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Hello! My name is Paige. I have been through plenty of experiences, so i think i give good advice. You can ask me anything from family stuff to sex. If i dont know the answer to something, i will try my hardest to find the information. I will NEVER reject questions people leave in my inbox, in fact i LOVE getting them! IF YOU SEND ME AN INBOX MESSAGE PLEASE LEAVE YOUR EMAIL IF YOU ARE AN UNREGISTERED USER! I wont sugar coat anything, i will be straight forward and truthful with you. Talk to me in my forum!
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Hey! I had sex for the very first time about a month ago, and since then my boyfriend and I did it 4 or 5 times. my question is "How long will it take for me to start enjoying sex?" some people say after 5 times, it stop hurting and after 10 times it starts feeling good. I would like to know if it's true because right now, it doesn't really hurt anymore but I still don't feel like it is as good as everyone says! And I dont think ive had an orgasm yet...
It does hurt the first five times or so, and i promise it feels so much better after 10 or so times you do it. And once you get more comfortable with the idea of sex you will learn instinctively how to enjoy it more! Also, you probably should try different positions to see which one you like best.
Whenever i read zane books they make me horny..After purchasing a new one today at the local bookstore and readin it i ended up masturbating until i had an orgasm and then my period came is that normal
well, actually it is normal. Masturbation can make your period come sooner than its supposed too.
Hey, I'm 15 and I'm a girl. I have not had sex yet.
This is like.. embarrassing..
So, when I shave down there.. afterward it always looks irritated. There are like little red bumps, and sometimes they hurt. Sometimes though when I shave, like I don't even know what happens, it starts like bleeding little red dots. I even have scars.. Is there something wrong? Like, I want it to stop, haha. It's embarrassing, there's always like little red scabs and if I shave over them they start to bleed and it just makes my vagina look disgusting. This only happens on the surface of my vagina and a little like around it on my thighs almost. It doesn't happen underneath though? Has this ever happened to anyone else? Is there something wrong, or someway I can stop it? Thank you so much, and sorry if this is long.
Yes, i has happened to me before. It was because i was shaving up instead of down. If you shave down, it goes along with the way of your hair, and if you shave up it irrates it. I usually just use shaving gel, and make sure it lathers really well, and that should help too. also, a friend of mine says to put lotion on it when you get out of the shower :]
Hope i helped
16/f
I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend about a week ago. We used a condom, and I'm pretty sure the condom had spermicide on it. He also pulled out before anything happened just to be safe. I am going on the pill for any future intercourse, but I just wanted to know if I had any legitimate reason to be worried. I don't believe I came in contact with any of his precum or anything. My period is due in a week - a week and a half.
No, you are fine. You dont have anything to worry about. You used protection and he pulled out to be safe, you were extra extra careful :]
Its a good thing that you are going on birth control, but yeah you dont have anything to worry about :]
i finished my period on a monday then i had unsafe sex the following day (tuesday)..does that mean i can still get/be pregnant??????
Yes, you can still get pregnant. You can even great pregnant when you are on your period.
okay i i asked the question about gyno and what to do,
will she tell your parents if youre sexually active?
No, everything you tell them is confidental. The only way they can tell is if what you are doing is harmful to you..
Make sure you also tell her not to say anything :]
for the first time. and i was wondering should you completely shave or trim or what before you go.?
what did you do? and is it as bad as it sounds. i'm going so i can go get on the pill.
I just went the first time about three days ago.
It honestly wasnt as bad as everyone said it is.
Although, i didnt get a pap smear.
I shaved all the way, but i always do that. I would just do whatever you are comfortable with.
I also went because i wanted to get on birth control.
This is what happens...
You have to fill out paper work, since its your first time.
You also have to bring a sample of your pee, they prefer when you first wake up since it is the strongest.
The nurse didnt really ask me much, we just were talking about different things.
Then the doctor came in, she asked if i was sexually active. She asked how many partners, and if i use protection everytime. She asked when the last time i had sex, and she asked if i ever had any stds.
She also asked me how many people i am currently having sex with.
After that, she will pull out this silver looking thing. Its so she can see your cervix and she talks you through it and tells you what she is doing. She might give you a pap smear, i am not sure.
But that basically sums it all up :]
GOODLUCK!
im 18/f and a virgin-i believe in no sex until after marriage. so dont worry about your advice, im not a little 13 year old about to have sex.
so ive been with this guy for a long time, and i was thinking that i want to have sex with him for my first time. i was just wondering if it would hurt? and will there be blood?
It is different for everyone, but usually the first time does hurt. Even the 2nd, 3rd and 4th may hurt.
There may not be blood the first or second or even the third time you have sex. I know i didnt bleed until about the 5th time i had sex. It just depends on when your hymen breaks.
first time and it hurt quite a bit. but the thing is it dint feel good. why not? will it ever feel good?
Yes, that is normal. Your first, second, third and fourth and maybe more depending on the women. Mine hurt til about the 6th or so time i did it. The reason it hurts is because it is stretching you, and its breaking your hymen.
When i first did it i was quite disappointed that it didnt feel good at all, but trust me once you do it more it truly feels amazing! It just takes time :]
If you have anymore questions, feel free to drop a msg in my box. :]
GOOD LUCK
i'm so sorry this is long but i would really appreciate if you could help me!
you have great advice, i love it! and i've seen that you have dealt with the whole friends with benefits thing so i thought maybe you could help me out :) im 18 years old. im still a virgin and have never had an actual boyfriend. people tell me im gorgeous, im outgoing, funny and sweet. but i don't see it, i don't see why guys go for me when there are so many other girls that are better than me. well i've only made out with two guys, kissed like 5 and that was like three years ago and they all meant nothing! i feel like i'm scared to do anything, even kiss! i can't overcome this. i have a best friend of about four years, he does mean SO much to me and i've always liked him and i dont think that will ever change. we use to just be friends but lately like within the past six months he has been talking about sexual things. i am really attracted to him, when i'm with him he turns me on like no other boy. i feel bad though because when we text and talk about things like this i'm like, i want you. and stuff like that because, i really do but when i'm actually with him and he tries to do stuff with me i chicken out and i feel horrible. he's tried to kiss me, i act like i didn't know. he's felt me up like my boobs, i don't care he's been down my pants but HASNT gotten to the point of actually like feeling my vagina or anything. i feel like such a tease, i don't want to be though. i'm comfortable with him but i don't know what it is. i feel like if he fingers me or something he will be like "oh, your vagina was smelly, or weird shaped" something stupid like that. im just so self conscious. and one night i was at his house and we were in the basement by ourself and i was like look how cute my underwear are! and he was like let me see so i unbuttoned my pants and of course he put his hand down my pants. and he was like you should strip for me ;) well he's seen me in my bra but he hasn't seen me with my pants off! i was like no, i'm not! and we were texting and i wanted him to watch this movie with me and he was like i hate that movie and i was like come on watch it with me and he was like you will probably be distracted anyways. i think he meant because he will be trying to do stuff with me? i'm not quite sure and me being the dork i am said, bet you i wont and he was just like ok. and i was like fuck you, for not liking my movie haha and he was like yeah thats what you really want to do don't you, you want to fuck me just say it dont lie. and i was like i don't lie. and he was like thats good. i just don't know what to do im SO LOST! i think im so scared because i really like this guy and all the others meant nothing to me so i didnt care what they thought. i'm definately not having sex with him, i'm not ready for that and he knows that now but i would like to experiment doing other things! any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you so much.
Hi! Thank you for writing in my inbox. :]
Well, this is how my friends with benefits thing started. Although, ive known him for about 11 years or so. It was the same way, i had this crush on him, and then it became more. We started getting closer and i loved it.
I am not going to say friends with benefits is bad, i would be contridicting myself. I honestly dont see a problem with it. Although, you may get hurt. You just have to keep your guard up.
Another thing, i am sure you are a very pretty girl. I also think you should work on your self esteem a bit. Try different kinds of makeup, tell yourself you look cute, ect. It really helps because you cant go through life being scared of kissing.
You dont want to have sex with him, but you want to turn him on? Guys dont really like that. And in your situation, you might turn him on and you said you dont want to have sex, and you dont give hj or bj...he would basically be screwed and probably get upset. Thats just how guys work, yeah they liked being teased for a little, but then that just builds up and then they want something, ya know?
I would try things with him, only if you are 100% sure of it. Try giving him a blow job or a hand job. It'll give you practice and it will overcome you're fear of it.
To turn him on, you can do TONS of things. Really, guys will get turned on by almost ANYTHING. You can touch by the inside of his leg, you can kiss his neck, bite his lip gently, bite his ear, blow in his ear (it'll give him chills), or just make out with him. All of them, or even one should do the trick.
So, by typing all of this i am just saying BE CAREFUL. And you said you do not want to have sex, so if you truly dont, DO NOT let him pressure you. If i were you i would try other things so you get a feel for them. Start with kissing, and then go on.
Also, about your vagina smelling...I highly doubt it does smell. Just make sure you shave nicely and wash it well. All girls are afraid of this happening when they first become sexually active. I know i was, i was horrified...i kept thinking what if i smell? what if im not good? what if...and it kept going through my head.
You will get over that fear as well, as long as you wash good you will be fine! :] And i am almost positive he wont think you are shaped weird :p
I hoped i helped, and i am sorry if it is very long.
And seriously, if you need anymore advice, or if you want me to break it down more just email me, or instant messsage me. The info is on my column :]
GOOD LUCK !
i guess you could say im a sex addict, i do it for the pleasure i have yet recently in the past 4 months go a weekend with out it. Im only 17 and have had sex with ten guys, honestly i dont care what people have to say i just shrug it off like its no biggie and im being safe about it. im just wondering do any other girls feel the craving for sex a lot and if so how many guys have you slept with by the time you were 17?
I know exactly what you are going through. I have had sex with four guys, and i'll admit some were mistakes but i just shrug it off like you do. I love the feeling of it. But, you see now i have a friends with benefits partner and its safe because i know he doesnt have stds or anything. And i actually like it that way. So, we basically have sex anytime i would like, or he would like. If you are going to have sex, i would def do it that way.
Just know that you arent the only one going through this, and no i am not going to lecture you :]
If you need anymore advice reguarding this, just email me....hypnoticpoison92@yahoo.com
or send me an inbox message
GOOD LUCK
alright i need to know where the hymen is. lol. like where?? in the opening? middle? way back there? until i have the answer i will probley be deathly afraid of sex. help!
This might help you some, so you can actually see where it is located
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/Images/normal_hymen.jpg
I have an odor coming from my vagina. I believe it's from not urinating or washing as well as I should have (don't worry, lesson learned). I just want to know how I can get rid of the odor without douching (I heard that can cause infertility).
THANKS!
Take a long deep bath and when you go to bed don't wear underwear so you let your vagina breath, i don't wear underwear to bed because i think you should let your vagina breath ~ Don't wear extra tight underwear give it some room to breath, eat lots of fruit and vegetables ~ and drink lots of water
And if that doesnt work...
I think you should get it checked out by a doctor. Like the person said below, it may be an infection of some sort that only meds can fix :]
im 15 and basically i was at a party , and we were drinking .. a lot . i've never been so drunk in my entire life . there was this guy there , only a year older that i'd never met before and we were on the couch and out of no where , seriously , he starts making out with me (worst kisser btw, ugh) and then eventually we stopped but then he kept pulling my hand to his fuckin crotch and wouldn't stop so to shut him up i did what he wanted, and that eventually ended up with a blow job. and by morning EVERYONE at the party knew. so humiliating, and of course you have the rumours and shit.. i was just wondering how i can get rid of the embarassment? its been MONTHS now and i still feel like a hoe :(.. oh ima girl btw :P
Like the person said below, PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES! :]
You learn from them and move on. When people bring it up, just ignore them. The only reason they bring it up is because they dont have anything better to do. When you are out of highschool you will look back on it and laugh. Just make sure not to make the same mistake again :]
GOOD LUCK
Hey,
I've been in a sexual relationship with my (male) partner for a few months now, and I usually sleep over every weekend- this will be the first weekend that my period crosses over with that date.
What are the norms- do most people have sex while on their period? I don't think I would be comfortable doing that. Do I just tell him I don't want to have sex, or that I am on my period, or what? What do most people do?
Thanks.
I wouldnt say MOST people have sex while on their period...but some do. If you and him are comfortable with it then hey go for it.
Alterntives include, titty sex when he gets off by thrusting his penis between your boobs. Or you can just give him a bj/hj while he feels you up and what not.
Also, you guys can just watch a movie and cuddle! :]
GOOD LUCK
last nite my boyfriend fingered me and I havnt been fingered in foreveeerrr. like years.
it was fun but it HURT. after we were done I was reeally sore and thought I was bleeding and sure enough I was. my underwear had blood on it, but it wasn't mucho mucho. am I ok? I looked at it and everything looks normal.and now it's sore. is there anything I can do for the soreness?
Like the person said below, you could of started your period. But, i would say maybe he was a bit too rough, and since you havent got fingered in a while you werent that loose. Therefore, he may of scratched your walls in your vaginia. Its nothing to worry about, it happens to girls all the time There isnt really anything you can do for the soreness though.
GOOD LUCK
i just had sex for the first time and it was painful but the problem is that my lower back hurts advice please.
Thats normal. Your body is going to hurt because you used muscles that you havent used before. Just like the first time you go on top, the inside of your thighs will hurt. There isnt really much you can do about it except maybe put a heating pad on your back.
GOOD LUCK!
(f/17-18)
Well lately, me and my bf haven't been having sex for a week now because i will be going to the doctor soon to get the pill, anyway lately i've had alot of gas, and i dont know why i haven't drank pop in about 1 -2 weeks could it be that still passing throught my system?
Its just the pressure and air being moved around in your body that causes the gas. It's normal. It happens from time to time with me as with most women. Hope I helped!!
Alright....
I've never seen porn before and I don't know I guess I'm just curious... Is it legal? and if it is, how do you find it?
18/f
hey email me
hypnoticpoison92@yahoo.com
i'll give you a site
I never went down on a girl before . Should i put my tongue inside or just kinda lick?
Thanks for the inbox msg, sorry it took so long to reply.
You actually do both, you can also put in a bit of fingering while you do it.
Basically, just experiment with it.
The only way you will get good, is from experience. But for your first time i would
watch some porn to see how other people do it.
Above her hole, at the top of her labia is the clitoris. It is often covered by a little hood and it can vary in size from that od a small lentil to a pea. With very many women, maybe as much as half, stimulating this "bean" is the only way they can have an orgasm.
You can kiss it, lick it, caress it, blow it, gently suck it, slurp it, tenderly nibble on it, do what ever gets a reaction. Experiment, keep it moist, communicate with her and ask her if what you are doing feels good because it wont necessarily be the same for all women. Practice makes perfect.
I recommend flicking it with your tongue, it drives women wild. Don't just concentrate on her clit either. For you licking and sucking on her labia (the plump juicy lips) is more enjoyable and she will love it to, providing you are gentle. How gentle depends on the girl, some like it quite firm. Use your fingers too, you can lick at her hole a little and taste her juice, but once you are getting her really worked up insert your fingers in her hole and caress her G-spot (if you know where it is).
GOOD LUCK