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I had sex for the first time this past Friday. The next day I noticed my inner thighs were bumpy. I tried to ease my mind by telling myself it is just razor burn but now I'm not so sure. I did shave my legs Friday but not that far up so that pretty much rules out razor burn. Now, since I was a virgin, I bled A LOT. And the spots where the rash is developing is where I had blood all over me, could it be from that? Maybe I'm allergic to semen? He wore a condom but before we had sex he expressed his concern of him cumming a lot because he was so horny. Maybe some of it leaked out? Maybe I'm allergic to latex? I don't know. I'd prefer not to go to the doctor but maybe I should? The rash isn't developing anywhere else, JUST my inner thighs. Not on or anywhere near my lady parts so it couldn't be an STD, right? If I had to describe the bumbs I would say they look and feel more like goosebumps and they itch. It's been a couple days now and it seems to only get worse. Should I suck it up and just go to the doctor?

It's probably just a rash from the skin on skin contact. HOWEVER. I am more concerned by the amount you said you bled? It isn't normal to bleed a great amount, a lot of girls don't bleed at all. I would see a doctor about that more than the rash. But while you're there, you might as well bring that up too.

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Uhmm how do I control how I smell and taste in my vagina. My girlfriend and I are going to take it to the next level and I want to smell and taste good. Also how do I avoid razorburn down there?

Eating a balanced diet and washing regularly should make sure you smell and taste alright. As for razor burn, theres not really a lot you can do except use a thick shaving gel and moisurise with a sensitive lotion. You could try waxing, but its alot more uncomfortable than razor burn lol.
Good luck xx

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im 15 and i have a serious boyfriend.
but i really wanna experiment with girls.
me and my girl friend hooked up a while ago when we were drunk but that was just a dumb thing.
when i say i wanna experiment i mean like eating eachother out, strapons, etc.
i know i dont have feelings for girls im not bi or gay, but i feel like the sex part would be cool because girls know what they like.

what do i do about this.
is this weird or common?
i think about it all the time.

lmao I'm sorry but you sound so much like me haha. Apart from the overly homophobic, pratically every girl has some kind of attraction to other girls. - and we all appreciate.

It is so unbelievably common it's suprising it's not more talked about. A lot of people are in the same boat though. The people giving you advice included.

People who frown upon same sex attraction are either questionning themselves and are having trouble accepting it - or they are homophobic. That's the truth in it.

You don't have to know what you are right now. Just like people for who they are. If you like them, you like them - gender is not important.
You have a boyfriend too. Stick with that. You will learn important relationship stuff that will apply to any relationship you have.

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I am reading different things on how soon HIV will show up in a blood test. Most I am reading are saying by 8-10 weeks it will show up (2 to 2 and a half months) ..others are saying 3 months just to be sure but that it will most likely show up sooner. any knowledge?

It's 3 months. Anything before that could be a false reading. A bit like a pregnancy test. You know how if you take it too soon it might say you're pregnant when you're not, or vice versa.

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prom is coming up and so is the 4 day after prom weekend.. I've decided not to go to get waxed cause its expensive and I dont have time.. so I'm gonna do it myself but I need advice on the best method out there if anyone has tried any of the store bought kits or whatever... I shave regularly down there so I dont think it would be severely irritated by like waxing or whatever but I just want something easy that works.. thanks so much!

It'll hurt, but you know that. Waxing is good because, unlike shaving, it lasts for long time.
Home waxing kits work fine, but I would recommend trying it out on your legs first, to get some practice in. It can be irrated for a couple days afterwards, so I would do it soon as.

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The love of my life. We were talking about getting engaged. I am a lot younger than him but it isnt a factor in our relationship. He told me he has AIDS. This didnt bother me at first, i mean, i lvoe him, im not going to break up with him because he's ill. I dont believe in sex before marriage. I'm slightly uneducated about STI's and AIDS. Could we have sex with a condom? Am i not supposed to risk it? Do i go my whole life without loosing my virginity??

This is quite a hard question.

If you want to marry him, you should. His illness shouldnt affect that. If you are uncomfortable with having a sex with him, there are other methods which could give you both pleasure which are safer. Maybe you and him should look some up?

There is also the factor of children. Also something to talk about.

A doctor might be able to give you some better advice, so that would be what i recommend. Best of luck xxxx

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I'm 19 and married..I have been with my husband since I was 15--and he is the only person that I have ever had sex with. Recently there has been this really dark little blister like thing develop near my vagina. What is it?

Tell your Gp and he will refer you to a gynocologist. Its nothing to be ashamed about, no ones saying you have anything wrong with you, your just choosing to be on the safe side. If however you are too embarrassed and do not want to see you GP, some antiseptic healing cream might help. Best of luck xxxx

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ok i have a question. I heard if you dont get ur cherry popped during sex then you cant have kids. Is that true? And another thing. I also heard if you dont get ur cherry popped you are still a virgin. Is that true?

Ignore all this "cherry" business. If you have sex with someone (a mans penis entering a womans vagina) then you are no longer a virgin. If you have sex at or above the legal age of consent there is nothing that stopping you from having kids in the future. The "cherry popping" is usually meaning the small layer of skin that breaks when you have sex. This can happen during extreeme exercise as well as sex, and if that does happen you are still a virgin. hope i cleared some things up xxx

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i'm a 16/m and
i dunno if this is in the right category or not but is it fine that i'm a guy and i shave...everywhere besides armpits and bellow the knees???
i mean i'm pretty athletic looking and really fit...so i thought its just a normal athlete thing.
but some people notice and ask me and its kinda embarassing. some girls like it. some think i'm a freak. i just dont know what to think about it.
i guess i just like the smooth look, body hair is wierd.

Its a preference thing. But most girls will probably tell you they dont mind either way. Whatever you feel comfortable with. xxxx

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Theres this guy, ive been seeing for 2 years. We tell eachother everything and i trust him. I think im a bit young for love but it feels like i love him. Im 14. It feels natural to sleep with him. We havent done anything but kiss and i feel slightly pathetic at that but im recieving no pressure from anyone. Should i sleep with him? Ive read your advice column and you seem pretty honest

thanks

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My mind always fills dirty things about guys. I always fantasize about their penises like how big they have, shaved or un-shaved, fat or thin. Its about all men, young and old, known or unknown. Imagine when I talk to a man, my mind goes fantasizing about his penis, Is this sickness?
I am 15/F.

Perfectly normal. We all do it... its just a part of growing up. It might not pass exactly... but it will definatly fade out. Happens to everyone. xxxx

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THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE FOR ANSWERING THIS AND I AM SORRY IF IT IS LONG BUT I REALLY NEED HELP WITH THIS.

So i have a really good friend and he has been talking about suicide all this week and he is really starting to scare me. I talk to him about how much i care about him etc. but still he said i dont think ill kill myself just now. but later i dont know. IM SO WORRIED ABOUT MY FRIEND! and try to have some other answer besides tell someone because i know that and i am considering it. So please any other good ideas.. ILL RATE 5'S FOR ALL SERIOUS ANSWERS

Ok i know lots of people have already given you an answer. I trust you have probably done the right thing by now aswell. I just want to make sure you knwo something. Your friend doesnt need you to worry about him. He doesnt need anyone (especially his friend) to think hes crazy or in need of mental help. He needs a friend. Obviously he feels his life is lacking meaning and purpose. Help him discover it. Help him be his ideal self. Talk to him, act around him the way you would normally. Listen to him, you never know he might just want attention (and dnt beat him up about that - everyone does at some point). Be there for him, thats all youc an really do. If you tell someone, get his consent, you dont want him thinking you betrayed him somehow. If this doesnt seem possible, make sure he knows you had good intentions. Dont take all of this advice to seriously. You know your friend, no one else does. Take the advice but dont betray your instincts. Good luck xxxx

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