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Q: ok im in a lot of trouble...here it goes, me, one of my best friends staci and her cousin nick got drunk at a party at her house(were all 13 and this is our first time getting drunk)...her aunt let us drink...so me and nick had like 5,6 straight shots and staci only had like 2. so me and nick were smashed and staci was a lil drunk...we went on stacis trampoline and we finally fell and were just laying there...i dont know i was being weird and was saying shit like"i love you guys, your the best, im glad we did this together." and i looked over at nick and we started hooking up he had his hand on my ass and i didnt mind, i had my hands all over him(not on his dick or anything) and we were making out for a while, my other best friend jessica likes him alot. but i was so drunk to even remeber that. staci finally relized what was going on and pull us off of each other and we were like what are you doing stop..and then she started freaking out and was like i need to call jessica i need to call jessica..and nick was trying to talk to her and i was like nick i love you and he was like yea i love you to..and he looked over and gave me a lil kiss. well jessica came over to stacis house and put me to bed and i fell alseep

this is wat nick said to staci about wat happened
-he said i was ontop of him and he would of stopped but he couldnt(while we were hooking up he kept saying i love u to me and he could of said stop, so that was a lie)
-staic said someone was holding her hands down he said he wasnt(like i said my hands were all over him so his one hand that wasnt on my ass must of been holding her hands down)

so now staci and jessica hate me and they believe what nick says and he was lying and they wont believe me..i cant even look at them any more and i tried to tell them when you get drunk you dont really relize whats going on..and jessica said she asked her sister and her sister said that u do relize whats going on when your drunk im soo mad and upset at the same time..i dont know wat i can say to jessica and staci so they know im sorry and that i was drunk and it wasnt really my fault

arrite, well im 16 i drink all the time. shit like that has happened to me but alot worse, you have to give them a little time to cool off, try talking to them online. if it doesnt work.. write them a note apologizing and explaining the situation. if that doesnt work, call them.. and then finally go to there house.. sit them down and talk to them.. there your bestfriends.. tell them when your drunk its a diffrent world, you seriously dont have any control, especially if it was your first time... my bestfriend finally forgave me. if you try all that. ask me for more advice and i will tell you exactly what to do. im so sorry this happened to you, some people are just stubborn and too immature to realize how drinking effects your brain. good luck sweetheart.

Q: Im 15/f

Ive posted a question about my ex"friend" recently. (she was a "friend" at the time) She was judging all of my friends and always tagged along and was boring and couldnt continue a conversation. well, on wednesday at lunch time one of my friends gave me a note so i was walking and reading it, and then i hear footsteps next to me and someone dragging their feet, it was that "friend" and she was following me around again without talking..when she came up she didnt even say hi. *shrugs*.

Anyways yesterday we had the same class together and she now has made a new friend in that class (whos racist against me and is trash to be honest) So when she had someone else she pretened like i wasnt there and didnt try to talk to me (which is a good thing) so at lunchtime when she usually follows me around she now hangs out with her trashy racist new friend. After school like at night time she IMed me and said "can you do me a favor" so i made up an excuse and said i was busy.

Today i totally ignored her cause i have other people to hang out with because i always talk to random people cause im not shy. She on the other hand had noone so she hung out with a shy quiet girl that she always judged and said bad stuff about. I sit next to that girl in the class we have after lunch so she told me that my ex "friend" was talking about how she doesnt want to be my friend anymore. (which is SUCH a good thing, finally she got the point)

Anyways sorry this was wrong but i need advice on what to do from now on cause she and her racist friend are in my group in one of our classes.

Arrite first off, racist people are just plain ridiculous. And that "friend" seems a little stalker-ish, Now since you have to be in a group with them, either tell the teacher you need to switch groups, or just Do your part of the project, ignore them and just get it over with. In the mean time, IM your "friend" tell her you know what she said and tell her that your glad, because you dont need a friend like her anyways.

Hope it helped!
xOxO

Q: one of my best guy friends, lets just say named steve, just told me today that he tried cutting his wrist tha other night..i saw the cut, it was TINY but still it was a cut..i dunno if he is trying to get attention or if he is serious..because the cut looked like it was from a longggg time ago and he said he just recently had done it..i dunno what to say to him because no matter what, real or not, i have to support him, etc...he is like the happiest pesron i know,but i guess i dont know anymore...help

Well Cutting is a serious thing... and some people do it for attention but others think that it really helps... obviously your friend is going through alot... you should really have a deep conversation with him and see whats bothering him... alot of my friends and i have had cutting problems.. (we got through it luckily) but.. your friend is going through alot right now the best you can do is be there and listen... he needs you the most right now.. Hope i helped