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16/f
hey so i have been hooking up with this guy for a couple weeks, who is alot more experenced than me, hes has fingered me a couple times and i know i should give him a hand job, im ready and everything just a little nervous. Do you think i should tell him i have never gave a hand job before or just go for it and hope for the best haha. Thanks 4 your advice in advance!!! (link)
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Personally, I wouldn't tell him. It would probably make it awkward. Just go with your gut.
But if you're really worried about it, you can always look up techniques on google. Through experience, I've realized that you should just stick to the basics, don't try anything too fancy, either way you end up in the same place right?
If what you're doing seems ineffective ask him to show you how he likes it done because you want to *please him to the highest extent*, then add a sexy smile. All guys are different, and like different things. Some prefer tighter grips while others prefer looser. Some prefer fast, others like it when the speeds are switched up. KNOW what he likes and use that to your advantage.
Work that wrist, girl;)
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Ok so if I want my sex to be smooth and painless, could I use a large dildo to stretch my vagina? How much should I use it? (link)
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Most of myy friends broke their own hymen before sex. This eliminates the awkwardness and pain during your first time, and leaves more room for intimacy between you and your partner. Don't start out with the dildo right away, try your fingers first. From one, to two, to three, to however many you're comfortable with. Some people prefer to use numerous tampons.
Then it's time to move onto the dildo. If you're nervous and stressed out (like you would be in a first sexual encounter) it will be more difficult for the penis to enter you fully. If you would like to break yourself beforehand, take a long, hot bath in preparation for your sexy night with your lube and dildo.
May your real sexual experiences be amazing, memorable and painless:)
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I was just wondering if you are supposed to shave your pubic hair?
Like do you only shave it before sex, or do you just shave it all the time!
I need help, haha. (link)
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I shave mine all the time, that way whenever I'm about to have sex, it's much less of a hassle because the jobs already halfway done, plus it's good for when I have to go swimming.
Usually it helps to trim your public hair before you shave it, and make sure you don't shave it while it's dry, you'll cut yourself. That's not a fun place to get cut:p
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Okay, so I’ve kinda lied about my sexual experience. Not just to one person, but to everyone I know. When I was 14, some of my friends started losing their virginity. And I didn’t want to be the odd one out, so there was this guy that they knew I liked, and he was moving. So I told them (untruthfully) that I had sex with him the night before he left. They didn’t have his number or anything so I knew they wouldn’t ask him. Anyway, so all my friends thought I wasn’t a virgin anymore. And whenever people would ask me I’d always say I wasn’t, usually because I was with my friends.
Now I’m 17 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve just never had a boyfriend that I was serious enough with to have sex with him. Well now, I’m really serious with my boyfriend and I’m totally into him, and given the chance I would definitely have sex with him. We’ve come very close a couple times, but I was drunk so he wouldn’t go through with it. The problem is he thinks I’m not a virgin, but I am.
I’m afraid that I’m not gonna know what to do when the time comes that we actually do have sex. I mean, if he knew it was my first time, I wouldn’t be so worried, but he’s probably gonna expect that I know what I’m doing, and he’s not a virgin so he’s gonna know.
I don’t want him or anyone else to know that I lied about it, so I need to find a way to make it work so that he doesn’t know I’m a virgin. I know I might bleed and that’ll give it away, but if he says anything about that then I know I’ll just say something like he’s bigger than the last guy I had sex with. So anyway my questions are: (they may be dumb but bear with me)
1. What should I do with my hands while he’s actually thrusting? Like what’s gonna be the hottest for him?
2. Should I kiss him during?
3. Should I give him a blowjob first?
4. How do I subtly let him know that I want him to lead? (most important) Because if he’s leading, that’ll probably take the pressure off me a little bit.
5. I’ve heard that sometimes the guy doesn’t fit…how do I make sure that doesn’t happen to me?
Please don’t give me any of that lecture “if you’re not ready…” stuff. I’ve been ready for a long time I just haven’t had the right guy.
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Hey hun,
I can completely relate to you, I lied about so much when I was younger, and sometimes it seems just impossible to get out of. There's going to be tons of people telling you to tell him the truth and all, but through experience...I'd just go along with my past lie, then VOW never to get myself into this kinda shit again. The bigger penis lie should work. Just don't bring it up again after that.
1. Don't be like the dead doll your boyfriend is raping. Be into it too. I know it's hard during missionary, but there's things you can do.
-Kiss him
-Pelvic thrusts at the same time
-Pull him further into you (butt, or back)
2.Kiss him:) But not all the time. REMEMBER your first time is going to hurt, you may have to undergo some deep breaths
3.You can give him a blowjob first if you like, but some guys are unable to cum again, or even get hard again. I recommend not doing so.
4.To get himt o lead, you'll have to get him on top, but subtle hints can easily do the job. Comenting on how strong he is, or looks, just plain acting like a helpless woman:p Seriously, it'll work, he'll feel like he has to take charge.
5.There's nothing you can do to make sure of that, try using LOTS OF LUBE.
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15/f
i have a boyfriend of 9 months who really, i love. he loves me too. the thing is recently my friend and his friend started dating and they already had sex so now i feel pressure even though he's not pressuring me. i'm not ready to do that yet and i know my boyfriend will respect it. one of the only reasons i'm hesitant on having sex is because i have really low self esteem and i feel like he'll think i'm fat or we'll do it then he'll dump me or soemthing. he is a really good guy and he wouldn't do that so idk why i always think it. how can overcome this self esteem problem so i can be more open to things like this?
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Note: self esteem is about yourSELF
So right now this is really about you, and not your love;)
So I've had some issues with my self esteem in the past as well but I got over it.
First what you need to do is KNOW you're hot. Don't think you are, KNOW it. Confidence is sexy. If you're confident with yourself, that's what people will see, NOT your flaws. If you seem to be self conteous, it'll make it easier for other people to see the false in you as well.
Next, do you avoid sleeveless clothing? short shorts? or any specific style of clothing that you think exposes your faults? Go to the mall and BUY ALL OF THOSE NOW. Now what I want you to do is go to the gym, and work on those areas you're specifically insecure about.
I guarantee you will be feeling better about yourself in no time. As soon as the summer starts, I always feel out of place in my short shorts, but the EXPOSURE to the world for some reason love my legs even more every day. The more you're used to them, the easier it'll be for you to be secure about them.
Lastly, you have to realize that your friends may be on different levels with you. Once you have sex for the first few times everything gets a lot easier. You're a virgin, so you'll obviously need more time to get comfortable. It's like your first kiss. After the first is done you're ready for more.
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ok im not even close to being sexually active but i have always been wondering HOW do you have a 'fake' orgasm???
like how do you fake it and make your partner think you orgasmed. in the even the girl is faking cause boys dont have a problem orgasming for the most part haha thanks :) (link)
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Faking is an absolutely terrible habbit, I learnt it the hard way, lol.
Bacially what you do, it moan, and you can shake a bit and murmur your pleasurers name, whatever feels right.
But in the end, if you're always faking, your partner will never get better at pleasing you. In the long run, it's better to tell him what he's doing wrong so he can improve. You not orgasming will probably destroy his ego...BUT it will also give him the determination to show you just how good he can be.
Happy faking;)
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ok so ive had sex with this guy only 2 times.. but he can't cum... he told me he barley ever masturbates and when we have sex he just can't cum he swears its not me or anything im doing thats stopping him he said that it feels good and he gets close but can't and he wont really talk to me about it other then that so i don't know whats wrong, does anyone have an idea what might be wrong? and some tips on how to get him to cum would be gooooood to ;] (link)
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Alright I've had this problem with several guys and NOTHING is wrong with them. And don't worry, nothing is wrong with you either. It's not because he isn't turned on by you, or doesnt find you sexy, it's strictly psychological.
Girls like guys that last long right?(have long lasting erections)Well, after holding it inf or a certain amount of time, guys have a diffictulty of getting it back out without masturbating.
What I'd suggest doing is ask him to masturbate infront of you, then TAKE NOTE OF WHAT HE DOES, then try and perfect his technique. That way, if he still can't cum, you just finish with your hand. That way, you're doing it instead of him.
Another really important thing is his grip on his penis while he masturbates. If his grip is tight, it won't be the same as the feeling inside you. Ask him to loosen his grip while he masturbates, that might help a LOT.
Have fun;)
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what does missionary style mean? (link)
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It's a sex position in which the male is on top of the female, lying down.
It is the most basic position to master, and often what people try first.
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ok i think that my vagina is too small. i can fit one finger in with no pain and two in but it hurts will sex be unbearable for me. (link)
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Don't worry, honey.
Your hymen is still intact. You cherry has yet to pop. Everyone is born with small openings. When you have sex, the opening is then ripped and becomes much larger.
Your first time having sex will be painful, and you might bleed, but don't worry, after that it should be smooth sailing for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
I recommend using lots of lube the first time, it will take away some of the pain while the penis slips in, however it is almost impossible to not have any pain at all.
If you're really worried, try using tampons more, or even buy a dildo and gradually break your hymen by yourself. That way, the first time you have sex, it won't be that painful.
GOod luck:)
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wat does *eaten out* mean? (link)
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Eating out is another way of describing the art of cunnilingus. It is a sexual action in which a female's sexual partner stimulates the female genitals orally to achieve an orgasm.
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can you have sex while you're on your period?
what are the effects if you do?
and when the guy uses a condom. (link)
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It's exactly the same as having sex while you're not on your period. Except there will be a lot less friction, thanks to the blood, so lube will be unnecessary if you fail to get SUPER WET.
Though many people are turned off by period sex, it is the time of the month where a females hormones are most active, making them hornier, and perhaps better in bed?
Sex can also help cramps at your time of the month.
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is there a way i can make sex better for my boyfriend?
i feel like i just sit there and do nothing
any neat tricks that he might like?
thanx in advance (link)
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I know EXACTLY how you feel. I went through a stage vert similar to this one at the beginning of my sex life.
You are doing missionary, are you not?
You can try immitating his rhythmic movements by thrusting your pelvic area towards him at the same time and pushing him deeping into you with your arms.
If not, you can always try different positions, like girl on top. That'll give you a lot more control and the feel as if you are doing something. Don't ty this if he has a small penis though, because it will slip out often.
Other than that, there are MANY other positions you cant try out, just google it, or even buy a book. Theres HUNDREDS. You can make it a tradition to try new ones every time;)
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what are some tips for girls as far as their boyfriends going down on them ? what can someone do to make sure it doesn't taste bad/smell bad/etc ? (link)
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FIRST OFF
Make sure you shower regularly, everyday or every other day, whatever keeps you fresh. It's related to the level of activity you participate it, and frankly, most of it is also genetic.
Secondly, nobody likes coming up from going down on someone while flossing with pubes.
Shave, wax, or atleast trim your pubes neatly.
And NEVER uses douches or special vaginal perfumes. They can easily cause infections and itchiness.
Oh and I also recommend staying away from meats if you know he will be going down on you later that day. Fruits make you taste less bitter, it's the same with guys and their cum.
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i am not sure if it goes here or not, but i think this is the best catagory for it. i feel kinda stupid asking this, but have you ever given yourself a blowjob? if so, how did you do it, and how was it? (link)
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I'm a girl but I do know that 90% of guys have tried this.
First off, you'd have to be very flexible, I'd recommend doing certain stretches for a period of time before eventually trying to complete your task.
Of course, people know how to please themselves best, you won't have to specify exactly what you want because you will DO exactly what you want.
However, the sight of someone else doing it for you is much more of a turn on, then there is the matter of swallowing your own cum.
I wouldn't recommend it, especially if you've never even received one before. Buuut GOOD LUCK
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okay so I've had sex 3 times with 2 different guys. both times with both guys his penis kept coming out. is that something that I'm doing wrong or does it just happen? (link)
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Don't worry, it's normal and happens to EVERYONE, believe me. It can be awkward at points, but just laugh and get over it then slip that monster back into its den.
There's many reasons this can happen:
-They lost their erection
-There is not much friction (too wet)
-His penis isn't very large
-Not good position
Try positions with deep constant penetration, such as your legs over his shoulders. It should help his penis from slipping out of you so often.
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I have been waiting about 5 weeks to get my period, and i finally got it, but my blood is brown and very light, is this my period? and is this normal? (link)
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This happens to me ALLL the time, don't worry about it.
Have you been sick recently? If so, that's probably why. Irregulation is often related to malnutrition or significant changes in everyday activities. It had a lot to do with your iron intake as well.
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i always wanna have sex but im a virgin so i dont know how it feels what should i do? what is wrong with me? (link)
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There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. Don't worry about it. Curiosity about the unknown is PERFECTLY NORMAL. Infact, it is much better than fear of the unknown.
Sex, however, should not be done just to *find out what it feels like*. Once you find the right person and it you know...it feels right. It's something you'll want to enjoy the rest of your life, don't ruin it by pressuring your first time before you're ready.
The first few times you do it probably won't be that pleasurable, or thrilling, but believe me, it gets a LOT better.
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For females:
Are you supposed to shave your bikini area?
I can't afford a bikini wax but when I shave I get stubble and all that. Plus,when you shave yourself you can't really get DOWN UNDER. Do you even have to shave at all? Help!!!
For Males:
Is a hairy or clean shaven vagina more attractive? (link)
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You can buy your own wax and do it yourself, it's cheaper.
The pain may take time to get used to, but after a while you'll be accustomed to it.
Shaving usually works too, you just have to keep it up.
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16/f.. don't really wanna hear about how i'm too young to be having sex..
so i know that people say that you know when you orgasm but i've actually been told by guys that i cum when they go down on me. so is it possible that i just like don't feel orgasms? (link)
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Girls are different than guys. Guys produce a substance after they've orgasmed, girls produce when they are both horny and have orgasmed. It is impossible to tell whether a girl has orgasmed or not without her telling you so. That's why a lot of girls fake orgasms.
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hi i am a sex addict i have never acctually had sex but i do it to myself all the time is this bad i mean i am just so addicted i need help on knowing if this is bad.....please help. (link)
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It's perfectly healthy.
As long as you keep going out and carrying on with your regular activities.
Don't live in your bedroom pleasuring yourself all day long. Get outside sometimes.
If you're a guy, loosen the grip a little, it will help out your future sex life.
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