I have spent my entire life analyzing the human mind and social situations. When I give advice, it's like I am helping them and myself. I will never judge you , I will never tell you anything that I am unsure of. I have taken many sociology, and psychology classes in pursuit of becomming a profiler. Please feel free to ask me anything. And if you are interested on my site I have many blogs that show how I see life and the human mind.
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Does anyone know where I can buy sex lubrication in REAL LIFE. I know there are plenty of places to buy on the internet but I need to get it in real life. Preferably silicone based. Thank you so much. (link)
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Actually, you dont want silicone based. You want water based. Silicone (if you have just shaved or if you dont take a shower right away) will actually make you break out down there. I suggest Spencers honestly, they have a good selection, however, the ky warming liquid seems to work the best, and doesnt leave you sticky.
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I am over a week late for my period and I am sexually active. I have been having nausea and tiny cramps, my breasts have been sore for a couple days now, and I have been having more headaches and been more tired. Could I be pregnant and is it too soon to take a test? (link)
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Sounds about right, however if you think you are pregnant, or if you are stressed that could cause you to not start. Take a test, if it comes up negative, take warm bath and relax, that usually works for me. It sounds like my symptoms of when i found out I was pregnant though.
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When you finger a girl can you just rub it like on the outside where the clit is and they orgasm or do you have to actually finger them? (link)
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depends on the girl hun. I know the finger can help. But most of the time, if you kiss on her neck and rub her clit you can get her going pretty well.
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im a girl i masturbate and i feel no pleaseure in it. how do i make it feel real good?! (link)
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ok hun. Its simple. The clitoris is where you need to focus on the top of your vagina. Think of it like a little button ;) Close your eyes and have a fantasy. OR you could watch something pornographic to get yourself in the mood. Masturbation is 40% physical, and 60% mental. I have found that a vibrator on the clit makes for a great time! But fingers moving back and forth can work too, it just might take a little longer.
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well i have had sex but how do you know if u had a miscarriage???! (link)
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It could last up to weeks depending on how far along you are. It wont be like a normal period, it will be MUCH heavier.
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after me and my boyfriend have sex and i get an orgasm i like to go until the orgasm is completely gone. but once it's gone then i don't really feel like i need another one and i like to quit. he gets frustrated and so do i but after the orgasm i just don't care anymore. I try to for him but i can't. is that normal? can i fix it? (link)
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I agree with the person below me... you need to help him get off. I mean even my fiance will get me off somehow if he gets off first. Let him keep going, or give him a handjob or head.
Why should he work to get you off, if you arent willing to do the same for him?
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i`m a 16/f.. almost 17. i have sex with my boyfriend, and we use condoms, and he even pulls out. my parents have no idea we're having sex & would completely flip out if they knew. i want to go on birth control - because i have really long periods & because i get very very bad cramps. will birth control help with those? & also, if i tell my mom i want birth control for just cramps, and the doctor asks if i`m having sex - what should i say? if my mom is in the room, i don't want to say yes.
so, what should i do? also, does birth control make you gain weight? (link)
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Think about it before you try to go on it. Your still horomonally developing, birth control can cause a lot of side effects. It put me into a 5 year depression. Yes it can make you gain weight. Sometimes it can make your whole world turn upside down.
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is fignering yourself the only way to mastubate for girls? I mean, I do it but it doesn't give me pleasure......I just feel normal like it doesn't give me enjoyment......is that weird or is there any way I can ......"pleasure" myself? Help!!!!! (link)
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Some girls can get something out of fingering themselves. Then there are some of us, that need clitoris stimulation. Also remember that a lot of the pleasure is based on what you are thinking about. Thinking about a scenario like someone you really like, that you have an attraction to. Having fantasies is important in making it pleasurable.
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wats an emo thanks (link)
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Emo stands for "emotional" Its the name given to people, (especially teens) who wear dark clothes, keep their hair over their face, and are usually cutters. The big stereotype is that they are very "woe is me" They cry over nothing, and claim to be very depressed, and that their life is terrible. The guys usually wear girls jeans sagged halfway down their butts. Its a stereotype, but that is what "emo" means.
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ok. so im planning on giving my boyfriend a hj. and this may sound weird but im kinna grossed out by the idea of testes. like im fine with the other thing. but are they gross to feel? and am i expected to touch them too? thankss (link)
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Yeah, it seems gross at first, once you have been with a guy long enough, it just becomes natural to be comfortable with every part of him. You dont have to touch them to have him enjoy it. Although, they do enjoy it a lot. But take it a step at a time. If he gets really into it, you might find yourself doing it naturally because you will want to work him up more. Its all about time and comfort my dear...
Have fun =)
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I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and its getting really hard for me in the sex department. I don't feel sexy anymore, and I don't get excited like I used to. Its really upsetting me. Help? (link)
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You are getting comfortable in your relationship. Sometimes that happens , the excitement seems to go away.
Go out and buy a new sexy outfit, get your hair done. I know it sounds gross , but sometimes watching a little porn when he isnt around can help. Get YOURSELF in the mood. Sometimes a change is all you need. Take him by surprise and seduce him one night, nothing is a bigger turn on than watching the guy you love become putty in your hands ;) I also found that sometimes taking things a step further than your usual can heat things up too. Cross some boundries.....spice it up.....have him tell you what he wants....or make him do what you want....it will make you feel better and its a lot of fun.
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im not sure this is in the right category but i need to know. Okay so my vagina is not very tight at all..like its not extremely loose but its deff. not tight. I want it to be tighter no guys like loose girls. The only thing that i can think of that would effect me being loose is..i masterbate somewhat,i only go to the bathroom 2-3 times a day (i always have and im used to it),im tall and thin but i dont think that would make a difference. Ive also never had sexual intercourse ever! So can anyone tell me how to get it tighter pleasseee thankyou so much (link)
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You can do exercises. You know how to make it tighten its natural just like making your butt do it. Just tighten and hold. Another thing that helps is to get a vibrator. Use it on the clit. When you orgasm your vagina pulses. I have always found that makes you tighter.
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so when you give a handjob..does your hand need to be wet? will it hurt them if its dry? and if it does need to be wet what should you do to get it that way, because it would be kind of weird to just get up and put on lotion or something, woiuldnt it? (link)
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water based lubricant, once you do it enough it turns into a routine and flows right in with your little "procedure" You can do it dry but be gentle. They do like it more when you use lubricant though.
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so, um, what part of the penis gives the guy most pleasure when you rub it or just touch it? (link)
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The head, and the vain that runs from the bottom to the top.
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Okay lately ive been having really hot sex dreams about some guy at School..we are friends and talk but i dont really think about him like that untill well 2 days ago when i started having the dreams i cant stop dreaming about it.
Does this mean anything?
Does it maybe mean i like him? (link)
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Dont confuse love for lust. Especially if you have built up sexual frustration, its amazing who your mind will throw into the mix. Sounds like you definately have an attraction to him, at least a physical one. Basically you are horny and your mind is telling you while you sleep and using him as the puppet to do it.
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me and my bf are ready for sex, but whenever he tries i go all tense and my vagina goes tight, and i really cant help it. when hes fingering im not as tense and tight but then we try having sex and its way too tight to get his penis in. its really embarrassing and i realy want to have sex.
f- 18 (link)
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Use a lubricant, of course its tight you guys never have sex. :) Buy some lubricant but be sure to get water based.The oil based will make you itch and sticky it can also cause effection. KY is usually best. There is a kind with an orange cap, its got a warming liquid in it. Its great pick it up anywhere they sell condoms. Just remember the vagina tenses when its excited. Sounds like you are ARE ready. Slap some lube on and enjoy good luck sweet heart.
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Well I have big boobs for my age and theres like light colored stretch marks on like the top of them. Do those ever go away? Oh and is it normal for your boobs to have like tiny hairs on them? (link)
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it happens. Use coco butter on them it will fade
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Is masturbation healthy? (link)
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Well it does burn calories. And i mean you cant get yourself pregnant, you know what you like, and there is no chance of getting STDs so i would say yes.
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okay you answered my question about what i can do for my boyfriend and you said...
There is a trick i learned in a sex class i took back in the day. All you need is lubricant and your hands. Flat palmed focus on the head, circling it like you are waxing something. Hold the bottom of it tight and use the other hand to stroke,move your thumb up and down the vein that runs up.The tighter you hold the more blood that will rush to the head. Which is what you want. Focus a lot on the head. They love it. Trust me he will walk up to you with a bottle of lube and puppy eyes ;)Switch it up and try different things while doing it too. You will know when you do something he likes.
but im a little bit confused
can you try to explain like where to hold it and stuff a little bit better? and what do you mean "like you are waxing something"
thanks! (link)
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The most sensative part of his penis is the head. There is an indent on the head from the hole that leads to the vain that goes all the way down. on that indent take your thumb and run it up and down while you stroke the rest of it. When i say waxing, i mean take the palm of your hand and circle it around the head. You can also make your hand into a fist large enough to stick the head into and stroke just that section with one hand and stroke the rest of it (tightly) with the other. When you stroke use a cricular motion like you are screwing something in. I know its kind of weird sounding, but once you start you will understand what i mean. Like i said focus on the head and the big vain coming from the indent. Oh and when you are using one hand and holding the it, old it tightly on the bottom right above his sac if you want occassionally move it up and down that rushes the blood to its head, which is a lot of fun for him If you still need help let me know. Ill try to word it better.
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i feel like whenever i do stuff with my boyfriend hes mostly doing stuff to me or making the first move. like i wanna make him feel good too but i just dont like know what to do. some help please? (link)
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There is a trick i learned in a sex class i took back in the day. All you need is lubricant and your hands. Flat palmed focus on the head, circling it like you are waxing something. Hold the bottom of it tight and use the other hand to stroke,move your thumb up and down the vein that runs up.The tighter you hold the more blood that will rush to the head. Which is what you want. Focus a lot on the head. They love it. Trust me he will walk up to you with a bottle of lube and puppy eyes ;)Switch it up and try different things while doing it too. You will know when you do something he likes.
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