Hello my name is Diamond, I am currently a third year psychology major. My passion in life is to be of aid to mankind in any way possible which why I aspire to become a Psychologist no matter what it takes. I find complete and utter joy in helping others through giving them advice or by simply being an open ear for someone you just need to talk to or express your feelings to. I love to make others happy in anyway possible, it brings joy to my heart like nothing in this world. I have given advice to a large amount of people, usually people I barley know. The people I meet tend to open up to me and share their feelings and/or problems whether big or small. I have been the ears for many people who just want someone to talk to,when they feel no one else is there to listen or atleast cares enough to hear what they have to say. I have been a shoulder to cry on and I must say it is very fulfilling to have people see this sort of security and comfort in me. I am open to any questions, I am open to listen to anyone that is feeling alone or scared, I care about everyone in this world even if I have yet to meet them, I know that every human being is special,unique, and beautiful in their own way and I just want to be there for anyone who doesn't know or believe this. I want to install the importance of positive thinking into everyone I encounter in my lifetime. I am even here for those who aren't going through any particular hardship but just wants advice. Advice is always good because it is always good to have a second persons opinion to weigh your options and decisions even if you choose to use the advice or not. I am looking forward to your questions,conversations, or anything you would like. I am just a message/ e-mail away. Please do not hesitate to contact me. You will never be ignored or simply forgotten about.
E-mail: princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: I was born in Ohio,however I currently reside in California
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I was just wondering what would be the best method of protection during intercourse to not get pregnant. My question only deals with preventing pregnancy, my boyfriend and I have been checked and are healthy and clean. The only thing is we both are not a huge fan of condoms. And i dont like the idea of something being lodged inside me as a disk or something. So I was thinking maybe I should try 'the pill'. But i'm not sure how effective it is and am not positive where to get it. And I do not want to ask my doctor to prescribe birth control pills. (link)
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Hello, so sorry for the late response, have been really busy lately. Hope I can still be of aid to you. Taking the pill is a great idea, its very effective and safe to use. I would recommend however that if you do decide to use the pill that you make sure that you refrain from sex when you have missed or skipped a pill or two. Skipping pills alters your hormone levels and can cause a release of an egg and will therefore increase the porbability for pregnancy. Another recommendation I would like to provide is to use the pull out method if possible with your boyfriend whenever possible to further decrease the probability of pregnancy as well..that way there is a slim to none chance of you getting pregnant because no egg is being released(if you have not skipped any pills) and there is no sperm to fertilize an egg. The pull out method isnt mandatory but is just a suggestion if you would like to take extra precaution. Unfortunately the only method to getting birth control pills is to ask your doctor for a prescription and possibly going to a local planned parenthood for cheaper prices than a pharmacy.Here is the link to Planned Parenthood if you would like to take a look at it (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/). I know it can be awkard to ask your doctor for a prescription of birth control pills and having your parents know you are having sex can also be a challenge but in the long run asking for the pills will be more worth it than getting pregnant. If you are not able to ask your doctor for a prescription than I would say try to make the best of using condoms by using a variety of them(ribbed,his and her pleasure, twisted pleasure, flavored) just to change things up. You can also try using the pull out method, but I must admit it is fairly risky because the precum that a guy secretes before orgasm can also cause pregnancy. I am not sure which options are best in your situation, but I hope I helped, you can send me a private message at anytime if you need further guidance for whichever option you choose. :)goodluck!
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OK, so im 17 years old female. So i dont know if i cum or not. Iv heard that like it squirts out when you orgasm, but that never happens. I also dont know why i dont squirt, or have really amazing orgasms. Is it cause you only squirt from having a g-spot orgasm, cause i only do clit. And my orgasms are ok, but its not like intense like i hear its suppose to be. And when i am rubbing it feels ok, but sometimes i just cant get into it and the orgasm is ok. Am i doing something wrong? How do i make myself squirt (cum) and make my orgasms intense? thanks (link)
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Hello,well orgasms are different for every female, and just to clarify, squirting during an orgasm is not particularly common. A small percentage of women squirt when they cum, its just the way there body reacts to orgasm , its not that it feels any better when a women squirts when they cum, its just a different method. When you cum, you simply have a bit more vaginal secretion. So when a women gets aroused, she usually has some vaginal secretion which gets her wet and prepared for sex. During an orgasm, slightly more of this secretion is present, it doesnt have to be a large gush of secretion, it can be slight and barely even noticeable. All in all, if you reach orgasm, you usualy do cum, it just appears different from women to women so dont worry about that. As far as intense orgasms go, things like porn and the way sex is displayed on television portrays orgasms to be more intense than they actually are just to grab the audiences attention. Yes orgasms feel good, but the intensisty varies from person to person and depending on the situation. If a women is very aroused before orgasm then her orgasm may be more intense and it also depends on the method in which a women reaches orgasm. If the orgasms arent feeling that great for you then maybe you should try something a bit new. Such as some girls clitorises arent as sensitive to touch as they should be and may need more pressure in certain areas. You can try to find a particular area that is really sensitive and rub in that area. You can also try fingering yourself while rubbing your clitoris for extra pleasure or just rub certain parts of your body to excite yourself even more. And no you are not doing anything wrong, its all about getting to know your body and what feels right for you. So explore and try different things and you will figure out what pleases you the most.Hope this helped, goodluck with everything, feel free to send me a message anytime. :)
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how do i finger myself (link)
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Hello, there are a number of things you want to consider before you attempt to finger yourself for safety purposes as well as maximum pleasure. You want to make sure the finger you are using is clean, free of any dirt and dander.You want to do this so that no foreign particles get in your vagina, causing infection and pain. You also want to make sure the finger nail of the finger you are using is cut very short so you that you wont cut the inside of your vagina. Lastly you want to make sure your vagina is nice a lubricated before you place your finger inside, you can use salivia to moisten the vagina or rub your clitoris to make yourself excited to increase vaginal lubrucation. After making sure you have done these things you can place your finger slowly in your vagina, then you want to put slight pressure on the top part of your vagina with your finger and try to find a place where the pressure feels good, you want to move your finger in a motion in which you are telling someone to come here, keeping your finger in the same place only moving the tip of your finger to put pressure on the spot that feels good. You can contitnue doing this and alternate with moving your finger in and out of your vagina, you can also use one finger to put pressure on the spot inside your vagina that feels good while also using your other hand to stimulate your clitoris. You can play around with theses ideas and see what feels good for you. I hope this helped, if I was unclear on any part or if you want a specific question answered about masterbation you can send me a private message and I would be happy to help...goodluck! :)
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oookkk sooo a just started masterbating like a year ago....n i like it so much sometimes when am with family ....i have to go to the bathroom or a room to masterbate....wahs wrong with me?? (link)
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Hello, there is nothing wrong with you. You are a normal person just with slighltly higher sexual urges at this time. I was in the same situation as you, once I started masterbating it was an everday thing for about 3 years untill I got involved in a relationship in which I received sex on a regualar basis. Some people just have higher sexual urges than others and there is no need to be ashamed of it, I mean hey it feels good and its a safe way to reach orgasm rather than having to deal with all the consequences that can come aling with sex,such as; pregnancy and STD's. Since masterbation is fairly new to you it makes since that you enjoy doing it fairly often, and it may seem like something is wrong with you since you didnt used to do this as much but its natural. However, I did find that once I started to keep myself busy I thought about masterbation slightly less and as time went on the urge to masterbate for me slowly died down from a bout 3 times a day to once per day. Currently you are just fulfilling your sexual urges but if you think it is becoming a problem you can try to keep yourself busy or find something you are really interested in or take on a hobby to keep you distracted, other wise what you are doing is fine, its a part of growing up as an individual. If you really think this is an issue though I can help you further but im not sure how often you masterbate or think about masterbating to the point where it would be problematic.I hope this helped and if you would like me to answer a specific question I would be glad to help..goodluck :)
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i have been wondering what is the difference between Sex and Intimate Encounter. (link)
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Hello,I am going to guess that you are referring to an intimate encounter as it relates to what a guy is looking for on a dating sight per se,if I am wrong please coreect me. When a guy and or gilr says this they are just looking for some sort of sexual attention and the term se and intimate encounter are interchangebale but intimate encounter just sounds more approachable and polite..so if you are not simply interested in only sex then I would advice you to steer clear of people who are loking for an intimate encounter/sex..i hope this helped and the best of luck to you :)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND :) :)
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hey my name is sarah. i was just wondering if you could give me some advive i last came on my period on the 13 of january could and i havn't came on yet. could there be a chance that i could be pregrent but i am getting really bad period pains (link)
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Hello well there could be many reasins your menstrual cycle is behaving in an alternate way. Your mensrual cycle usually never stays the same it is always changing every few years. Stress and streneous activity can cause this alteration in your menstural cycle and so much more,such as hormones,estrogen levels etc...if you have had unprotected sex in this time span you could possibly be pregnant but only if the guy ejaculated inside of you. If this did not happen your cycle may be changing to a later time n the month,its only been a month since your last period so this can happen.Some may start there menstrual cycle in the beginning of the month and then all of a sudden start at the end of the month,its natural.The painful cramps could be simply symptoms of PMS,symptoms can worsen or lessen over the years but it all depends. I dont know much about your situation such as if you are sexually active,if you have any other sympotms,or anything else,if I had this informaion I beleive I Could be of aid to you alittle more and I could be more detailed,if you would like more information on this topic you can send me a private message at any time and I would be happy to help:).I hope this helped and the best fo luck to you..looking forward to hearing from you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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what are the secret sexual things normally females would like to get it done? I am curious, want to give it as surprise! (it tough to know what women want)
Also, one of my fantasy is to smell, would it annoy her? i just want to get a indepth thought into these issues? would it be good to mail you? (link)
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Hello yes please shoot me an email and you can ask as many questions as you would like,can you be alittle more detalied with your question so I can answer them as well as possible I would love to be ofa id to you in any way. Dont be shy to ask anything because no question is too out there for me..:) my email is (princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com)..I will be sure to get back to you in no time :) when you say what females want to get it done do you mean how to have her reach orgasm?and I can go into further detail about your fantasy in the email and dont worry everyone likes different things and different things turn people on so its good to do what you feel...Hope to hear from you soon so I can be of aid to you:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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hi.. require a info. I want to know what are the best brand in lingerie category for women, i wan tto give 2 my girl? what are the stuffs women would like to wear generally 2 feel comfortable, i want to surprise her?
Also, is there any chances of getting diseases if i give oral if she is unshaved, is it good to ask her as i am concerned about hygeine? (link)
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Hello, well there is no specific brand of lingerie that girls like but if it looks cute and feels comfortale on them then they will like it :)Victoria Secret is so convienient and not that expensive depending on what you get so i would advise you to get some there. They have quite a variety and I am pretty sure you will find something that both you and her will enjoy. Try to pick something that is her favorite color or you think that suits her best. Lace lingeirie is usually rather comfortable because it stretches and hus the body and in my opinion looks very sexy. A corsette is sexy but they tend to be tight I would just go with a cute panyt and bra set :).
There is always a chance of getting an STD while peforming oral sex if your partner is already infected the you will be too,having hair or shaving has nothing to do with getting a disease or not its just the fact that some guys perfer the girl to be shaven. It is definitley good to ask about hygeine,it is important....communication is vital in any relationship with any issue so if you have a concern or something on your mind you should bring it up I am sure she wont mind. Some girls however, do not completeley shave all the hair on there vagina and some do so when it comes down to it it is ultimatley her choice,hair or no hair as long as she has good hygeine and keeps herself well manicured in that area then there should be no problem..So talk to her if you feel the need and have fun I am sure she will like whatever you get her,its the thought that counts :)I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck!:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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if you're giving a guy a handjob in a hot tub and they cum can you get pregnant? (link)
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Hello,well it is hard enough for sperm to reach and fertilize an egg,I mean there are thousands of sperms trying to fertilize one egg and only one seems to survive due to the harsh environment the vagina is to sperm. The sperm usually had to be directly aimed to the fertilized egg and be penetrating your vagina so the odds are it is highly unlikely for this to occur so you have nothing to worry about,the temparature in the hot tub most likely killed most of the active sperm cells off anyway :)I hope this was helpful and if you need and further advice just send me a private message and I would be happy to help you. The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i read some answers on here about popping cherries and someone said some girls arent born with one? how do you know if you have one or not? i dont wear tampons but i play alot of sports and excercise alot and ive never felt it pop...so yeah how do you know if you have/dont have one? (link)
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Hello,all girls well the majority of girls have one,the term popping your cherry is the fact that females have a thin layer of skin covering the inside of the vagina called the hymen.This hymen can be broken for various reasons,masturbation,exercise,ofcourse sex and other activites.Everyone has different experiences when there hymens are broken,some bleed in large amounts,some dont bleed at all,and some bleed very minimaly.You can not really know if you have or not unless you have sex and you see blood appear soon after penetration,most dont feel there hymen being torn so there is no particular way for you to know or not but I am more than positive that you have or had a hymen:)I hope this helped,if you have any further questions you can send me a private message and I would be more than happy to be of help to you :)The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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So I was wondering what other things I can do to give myslef an orgasm. I'm a girl, 16/f, by the way. I don't like fingering myself, it hurts and doesn't feel good at all.
please don't give me any links and I don't want to buy anything at a sex store or something. thank you!! (link)
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Hello,I know it can hurt sometimes because you can do it the wrong way. The way to finger yourself and get ultimate pleasure is by not simply going in and out but rather using ne finger and moving ur finger in a back and forth motion,kind like when you your are telling someone to come here,you want to press on the top of your vagina,once you feel around you will find the right spot.However,you do not have to finger yourself to reach orgasm,most girls do not reach orgasm through vaginal stimulation anyway. The main organ that provides sexual stimulation and aids you into orgasm is the clitoris.If you dont know what this is,it is the samll bulb shaped organ under the roof of the labia.You can stimulate your slitoris in any way,most rub and play with the clitoris,dry hump, or a shower head is just as efective, you wont reach orgasm immediatley,it will take sometime depending on the pressure you place on the clitoris and the speed you go at,it will feel good during but once you are about to reach orgasm you will know :). I hope this helped but if you need me to be more detailed or need any further advice in anyway I would be happy to help :) The best of luck to you..you should be orgasming in no time lol!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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iif a girls jacking a guy off
what gets hiim turned on
and how long should iit take
hiim to cummm (link)
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Hello well when you do this you want to get hold of his penis firmly,you want to make sure your hands are well lubricated either with spit lol..it works or a store bought lubricant,if it is not lubricated when you do this it wont be as enjoyable,you want to go in a n up and down motion.You can altrenate from going fast or slow,sometimes a guy will moan or make noises which indicates what pace he likes best. You can also turn him on by maybe giving him a sexy glance while your doing it or saying something like "you like that baby" lol.You can also fondle his scrotum to add to the pleasure,and you can alternate with him standing or sitting it all depends on the guy. There is no telling when he will cum,some guys take longer than others,to get an estiiamte it can be from 5 to 15 minutes you just never know.I hope this helped and the best of luck to you if you have any more questions on this topic or want more advice you can always send me a private message and I would be happy to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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(I am a female) I know that different guys prefer different things, but in general would it be the safest bet to shave/remove the hair "down there" or to leave the hair?
and also, what's the best way to get rid of hair in the bikini area? (link)
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Hello,you should ask the guy what he prefers because some guys could care less and some guys like to get specific.But in general if you want to be on the safe side 96% of guys like it shaven for various reasons.However,you only do what you want it is your choice/your body not there so just do what is best for you and never feel like you have to because if he really cares about you in some way it shouldnt matter too much and he should respect your decision!I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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what do people usually do after their done like getting fingered or giving a hand or blow job? lets say if it was just a boy you were hooking up with, but are good friends with tooo. like if your hanging out and then in the spur of the moment something happens, what should you do after so its not all awkward and be like welll okay....
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Hello,lol usually when you are just hooking up it is always that awkward silence like soooo what should we do now. Honestly if you arent comfortable with that person then may you shouldnt do it because it is hard to avoid that awkardness afterwards. However if you know them somewhat well you two can simply talk about something,just lay next to eachother and rest after all of the pleasure lol,watch some funny show on tv..always brighten the mood(who doesnt love to laugh),you can grab a snack or anything,it doesnt have to be forever just enough to relax and ease the awkardness then the two of you can go on and do other things and if you really liked it you can go at it again..theres no harm in that:) I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i lost my virginity to my current boyfriend. we've been having sex since october 2007. we haven't done it like a lot but i think it shouldn't still hurt by now. he's not doing anything wrong really. i've tried being on top and it wasn't too bad but it still doesn't really feel good. it still hurts a lot when he's on top too. anything i can do? (link)
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Hello,well as you may know,sex is different for everyone and it just takes some time for others to get used to it.What I suggest is that you make sure you are well lubricated before he goes inside of you,you can do this with foreplay,if he fingers you and maybe goes down on you it should make you well lubricated and aroused.When he goes inside of you make sure he takes his time,if he simply shoves it in it will definitley hurt because it is still very painful for you. Make sure you communicate this to your boyfriend so it will be pleasurable for the both of you:) When you arent well lubricate it causes friction and can cause unbearable pain and is rarley ever pleasurable. You guys can take it slow also,he can only go inside of you partially every time you have sex and go deeper each time so you can get used to him penetrating inside of you. When you take it slow also have him not be as rough so it wont cause tearing of any kind it can cause pain especially for you.So just use those tips and take it slow and you will be used to it in no time.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any other questions on this topic or any other questions you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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well my boyfriend was fingering me he has done it more thatn onece but this time i started bleeding he said he had 3 fingers his nails were short. it was not a little bit of blood but it was not alot an hour later i stoped bleeding. Why did i bleed and is it possible he popped my cherry?? (link)
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Hello,well it is possible that he possibly popped your cherry this time but it would make more since that he would have popped it the first two times but since he used more fingers this time and was possibly rough he could have popped your cherry or created scarring on your vaginal walls because of the number or fingers he used and the way he did it.I hope this helped,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a private message and I would be more than happy to help:)The best of luck to you and dont worry I am more than positive it is nothing serious! SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Okay so this is kind of an akward question
But are vaginas supposed to be wet?
I really want my boyfriend to finger me
But I don't know if something wrong or not. (link)
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Hello,absolutley vaginas are suppose to be wet,your vagina creates a sort of natural lubrication,if your vagina is dry then it creates friction and cause pain.Being wet is a great sign and shows that your are being aroused and pleasured,do not worry you will get use to this,it may feel weird the first time but a girl becoming wet is a natural part of the sexual process of becoming aroused.I hope this helped and the best of luck to you,If you have any further messages you can send me a private message and I would love to help:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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uhm sucking and/or just in and out motion? (link)
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Hello,sucking is not the same as on and out motion,sucking is lick your sucking on a popsicle and when you give ablow job that would not be as pleasurable,When you give a guy a blow job you always want to do the in and out motion because the whole point is to make it feel simialr to vaginal intercourse,Make sure your mouth is well lubricated so it can feel as similar to vaginal intercourse as possible.If you cant get all of his penis in your mouth then you want to put your mouth as far as you can go without gagging and firmly grasp your hand on the rest,go in the up and down motion and have your hand do the same,it feel almost just as good as the real thing.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have furthr questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help,if you want me to be more speicific or anything else you can send me a private message and I will answer any question you would like:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i have never cummed and i really want to.. So which positions really work for ladies? And will i know once i've cummed? Will alot come out and will it be embarrassing? Lol i always feel like im about to cum or that it feels really good and like im about to explode, but thats it.. Thanks.. (link)
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Hello,well as you may know many women never orgasm during sex simply because the guy is not stimulating you properly, Vaginal stimulation always feels good but the main part the guy should stimulate is the clitoris.The clitoris is has thousands of nerve endings and even if stimulated by itself without vaginal stimulation you will orgasm within time. Foreplay is usually a good idea,like a guy going down on you or simply stimualting your clitoris it will heighten the experience whe you guys actually have sex.Also while having sex you can stimulate your clitoris or have him stimulate it and you are garuanted to get an orgasm. Unfortunatley I cannot describe postions on here and get into detail but just remember to communicate with your partner and tell them what makes you feel good so they will know and so you will get the orgasm you deserve.Girls can easily get orgasms on there on because they know exactly what pleases them and they are usually more focused on stimulating the clitoris. You will definitley know when you have came,it is an unexplainable feeling that is hard to describe,it is an intense feeling of pleasure,you know how you feel like you wil exlpode,all of the pleasure built up will be released and you will be very satisfied.Everyone has diffrent reactions when they orgasm,some produce alot of sum and all the pressure built up makes them squirt all of the cum out and some simply just produce more and you just feel alittle more wet than you already are,it just depends.When you orgasm your muscles in your vagina usually contract,some girls temble because there muslces begin to tremble and some dont shake at all. I think it is always good to practice with yourself and see what you like and it helps you to become comfortable with yourself,it will give you a chance to experience receiving an orgasm on your own so then you will know how you react to reaching orgasm.It wont be embarassing,trust me you wont be worried about whats happening with your cum while you are having an orgasm you will be worried about the pleasure!I hope this helped and if you have any further questions I would more than happy to help you,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic just send me a private message:) The best of luck to you
SINCRELY,DIAMOND:)
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I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months. He is 32 and Im 19. Hes had a lot of girlfriends and is really sexually experienced. He is the only guy ive slept with so im not very experienced. I recently bought some lingerie. http://www.knickerbox.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay_et!letc~ev!22258||et!letc~ev!22265||_40651_-1_22258_56285_20001_22258
Because he has never seen me wear anything like that im not really sure how to go about it. Like id feel a bit stupid if i just walked into the bedroom with it on so was wondering if anyone had any tips? (link)
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Hello,well if you are comfortable with him nd especially since you guys have had sex previously there is no need to feel stupid in anyway.I actually think that is a good idea it is great to surprise your boyfriend in different ways. Guys LOVE surprises especially when it comes to sex it is a big turn on.Make sure it is at the right time though because he might be busy but hey what guy wouldnt want to be distracted buy there hot gf in lingerie:) When you have that on it will give you him an idea of how you like to please him and it will spice things up. Just be confident and come on strong and he will love it,dont worry he will love it:)You can always be just laying on the bed when he comes in and sees you or you could even dance for him in it,so many options:)I hope this helped and if you need me to be more specific or need more advice on this topic or any other topic I would be more than happy to help,just send me a private message,the best of luck to you and have fun!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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