available at this time. If you really would like to start a promising relationship with someone, try to be a gentle flirt. Try to get to know them and relate to them, then show them a little of your playful, outgoing side. Leave some to the imagination; they like to think they may get a bit more than they see.
Best of luck!
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i have been with my bf for 4 & a half years and we have a baby together. our whole relationship has been a lot of fighting. he gets so jealous and he will rip my clothes, sometimes hit, and he calls me a bitch and a slut when he is pissed off. i am 20 and he is 22. i feel i am too young to deal with all of this, even though we have our good times. i have attempted to leave him several times but am scared of change and i never go through with it. he will also put me down in front of our friends and family to make himself look good. should i finally just give up or should i stick with it for my son? and if i do decide to leave how do i do it? (link)
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Hello.
You seem to be in a very sticky situation. You seem to really love this person very much, and if he does love you, he obviously doesn't give you the type of love you need all the time. Of course before you break this up you should try talking in a civilized manor to try to tell him how you feel. If he cares, of course he'll listen. If he doesn't, you really need to consider your options. If he will let you leave without physical harm to you or your son, it may be something to really consider. You need to think of your son having a male role model like your boyfriend as well. Do you really want him to live in an environment were verbal and physical abuse is normal and women are degraded on a daily basis? If there is no change, things are obviously going in the wrong direction. If he is willing and ready to make things better, there is counciling to consider, but this also costs money. If you cannot leave without risking physical harm, I suggest you call a Domestic Violence Hotline for assistence. You may look these numbers up right from your computer.
Best of luck to you and your son.
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