im 13/f, 7th grade. i mean, i have alot of friends, but some of them i hardly even see anymore, so then we kinda become less close. like friends who i was real close with in the past turned out to be just friends for the year since we were in the same teams. some of the friends stuck, but those were only the ones that i saw pretty often, like people living in my neighborhood, in my classes, or that i talk to on aim. how can i remain close with my other friends after a new schoolyear starts and god forbid we're in different classes? i mean my friends from my neighborhood are okay.. but i dont think i'll ever find a best friend that lives near me or even a best friend at all. so then like people you've known from some years before.. its like you never even knew them since people change and you havent seen them in a bit. -sigh- i've only had good friends sometimes. it makes me sad that like everyone else have people they can call best friends. im the type of person who likes belonging to a clique, that has other friends too, but like the people in the clique and some others are my bests. maybe i just need to hang out around them more?
but i have this friend whos in like all my classes, and i've known her since last year. i thought she'd be pretty cool but she ended up being like.. 1/2 the time she was tired and whenever i wanted to talk like during spare time at school she thought what i was talking about was weird, stupid, or she acted like she didnt care like if i had a problem. then she'd have a problem and tell me and she wouldnt ask but i'd help her because..well im giving like that. and now she sits at a diff table in literacy with a girl she told me she didnt even like! ugh! its becoming kinda annoying now.. before i thought she could become my bestie but i guess not.. its like i cant fully be myself around her or completely enjoy it, since i like to have fun and be crazy and stuff but shes usually pretty reserved and said herself she doesnt have like any friends at all. i dont like that... i mean i dont care if she has no friends or a billion but i want her to atleast seem like she WANTS to be friends with me. cause in literacy where we sit together, we got to choose seats and im not really that good friends with anyone else in the class.. well some people, but i dont just wanna barge to their table and be like " can i sit here " when i havent talked to them that much. except for one girl there.. i'll ask her to sit with me tomorrow. and my friend from before just left the table without telling me.. i was actually concerned, thinking she was sick or something. i was pissed and asked her where she was and said she was sitting with ashlee. and its not just her who does that. i have some friends in my neighborhood who are like indian and muslims. im african. at times i feel like they understand each other better because they kinda live life the same ways.. and i dont really since im not their religions and such. sometimes i feel kinda left out because.. i dunno.. like sometimes they'd exclude me, like today. one of the girls was mad at something and was crying.. and i didnt know what happened because i dont sit with them on the bus (but i've known them since i was in like 2nd grade and we've walked back from school together since then too) and the girl who was crying didnt want me to know. things like that happen all the time and sometimes it feels like im changing myself so they wont be like "none of your business" or something.. and..... just other things too. i miss gym so much. i hung out with 4 girls there that i luvved to death but now i have stupid health. having so much fun in gym often made me feel better if i had a crappy day.. but now i have health and i have made other good friends there too.. so i like health as well. um i dont know how to summarize this.. but like generally how can i make a best friend from my current friends or a new friend who i'll totally looove and she'll love me back!
hehe sorry this was long.
you loose friends, but you gain freinds. When makign friends, become close to the ones who you have most in common with and talk to outside of school. one of my freinds was told by someone else that they arejust school friends, (she always tells me stories of how the girl never invites her over or is always busy). So beware of girls that are "jsut school friends"
take your time finding a best friend. you might think you fouind one but you really havent. i can relate to most of your bottom paragraph...essay...novel. lol. i have a few friends who will ramble about themselves and there pointless stories and ask for countless umbers of advice, but when i talk they sometimes dont care or if the storie is out of the norm, they call me messed up, weird, or a freak. and im like your supposed to be my friend. But i started to fight back latley. ive gotten so much crap for not being fake or like everyone else. whenever a friend or an aqquantaince calls me a weirdo or a freak or is meanly-sarcastic after i say something, i say shut up. dont even start with me today. your the freak. stop calling people freaks. so dont let someone diss you like that
also its soo annoying when people say shxt about someone or says they hate them, then goes and becomes there bff or acts like they love them. If someone else of your friends says they dont really like someone and then acts like there bestfriend or becomes there bestfriend in a short amount of time (like a week, day, month) then they have a fake personality,. you can tell right off the bat with most people if they are fake or real. dont become best freinds with someone like that either
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ive been friends with this girl for like 3 years..shes really bossy to me and all my friends. like if we say something she doesnt agree with shell say something like are you friggen retarded? or your so stupid. but she says these things like constantly. and alot of the times when we say something shell like slap our arms or something and shes a big girl and were all pretty small and it hurts and if we tell her to stop it hurts she just say oo boo hoo. she told me once i treat her like shit because i leave her out of the crowd and i wanted to say mabye if you were nicer i wouldnt but i knew if i said that she would get mad. how do i deal with something like this. me and my friends are tired of this.
you deffinitly dont need her. If she continues this, tell her straight up "we treat you bad, maybe because you basically harass and assault us." because basically if someone hurts you physically on purpose, its assault..even if you are 'freinds'. she hits you, its assault. and calling anyone names is harrassment. and then maybe you could say "if you change your additude and how you act towards people, maybe they would want to be around you and include you.."
it might sound mean but if you dont do it, no one will, and she will continue to walk all over you guys.
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I have alot of friends, but not alot of best freinds..people i wuld consider bffs. ANyways, i'll be talking to one freind and then another one will come and we'd all be talking, then the 2 would have to go to there lockers and would meet me at class soon, but i have a huge feeling in my gut they are now talking shit about me at there lockers. do you think they r or do u think that im being paranoid.
i dont think you really want people who make you feel as if they are talking about you. but i think its more a self confidence issue. Earn some trust i feel that way alot but i get over it. you should too. its probably a mind thing.
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i wish i had 1 best friend that i could share all my secrets with, and that would be like better than all my other friends and stuff. but most of my friends are just good friends and stuff.. but what do you consider to be best friend material? idk if we're more than good friends yet.. even the ones i've known forever. or maybe they are, but like i still dont think i've found someone that like completely blew me away and that i'd totally know is my best best friend. :/ how do i get one? How do i find one? im always hoping for a new kid in the neighborhood or in my class at school and that we'd click and become best friends. -sigh- what should i do?
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im basically going through the same thing. i have alot of good friends that i can talk about some stuff with, but not just one person i can depend on and will always have my back. But find someone who doesnt critisize you, only helps you. One who doesnt care what your wearing, and sees behind the clothes. and someone who you arent scared to talk about anything with and won't judge you or disagree in a mean/snobby way. and someone who you are nice with and arent worried when they walk the opposite direction in school w/ smeone else, that they are talking about you.
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my friend is getting abused by her boyfreind but she doesnt know it. i can tell, because she says "i called him an a$$hole and then he slapped me., but i forgive him because you know, if he called me a b***** i would slap him" or how she says "me and him had sex, i didnt really feel like it but i mean i am his girlfreind, i kinda HAVE to". and how he can check her phone atleast once a day. She just says its him making sure that noone is calling her that could harm her. Oh please the only harm that she has is him. What should i do? Ive told her a few times its considered abuse if he hurts her in anyway, and forcing her to have sex, even if shes his girlfriend, is rape. And checking peoples phones to make sure they arent calling anyone or texting anyone they shouldnt is basically violation of trust and privacy. She just won't listten. and won't report it. WHAT SHULD I DO? Hes even starting to not let her hang out with me and her other friends
You should get proof and take it upon yourself to tell the police. maybe video recordings of there fights. because you know its legal to video tape someone for proof, but its illegal (w/o warrent) to audio record for proof. Or tell her parents that she is getting abused by her boyfreind. MOST likley they can stop it. No one should have go through that, not even the meanest person you know.
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my friend, called KT (katie) all of a sudden started doing drugs. i dont know what kinds exactly, but she is. Alcohol, ciggarettes, and probably pot. we're sophmores, soon to be juniors. I can't talk to her like i used to & when i try to she just says 'im critisizing her' which im not. I am just asking her about her day. Is this habit of partying going to stay with her until she graduates or not graduate..becuase i can already see her grades are slipping compared to last years Honors report cards. i just dont know what to so with her, she has turned into a B****!
Dude, girls like that won't ever listen, trust me. It basically has to take an injury or a death of them or there freinds who are doing drugs for anyone to realize what they are doing is wrong. You might not want this but you should tell her parents. shes underaged and you never know what they are acually doing at her little parties...they could all be having, idk, like group sex or something weird..or just ignore her. If she doesnt like you anymore, just because you arent into that stuff, then just dont even try..it would be pointless even trying. she'll realize she's being dumb EVENTUALLY.
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Hi there...I'm 14...And I had a fight with my friend over just the most STUPIDEST thing. It was about who composed a song (namely the Beatles). And on AIM, it started off as an argument, but pretty soon we started to curse each other out and those kinds of things. Some of the things she said made me question our friendship after all. The other things she stated hurt me so much, (it was on a personal level and she literally sank my heart by saying those kinds of things, which, frankly, friends shouldn't say). And even though I insulted her, it wasn't as BAD as she insulted me... Now we're not talking and haven't been for 2 weeks..I just don't know what to do. :( I'm confused who's the bad and who's the good person...
no one is the bad, and no one was the good. i think that you just werent that good of freinds to begin with and you guys found an exuse to get your rage and anger for eachother out. to argue about who composed a song. It may seem like a stupid fight, but the fight about the beatles was a stupid fight, the fight you had after it (when you yelled at eachother) was deffinitly built rage. maybe she will calm down and talk to you again, and maybe she wont. but you should know, if she does, she was a true freind and she just got mad, and if she doesnt, it prooves my theory right, that you werent fighting over the beatles, it was probably built rage.
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k i was hanging out with a few friends and we started messing around and things between one of my friends and me got really out of controll and now thing are awkward between us and now he wont talk to me.. and i dunno if its something i did or said
or if he just doesnt know wat to say
he confuses me i dunno wat to do about him
and to make it even worse i had a bf when things got out of controll and now he is my ex and i broke his heart and when im around him i get upset cuz i feel bad and dont know wat to say to him
were you guys drunk? well anyways, i never agree with cheating. this might sound veryy veryy bad, but you should feel bad. you basically are saying you cheated on your boyfriend. i hate to say this, but your trust with him will never mend and he probably wont want to talk to you.
the freind you 'got out of control' with, probably thought of you only as a freind, and just got caught up in the moment, and all. and now MOST LIKLEY he just doesnt know what to say, because if i was in his place, it would be awkward for me to talk to you. so maybe if you give your freind time, he might talk with you again.
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