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Q: Okay. im going to a new school next year, so ive been asking alot of questions on how to be like outgoing and stuff. but i was just wondering, is there a line between trying to be outgoing and funny and stuff even if its already hard for you, and then being fake?
because i know that im not just like a quiet person, becuase when im with my friends.. i can be all crazy and stuff. but when im around other people who i dont no, im really shy. and i dont want to be something im not.. but still..
idk if this makes since.. but basicly is that being fake?

no, being fake would be something your totally not. being outgoing is something good to be. you want to be outgoing and just work on talking more and have a fun time and no your not being fake if your going to be outgoing

Q: my name is michelle 14 years old.
i'm interested a little within this boy named rick.
he is "interested" in me too, but we are good friends.
rick asked me to send him "sexy pics"
but i am not like that!
what's a good way of saying no so that he doesn't think i'm prude/mean/ or not interested in him anymore?
i just want a quick thing to say to him, nothing stupid or long.

just tell him no and that you don't want to be like that unless you are in a meaningful relationship

Q: My best friend can't stand to be single. She just moved to a new city for a job, so I know she is kind of lonely but she is fallen in with a guy who was fooling around with her very heavily while he was still with his girlfriend of two years. When I went to visit her a few weeks ago he didn’t exactly make a good impression on me. I was there for three days and I never saw him sober, I saw him give a lap dance to two other girls and cuddle with another, and although I was friendly and trying to get to know him better he didn't just ignore me, he was flat out rude to me. I have a hard time to believe he'd treat the best friend so shabbily (or do all the other jackassy things I saw him do) if he was really serious about her.

Now whenever I talk to her all she ever wants to talk about is how wonderful he is or bad-mouth his girlfriend. I'm sick to death of hearing her swoon over this awful guy and bad mouth the girl he is cheating on! Of course she is suspicious and needy. I wonder why she’d feel that way? Maybe because he is cheating on her!

My friend says I’m not being supportive of her and that if I can’t just be happy for her she doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. Is there anyway I can let her know that I don't have a problem with her being happy with this guy but I'm not going to lie and pretend he is prince charming when he clearly isn't? Also, how can I explain to her that bad mouthing the girl he is cheating on with her is just plain rotten and bitchy?

I’m not very impressed with her right now, but she is still my friend...

i can say your older than i am but my best friend and her boyfriend are the same way on a lower scale, hes a jerk to everyone but her and it seems all he wants to do is get in her pants and makeout with her. i try to talk to her about him but she says im just jealous and annoying but i just don't like him. ive tried to break them up a few ways and none work so i've come to the really bad conclusion that there is nothing i can do unless my friend wants to listen to me. so i'm guessing it will be the same for you, just start to stop going everywhere with them and if she is a good friend she should notice and ask you about it. just if and when they break up just be there for her don't be like i told you so and all that be there for her

Q: Hey, I just realized I like my best friend Alex. I have known her since we were in jr. high. But I don't know how to tell her I love her. Thanks for any help.

Frodo

whatever you do don't spring it on her and be like alex i love you! just start hanging out with her and flirting a little see if she flirts back. if she does it doesn't mean she deff likes you but some people are just flirts but there could be a chance. just ease your way into it and then when you feel ready ask her out

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Hey Hey Everyone,
I'm Ashlee,
Most people call me Ashlee
But i personally like Ash better
I'm 14 years old
And this coming school year
I will be a Freshman in Highschool
I have anxiety&&depression
I was diagnosed with anxiety when i was like 7
The depression was so scary and i never want to
fell like that again.

If you Ever have anything you need to talk about anxiety or depression please please please feel free to ask me anything, i know what your going through.

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my hair is never perfect
i drop tons of stuff
i get embaressed a lot
my makeup gets messed up
i am not very good in math
i actually suck in math
my friends and i fight
my mom and i don't get along at times
my room is normally a mess
and i don't get my homework done till that day before class.

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