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i have a really close group of friends. and usually i have a lot of fun with them, sometimes i can't stand them. but today was just terrible.

i had the most problems today with one of my better friends lexi. she was just being taking me to seriously and always contradicting herself by what she was telling me. but the thing that really upset me what in social studies. i have that class with lexi, my best friend, and another close friend.

well, sometimes i say stuff and i don't know why like it's weird but i can't control what i say sometimes.. well i started making fun of deaf people and stutters because i was watching a show last night about them. i know what i said was wrong and i wish i could take it back so don't judge me too harshly.

anyways then lexi said 'you know i'm going to laugh hysterically when you go to hell.' and it was just so mean the way she said it like i saw evil in her eyes. but that really bothered me. and it didn't help that my other friend joins in and says 'yeah, me too.' (and she doesn't believe in that stuff) THEN my best friend says stuff too. i can't really recall what she said but she was definately against me.

it didn't feel nice to be ganged up on so i just ignored them and didn't talk to them the rest of the day.

if it bothered me that much that they said that, like i almost started crying and i don't cry at all, does that make me such a bad person.

i just am really upset by that so if you have any advice on what to do please help.

also, i'm sorry this is so long but if you read it all thanks.

honestly, just by this story, i would say that they aren't true friends. i know this use to happen to me sort of and i dont like confrontation, so i didnt want to go up to my friend and say why i wasnt talking to her. so one day online she IMed me and asked if i was mad, so then i dealt with it that way. but if you feel comfortable saying it to her face, then definitely bring it up. neither of them should say things like that, if anything they shouldve just said, "that was mean, you shouldnt make fun of them."
it sounds like the girl who said "yeah me too" is probably a follower and wants to be like lexi so she probably didnt really mean it. but lexi seems like a bitch (no offense) whos insecure with herself so she says stupid shit to her friends.
its possible she was having a bad day and didnt really mean what she said, but if this is a constant thing where she says hurtful things to you, i'd say try finding some new friends. good luck and sorry this is so long.

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Now, I have these two friends. Their both my best friends, and I love them both dearly. I like one more than the other but thats not the point. Lets say that my best friend that I'm friends with more's name is Ayumi, and the other is Aya. I know it isn't my problem to solve but...it's been bothering me.
You see, it all started when Aya got mad at Ayumi for taking a play fight too far, Ayumi left a scar of Aya's hand, and Aya was pretty mad about that. They made up, or so I heard, but now Ayumi is mad at Aya for whatever reason I don't know. Almost everyday I ask Ayumi if her and Aya are going to be friends anytime soon. She says probably not, but I want them to! And Aya's been really sad lately. What can I do or what can they do to help settle things with each other?

I don't know if there's a lot you can do because it's pretty much their problem. But you should get together with both of them one day and just hang out. They'll probably just start to talk again and their fight could be forgotten. Or you can tell Ayumi that Aya's been sad, and Ayumi might feel bad and apologize. I'm sorry if this didn't help, but maybe they just need some time.

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Hello! My friend keeps leaving me out now and i dont know why. She never talks to me or answers my questions anymore and she now talks to two other girls that dont talk to me and when we do all get to hang out together...they talk and they communicate but i am left saying nothing. We never sit with eachother at lunch or be parteners together for school and it makes me depressed all the time!! I dont know why but can someone please give me advice? Thanks

I have a friend just like that. I try to ignore her when she's around her "new and better" friends. I'm sure you have other friends that you can talk to when she's busy talking to the two other girls. I've been friends with my friend for almost 8 or 9 years, so when she first started to get new friends who were more popular than me, I wasn't really sure how to deal with it. But after maybe 2 years of her and her new friends I realized that I have better friends who will talk to me no matter who we're around. You might feel like she's embarassed by you when she's with her, but don't be. Just walk away and find another one of your friends to talk to. Believe me, it's not worth worrying about too much. I'm not telling you to never be friends with her again, but just try not to get too obsessed over it. Hope I helped.

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ok so my friend spent the night with me for the first time 2 nights ago. and she was just admiring my earings, well today when i went to school she has that on and my shark tooth necklace. i said those are my earrings, and thats my necklace. and she goes "no my mom made me go to clairs with her". ok 1. she lied to me bkuz when i gt home i looked everywhere for them and 2. she stole from me. what mom "makes" their daughter go to clairs with her. not her mom, i know her mom. i am sooo mad at her, what should i do? i really want to tell her mom bkuz i really want to get her in trouble, please help, i'm desperate! thx...

I know how you feel, because my friend was over my house for graduation and we were doing our hair. I was using a shine spray and then I left for a second and I came back and it was gone. I never thought anything of it and then one day I saw it in her room.

So, you should say something to her again, or, I know this might be hard to do, but take it back when she's not around. It seems like its the wrong thing to do, but really it's yours anyway right? I didn't get my shine spray back because I'm a coward and I don't have the guts to take it back. Don't ask me why. But, yeah, your right. No mom MAKES a daughter go to Claire's and FORCE her to buy the same exact thing she just complimented you on.

Hope I helped.

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I just recently moved to a new town a few weeks ago. I started school today and I talked to a view people but didn't seem to meet anyone friendly. Is there a good way to make new friends at a new school? the school is actually really small compared to my old school. Any help is appreciated thank you.

join sports team or clubs. talk to people and act intrested in the topic (even if you arent). try to just get to know at least one person who is in your lunch maybe and then ask to sit with them and chat with everyone at the table. when new people come to my school, i an always intrested like i wanna know about them. so hopefully people at the table will be too and you'll make friends. hope i helped

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