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Q: 16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

wow i dont know if my advice will help you that much but im going to try! first thing is dont hurt yourself because your having problems that not the way to go! i know its hard and like you said you feel like you dont fit in but i felt like that once and i got over it! about your friend you first need to see why they dont meet you standards and find someone who will like if their not preppy enough then find someone who is you know! and about the girl thing its not just you trust me you may see it like that but alot of these boys go around saying that got girls and dont. im not going to lie to you it is hard for some people to talk to the opposite sex but thats just because they believe in their minds that they cant do it so i shines through to the othet person! just atleast try to find one friend that you like and trust wheather its you cousin, uncle or anything and talk to them! give other people a try they seem weird and different and not like you but thats the good part they can teach you and help you with things they went through before you even go through it trust me i know because i have friend i think are weird and friends i think are snobs but i gave them a chance to be good to me and some of them did! whatever you do PLEASE DONT HURT YOURSELF!!!
GOOD LUCK HUN and if anymore questions feel free to ask!

Q: what exactly is a yeast infection and how long could it last if it hasnt been treated?? i think i may have one but i've had this
certain problem "down there" for a long time. so please someone
tell me what it looks like and just what it is, and how long it lasts
if not treated, and how to treat it. THANK YOU!

14/f btw.

go to your doctor as soon as possible! you would normally know when u have one by the symptoms which is itching and burning in the vagina and around the vulva (the skin that surrounds your vagina),a white vaginal discharge that may look like cottage cheese, pain during sexual intercourse or swelling of the vulva! but since you said its been like that for a while it could be caused by some of your colored underwear or even tight jean! but you should go to the doctor!
Good Luck
Neka

Q: I have always had regular periods ever since I first started to get them. I have been off birth control for about 6 or 7 months now and I have missed my last 2 periods. I have taken a few home pregnancy tests and took one at the doctors office too and they all come back negitive. Can i still be pregnant because that would be great. I was told to reschedule an appoitment with my doctor again if i don't get it by the end of the month to get a blood test done. I have been getting really bad headaches, a lot of nausea,lower stomach cramping as if im going to get my period. I have also been extremly tired.

19/f

you know it can go both ways my guess is your pregnant! my sister had that same problem she didnt have he period, she had all the symptoms and everything but when she went to the doctor they said she wasnt but i have a nephew so it was wrong! But there's also a big possiblity that your not because my friend had the symptoms and she went to get a test and i came out positive but when she went back they said it was just her horomones! i hope u find out!!!
Good Luck!
Neka

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Im a 15 year old high school student that loves to be around and help people! Im a outgoing, free spirited, funny, always smiling and very fun to be around person(so i was told). I really enjoy making other people feel good and lifting their spirits! I love to talk on the phone and hang out with my friends! Im a very well rounded person i like all different things and people and they seem to like me back! I do have problem of my own just like a normal person but i can always help others with their problems with no trouble most of the time so dont be shock if you see i have my own questions on here and dont be afraid to give me your honest opinion! Im not a very mean person but i do have a attitude problem but trust me people its under control!!!