I'm a twenty-four year old biologist recently graduated from Kansas State University and still looking for work. My research interests are primarily in the realm of molecular genetics, specifically mutagenesis and the genetic basis of cancers.
Apparently I've managed to get a decent hold on the whole relationship mess as my girlfriend and I are relatively happy and living together after dating for approximately five years.
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Location: Kansas, USA
Occupation: Biology student
Age: 24
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lately I have had alot* of wet dreams even though I try not. but what im REALLY worried about is it normal to get like a burning sensation because its like I wake up all sweaty and i feel a burning sensation.can u have a orgasm just by dreaming?
there is NO way im talking to my mother or anyone else for that matter. im only posting this because no one knows who i am.
anyways thanx
it would help me ALOT if you would answer this.
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The wet dreams are normal and almost all males get them. Oddly enough I never did though so I'm going out on a limb a bit here.
The burning sensation, on the other hand, does not seem normal. I know you don't want to talk to someone about this, but I seriously suggest that you talk to a competent doctor or other medical professional about this as it may be indicative or some serious problems. I can understand that it is embarassing, but this is their job and it is better to be slightly embarassed by something that you have no control over than to suffer serious consequences as a result of an untreated condition that will eventually have to be treated.
Trying to keep this in for fear of embarassment has much more potential to make things worse. Even if it eventually turns out to be nothing you should see someone about it.
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I'm 13 and I found a dildo in my moms dresser a couple of months ago, since then I've fingered myself every day. Is that normal? (link)
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I realize this may be overlapping with other responses, but in a nutshell:
1) Yes. It is perfectly normal to masturbate. Whether you prefer to stimulate yourself manually with your fingers or by using a dildo or vibrator this is perfectly normal and acceptable.
2)It is not, however, alright to use someone else's sex toy. For one thing it's just not hygenic. You should never use a sex toy that has been inside another person without sterilizing it first. In fact, you should not typically even use a sex toy on yourself without cleaning it properly between uses.
As well it's quite simply and invasion of her privacy and personal belongings. It's quite unnerving to many people that someone, especially a relative, would use such a personal item in such a personal manner. While you don't state explicitly that you've been using it, if you have, I suggest you stop.
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how do i go about teaching what i need without
offeding him' (link)
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Simply tell him and be honest. It's likely best to phrase it as helpful advice and not a criticism of him, though if he keeps doing something wrong, feel free to politely criticise.
Most guys need help and the better ones actively ask for it. Guys aren't girls and don't have the same parts so they're going into it with a disadvantage from the start. Even then regardless of how many women a man has been sexually involved with each one is different and likes different things in a different manner.
It's a good thing that you asked this though. Not many women (or men for that matter) are able to ask for what they want and often this leads to unenjoyable sex for all concerned. It's your body and your orgasm so just be honest about what you want and help him to understand how to do it best. I'm sure you'll have him trained properly in no time. ;)
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how many fingers do i use to finger my self? because i want it to feel good but i dont want it to hert? how many??? (link)
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It really all comes down to personal preferences. I know some people who only like one either because anything else hurts or because they simply prefer it that way. Others tend to like two and from what I can discern this tends to the most common. Then again, some like three or more. I know one person who regularly uses four, but this is an exception.
On the other end of the spectrum is fisting, which involves the entire fist going into the vagina. This tends to be more of a kinky/fetish activity and is not necessarily something regularly performed. If you think this is something that interests you I would suggest getting more information on the subject.
As well, I'm told that most women tend to prefer more in the way of clitoral stimulation rather than actual penetration when they masturbate. Allegedly the most common method is to rub the clitoris or the clitoral hood either in a circular or up-down motion.
In the end though, I'm not a woman, I'm merely going by what I've been told and read about. The most important thing to do is simply enjoy yourself and do what feels good to you.
Now it does occur to me that you might be a guy asking about doing this to a woman, in such situations I would suggest simply asking what she wants. It's the best way to give her what will be most pleasing. If this doesn't work out, however, start small. Use one finger to start and start at the outside before moving into the vagina itself. If there seems to be enough room and she is enjoying it slowly add another finger. Be forewarned however that it can hurt slightly, especially if the additional finger is not lubricated properly first. Some woman have problems with the insertion of additional digits in the middle of things when they likely would not have had you started with more.
While related, using dildo, vibrators and other sex toys as aids are another topic altogether. I do suggest that as far as they are concerned to not try to improvise. Not everything should go in the vagina! If you must a carrot or other vegetable appropriately shaped to your desired size is generally preferable. Try to avoid things with sugar though as they could negatively affect the vagina possibly leading to yeast infections or worse.
If you have any further questions, feel free to ask me.
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ok, this is kinda embarassing, but i heard that the first time you have sex, it hurts (for a girl)
true...false? (link)
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Sometimes it can hurt, but this varies from person to person. In many cases this also depends on your masturbation habits. If you have been penetrated vaginally by anything (tampon, finger, dildo, etc.) then it is much less likely to hurt. As well, I have anecdotal evidence that if you do not have an intact hymen (rather common these days, the hymen can rupture for a great many reasons aside from sex or other vaginal insertion) it will likely hurt less or not at all.
Tensing up will be bad as well. I'm sure you're going to be a bit nervous about things, but if you are comfortable and relaxed the muscles will experience less resistence and not be as likely to hurt when stretching.
In short: a great big maybe, it all depends on the person.
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how do u give oral to a guy????
~> confuses! (link)
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Well, it's a shame that you lost your manual because you're really not going to get another one. I mean, everyone gets one when they're born that covers this sort of thing.
Seriously though, it's not the sort of thing you can really explain precisely. This is not insert TAB A into SLOT B, repeat. It's the broad category of using your mouth to stimulate someone, most likely to orgasm. Lick, touch, suck, rub... do whatever seems natural and right. Move your mouth back and forth along the length of it.
As other people stated 1)If you have to ask you're probably not ready 2)Practice makes perfect! Try it out on a carrot, bannana, or other phallic bit of food and try to get an idea of what's going on.
A side note: your questions are more likely to be answered reasonably when you take the time to use proper spelling, punctuation, and grammar. Capitalize the first word in a sentence. Use the word "you", not the letter 'u'. Restrict your punctuation marks to one apiece at the end of a sentence. It makes things look both more presentable as well as making you look much better and your question look more serious and adult.
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ok so im 17 and i was wondering i have read that guys prefer the girls to swallow there cum after oral sex is this true or would they rather us to spit everytime i ask guys they say either way but i want to know seriously what they prefer i know it would be different for different guys but what would most of them seriously want (link)
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By and large almost all guys tend to prefer that a girl swallows. I'm told it can be a bit tough for some women although a glass of water would likely help. Regardless if you can't do it without choking and gagging then it's likely to be worse off than spitting. Try not to let this give you any performance anxiety.
As well some men apparently don't like it when girls swallow, although I'm not quite certain why. They tend to be a very small minority however.
In general though, guys want you to perform oral sex on them. Swallowing is the cherry on top. It's typically a preference and as long as they're getting head most guys aren't likely to complain.
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