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So i've had sex and i didn't bleed when i had sex..but when my boyfriend fingered me i would bleed. Not always, but sometimes. Then i had sex with my boyfriend [a different guy] a while later and i bled..and he freaked out because i don't know why. is that normal? (link)
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Your hymen doesn't always break the first time. They should probably mention this more often since it is really scary when you start bleeding all of the sudden.
Take care,
AAG
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im 15 and me and my bf had sex sort of..
he used a condom, and he didnt go all the way in.
my cherry didnt pop and he didnt cum.
i know theres a chance of me getting pregnate..but im so scared right now. i swear i wont do it again until im ready but i really need pplz opinions. the thing im worried abou is the stuff that comes out of the guy before the guy cums. i know it can carry sperm. i just dont know wht to think..help! (link)
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While there is a chance, you probably are not. I know this is one of the scariest things ever but try not to stress. Stress if your period is late but not a second before then.
IT WILL BE OKAY!
Take care,
AAG
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ok im so confused about what is free at planned parenthood. i went to their site and i couldnt find anything on pricing. ok but first of all, my mom cant know about any of this, but i do have a way to get there..my boyfriends mom =] so anyways im 15 and i want some kind of checkup because ive bleed 2 times now after we've had sex and i just want to know whats wrong. but, that cant be free right? or is it? also, i want birth control because at the rate im at right now, im going to end up pregnant lol. but the thing is, its not free is it? how much would i have to pay for it and what do i have to do to get it? and also do you think im way to young to be on birth control? i feel like if i go and get some theyll think its rediculous. so, whats free and whats not? (link)
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I believe birth control there is 15 per month of pills (in my area). Prices tend to vary. But condoms are free!
You should probably do some more research on the pill before you go on it. It is only 99 percent effective in labs. People tend to mess it up so the effectiveness is significantly lower.
The people of Planned Parenthood are VERY non-judgemental. They won't think it is ridiculous. It is a lot less ridiculous than having an unwanted pregnancy.
I don't know how much a check up would be, but has your hymen fully broken yet? If not, I wouldn't stress about the bleeding. You can always call planned parenthood for an estimate. Their number is 1-888-743-7526. You might want to try some other clinics since their prices might be lower.
Good luck and take care!
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Umm yeah this is kind of embarrassing but yeah she want's to have sex but i don't know because i don't know what to expect, like will she bleed or will she get hurt or i don't know would you be able to tell me a little bit more please?? thank you
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I saw that someone said it will hurt a little. LIES! It will hurt like hell. So be gentle. And yes, if the hymen breaks there will be blood.
If she is down for it, go for it. It'll get better but your 1st time will suck.
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ok so me and boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we both want to have sex but im scared that i will get pregnant i cant let this happen and hes really cool about not doing anything but i want to im jst kinda scared. (link)
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Don't go too fast. You can always get each other off without sex.
Now when you do have sex, use a condom, get on the pill, or see an herbalist. (Contraceptive herbs are safer than the pill).
Take care and good luck,
AAG
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im a small girl like physically....as in short
im 19 years old and me and my boyfriend want to have sex but the thing is we tried to before and his penis wouldnt go in. hes fingured me alot! but wen we tried to do it it wouldnt go in. and am also wondering if it would hurt when we do it because ive already been fingured.plz help (link)
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Have him finger you before he puts it in. Also, take it slow and try to help navigate him in. You may also want to get lube (or at least lubicated condoms).
Good luck!
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I am under age.. where can i find birth control pills ... do i have to go to a doctor or can i buy them over the counter? (link)
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Try Planned Parenthood. Every underage girl I have ever known who was on birth control pills got them from Planned Parenthood. If nothing else,they can give you a big bag of free condoms and that is always fun!
You can also try to find a good herbalist and go on herbal birth control (which is safer, cheap, and effective). There aren't those nasty little side effects like your offspring becoming sterile, which is a side effect of the pill.
Good luck and be safe.
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heres an easy 5 for ya!
so im 13/f and havent made out yet..i know embarssing, and i know im goin to soon with this kid who wants to but im wicked nervous cause i dont know how ...i feel stupid asking it but what are some main things you deff. should do! thanks soo much!!
much love
courtney (link)
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Seriously, you do not have to have any idea what you are doing. People with experience can be awful kissers. The fact it is your first time really doesn't matter as much as you think.
Just pay attention to what the other person is doing and mimic it. Make sure your breath is okay too.
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Ok well I'm 13 and I'm very intrested in umm..playing wiht myself...I cant buy anything...and what i'm really intrested in is vibrators.I rate real high! (link)
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Meet the electric toothbrush, your new best friend.
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ok..well i know a lot of you will be wondering why im asking this. Its because my bf and I were messing around and after i gave him a handjob he fingered me and i dont know if he got cum on his hands ..i know i know..slim to none chance im pregnent but anyways..just got me thinking of aboruion soo...
is abotion legal in new york?
if im under 18 do i have to have a parent with me?or just someone who is 18?
how much does it cost?
how bad does it hurt if you have had experience
i dont want to hear lectures..just some facts..5's for helpful people (link)
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Yes it is legal in New York.
I doubt you have to have a parent with you but I could easily be wrong.
From what I have heard, afterwards it feels like you have really bad cramps.
I know you already said that there is only a slim to none chance you are pregnant, but I really doubt that you are. Thank you for being responsible enough to seek out information although the chance you are pregnant is less than slight.
Take care,
AAG
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i don't know that its exactly healthy but i was wondering if there is anything else (like a household item) that i can use that would work kinda like a dildo or a vibrator? i mean it doesnt have to move or anything...just feel good. cuz my parents would freak if they found a dildo or vibrator. is it unhealthy to use anything else? can i sterilize other stuff? if so, how? (link)
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Meet your new best friend, the electric toothbrush.
I'd give more suggestions, but you really don't need more than that.
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Ok..well the other day my best friend came over. We were in my room listening to music. I dontreally remember what happened much but we basically ended up kissing and doing other sexual things. Were both girls. I really like guys..but what I did felt good. I've never liked girls..but after what I did with my best friend, I just dont know. Were both 14. HELP!! am i lesbian? I like guys..but hooking up with girls doesnt sound bad either.. (link)
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I doubt you are a lesbian. You would have been actively attracted to girls as opposed to just hey that was fun. I am guessing you are heteroflexible.
I believe The L Word said it best, "Sexuality is fluid. Just go with the flow."
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i've been looking up different types of birthcontrol pills & it says:
$20–$35 for monthly pill pack at drugstores. Often less at clinics.
$35–$125 for an exam, if needed.
----does that mean they sale the pill pack at a drugstore? such as.. eckerds or walgreens without a prescription?
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Nope, you need a prescription. Sorry to disappoint.
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is it immature for 11-13 yr olds to have sex?
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Yes. While I am all for premarital sex, there is a time and a place for it. Besides not being emotionally ready, they simply aren't responsible enough to use birth control properly.
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anyone kno about the day after pill? can u get it over the counter? (link)
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It really depends on where you live. You can get it from Planned Parenthood or most emergency rooms.
Please get it as soon as possible.
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