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Hey im Porsche and im 16! finally! I am a christian with strong beliefs and i am proud of it! I live in England and love to advise people and be able to help them. I do it alot with my friends and they have wacky problems sooo ive probably heard about quite alot! My friends think my advise is good and i hope you do to! I can only really give advise on relationships and mental health becuase thats what i studied soo anything else i will suck at haha! If you need help or advise dont be affriad to ask send me an email! God Bless!
xox Porsche

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okay i really need advice. i'm desperate.

i have this friend since i've known for almost 4 years, and we were extremely close last year and people said we were unseperable. this year were still friends but were just not as close and i miss it because last year she was always there for me when i was really sad and she always made me feel better.

this year i'll see her in school (i usually hang out with her in a group) and A. she'll completely ignore me. or B. she'll be like "i really not interested in what you have to say" but when it's just me and her with no one around she'll talk to me really nice and stuff. but im really getting sick of her acting like this but i just don't know what to do because last year she was always there for me and she made me feel soo good and she made me feel like i was loved she was like the sister i never had and i dont want to just ditch her but ughh i just don't know what should i do? thank you soo much

heyyy
its really hard too loose such an awesome friend like this trust me i know! i really dont wana say this but it sounds like shes using you because when shes around others she doesnt talk 2 you but when your alone you get on great. Best friends are supposed to be there for you whenever not just when they want to be! im sorry hun but i think the best thing to do would be to try and find another best friend because people change and she sounds like she has. Try not to spend as mcuh time with her and make new friends and i know it might be hard but its horrible the way shes treating you. You deserve better than that everyone does. Honest hun its for the best but its really up to you. Or you could talk 2 her about the way you feel and if she is really your freind shell change the way she is with you and if she doesnt your better off without her. Try and talk!
i Hope ive helped
xox Porsche

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Ok, Well About 2 Months Ago I Started Cutting Myself(Dont Wory I Stoped 4 Good) And I Told My Friend, And Then The Next Day She Comes To School And Shes All Like Look I Cut Myself Too. We All Know Shes Doing It 4 Attention But We Cant Get Her To Stop, And She Dose It Non Stop And Rillie Badly,She Always Tells Us Shes Gonna Stop But She Never Dose And She Keeps On Doing It, And Its All Up Her Arms. And To Top This Of She Has And Eating Disorder, I Dont Know What To Do. She Went To The Docter About The Eating Disorder , But She Wont Tell her Dad. I Dont Know What To Do Cuz Its Getting Rillie Bad =[

Hey!
well i did that for a couple of months and i could never understand the amount of pressure i was putting on my friends. But i understnad now how horrible it is for a friend of someone doing this becasue they care about you soo much. Your friend obviously has a problem now becuase she cant stop. after a couple of weeks for me i just began to do it out of habbit! i could have been the happiest bunny ever but i would still cut something on me! it was addictive. This could be exactly what your friend is going through because she started for attnetoin but now its out of habbit and she possibly just couldnt stop. youve got to talk 2 her about it and talk 2 her about how upsetting it is for you because your her friend and hate to see her like this. Also one way to help her stop is to tell her Dad or convince her to do it! i know if you tell him for her she will not be happy at first but in the end she will thank you for it! it sounds like your friend has some problems/issues she might not be telling you about because she also has an eating disorder. Not Good. Try talkin 2 her about all her problems. really let her get it all out. A problem shared is a problem halved. ALso your a fantastic friend to her becuase you really care about her. If its an addicitive thing tell her that everytime she cuts her self shes causing soo much more damage than she realises. I stopped over a year ago and well my scares are still with me today and everytime i see them i think what on earth did i do that for. it really pains me and sometimes i cry about it! soo just tell her that it may feel good now but when she finally realsies what shes doing later in life shell really hate it. Also try and get her mind onto somehting else like chocolate! Everytime she feels like cutting herself get her to eat chocolate. Or to do something she enjoys like one of her hobbies! i played hockey when i felt like cutting myself and i really helped. Shes lucky to have you as a friend you really care.
Sorry its sooo long XD
xox Porsche
Hope it goes ok hun!!

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okay so my bestfriend got this bf who she has been dating for awhile now and im really happy for her. But i just feel like she is always with him. she sees him every weekend bc he doesnt got to our school. she will ask if i wanna hangout with her but i dont want to bc her bf is there and it would feel weird help plzz

heya i had a similar prob but i think if you talk to her and say u would lik 2 spent some time with her on a weekend and explain that you dont want to dirft apart from each other then things should hopefully change for you. They did for me. Or you could hang out of a weekday night! bcos there is 5 of them and onli 2 weekend days! Tis just an idea! also just say that you dont want to be a goosburry and it makes you feel uncomfortable and since shes your best friend she would totally understnd!! i rle hope this helps xox Porsche

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okay i have a best friend name jackie, i've been friends with her since freshman, is an amazing friend to me. Well i found out that couple of days ago that she was going out with a freshman on our bus which i kinda knew that was going to happen anyways becasue they have been talking to each other alot and wirting notes and stuff. Well i don't feel werid about or anything iam just happy that jackie is happy whose she is with, well like whenever we want to hang out she doesn't usually hang out with me anymore as much as we used to or writing notes in school, well i asked her if i was still her best firend and all she siad yeah i love you as my best friend, but i have a feeling that she is going to talk crap about me her "girlfriend" because yesterday she was being mean to my sister, i don't remember what she siad, but like sometimes she is hanging out with her "girlfriend" she inviting her other friends, not me, that makes me not a friend to her, like did i do something worng, and she thinks that i give her dirty looks at her when she is around her girlfriend, which i kind of do, iam just jelous thats all, its that i don't know iam just confuseddd...someone help me here please.



thankss.

Heya! just an idea!! have you told her that you miss her and want to spend more time with her? I think that the earlier you tell her the happier you wil be! ofcorse she is going to spent alot of time with hte person she is with but you are evidently her best friend and there is soo nothing wrong with being jelous because you miss her! my best friend did the same to me! i missed her soo much that i told her and now i see her alot more! and i am so happy i did! i think you should to! If you just explain the dirty looks are just because you miss her and that you want to be her best friend still then she should understnd fully!! i rele hope this helps you!
xox Porsche

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okay so my best friend [ashley] and this other girl from her school [that i know] got in a "fight" & now they telling me to talk to the other person with their words. i always have to be this kind of person with ashley. im always stuck in the middle of these kind of situations with her. and sometimes i agree with the opposite person. but i dont want to make her feel that *I* dont want to be her friend.
omg
HELP
should i tell whats the truth even though it might mess up our four years of being best friends and should i try to stay out of the situation even though it might give the impression that i dont want to help?

Hey if she has been your best friend for the last 4 years then you will have created that relationship where you can tell her anything thats on your mind. You could tell her that you really feel uncomfortable being stuck in the middle in her fights and that you dislike it alot. and with therbeing your best friend she should take your feelings in concideration and stop making you do these things. You should tell her because she is your best friend and im sure shed hate to hear that she has been making you feel uncomfortable! She may not have realised! I rle hope this has helped.
xox Porsche

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okay, well. i started a new school back in like, September. and I still dont' have many friends. I have a group of people i talk too and stuff, but i kind of want to make friends with other people too. I'm normally really shy and hate to start conversations. and i'm always afraid of messing up or embarrasing myself.
any tips on how not be shy?

I am really rather shy but what i find with people i dont know i think that "people love to talk about themselves and everyone has a story to tell" soo to start off with i usually find myself listening to them and asking alot of questions and this is how i get to feel more comfortable aroung them and then i find its easier to talk about myself and then if you continue to listen then it should be less nerving about feeling like you may mess up! And everyone messes up and if you say something wrong then just pass it off as a joke! it usually works and its helps with your self confidence i find!!
I really hope this helps and good luck with the friend making!!
xox Porsche

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There's this girl named Jenna and she's a grade level higher than I am. She's my good friend and all but I envy her sometimes especially in the guy section. I'm gonna be mean and say that she's not the pretty skinny type or has that good of a personality. She's really bossy and controlling and kind of dull sometimes going on and on about dresses...

Well, I like these guys that are in her grade and they're good friends of mine also. The thing is that Jenna always seems to beat me to them some way or another. She doesn't know I like them--no one does--so it's not like she's stealing them from me deliberately. But this one guy that I am soo crushing on--she went out with him last year--twice. This other guy that I like, she went to homecoming with him.

I don't know what I'm doing when I try to act like her to see if the crushes will like me--I know sad. How do I control my envy and what should I do? And I'm not into the whole confronting her or telling people who I like. So what adivce can any of you guys give me on this?

Well i think you should definately be yourself and dont try and be anyone else because if you dont think she is pretty and has a rash personality then it will be very hard to be her and make it work! I think you should be yourself and go for guys that will like you for who you are! Because they are the ones that are going to stick around the longest and have better relationships with! You will have wonderfull plus sides to yourself and you should find them and exploit them more! If you need advice on how to catch a guys attention ask Jenna because she obviously knows how! And because shes your friend she should be happy to help, but my advice would be stop telling her who you like because if your affraid she may steal them then give her a false name or dont tell her at all! but i really hope some of this has helped!! and i hope it all works for you!
xox Porsche (tell me what you think please xx)

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ok so i have this friend who is well a slut,hoe,whore etc. and kind of a bad friend. whenever i like a guy and i tell her she flirts with him and all that slutty stuff and she does that in front of me trying 2 make me jelous and she tells me about how the guy i like was asking her 2 suck his dick and i waz annyed and waz like thing y iz she telling me this.a million guyz haz called her a ho3 and asked her 2 do stuff and she laughs.she walkz around with her shirt lifted up.and she just went 2 thiz guyz house in maryland(she skipped 2nd block) and she went 2 hiz room and....she did some pretty slutty stuff and i really want 2 tell her but i dont no3 how 2 say i just fell like yelling"YOU STUPID SLUT!!!" but unno 2 be realistic i hav no idea whart 2 do.please help.

Well i really hope this stuff helps haha:
If your best friends with her it will hurt alot to stand and see whats shes doin to you. You should definately talk to her and ask her to stop it because shes hurting you and if she really is a friend then she will. Or you could stop telling her who you fancy and then she wont know who to flirt with. Is she really worth hanging around with if shes a "bad friend"?? Also you worry about her soo you must be pretty good friends. How to tell her what guys think of her,,, Well you should just say you need to talk to her about something serious. And then just say something like this my hurt but i think you really need to know whats being said behind your back, and then just tell her. I agree some of the stuff she is doing isnt great and the things shes doing to you is soo selfish to her friend. You should really talk to her about both things for your sake and for hers. Shel thank you for it and so will you.
I really hope thats helpd cos ma ex best mate did the same to me!
good luck hunni XD
xoxPorsche

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Okay this might be a little confusing so I'm sorry if you dont get it. Okay I have three best friends N and CR are girls and L is a guy. CR is in love with C who she's had a weird chemistry since they were four. C likes N and N is starting to like C which makes CR really mad so she started using L as a distraction and she knows that I've been like in love with him for two years. Now when CR found out N and C kissed she asked L out and she's just using him!!! She told me herself she doesn't like him like she likes C and I don't know if I should tell L or not because he's so fricking clueless he's doesn't even know I like him!!!!!!

What should I do?!?!?!?!

(I need something)

Wowo now that was confusing. I think i get it. CR likes C but C likes N, and N likes C, soo CR is geleous and is using L as a distraction but L doesnt realise and You like L. Is that right? I hope soo
Well i CR is being ridiculous for using somebody like that. Im sorry to say this about your friend but it is soo mean and selfish. I think you have got to try and tell CR to stop it or if that fails tell L becuse he is the one that will probably get most hurt. He will thank you for it trust me. You may want to say something before CR and L get serious. As it can be extremely hard to say something to them. Maybe once all this has blown over you should try telling L how you feel because it could be for the best and then you dont have to see him get used again ( i am not saying he definately will)! You care for him soo tell him! Soo i hope this helps hunni!!
xox Porsche

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one friend that i have mentioned before has been relly gettin on ma last nerves. i was late for skool one day went up behind her and said "boo" the girl turned around and punched me in the face and i was ready to scream and cry but i didn't.All i could do was hold my nose.Then, another day i was in the lunchroom and i tripped on her bookbag and fell on her and she took he hand and dug her nails into my wrist and i started bleeding. i have been in so many arguements wit her and she says stuff behind peoples' backs. it wasn't pretty. please try to answer me right now!!! THANKS!!! and she said she is very nice. HA!!

It sounds like you could like without her and that is what i would recomend. You dont need this extra type of stress whilst at school. You could report her onominously because violence like that at school isnt need and should be against the rules. Try and avoid her as much as possible and in the long run she will loose alot of friends. She should see that shes doing sumthing wrong and change her attitude. But if not its her loss in the long run hun you are far nicer than that. hope it helps.
xox Porsche

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