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My name is Kacie and I'm 16 years old. It's always good to get another person's opinion on your problems and maybe an outsider will have more insight on the situation! Hope I can help you out.

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this is gonna be long so bare with me!

i was dating this guy from December 23rd to April 24th. he broke up with me because he said that he never got to see me enough. i thought i was in love with him and i would have given up everything for him. i was ready to give him my virginity. i didn't though (thank god) because i found out that he was going around and messing with other girls. i had begged him before i found that out to come back to me and he said "when we start school i'll think about it because i still do love you." well about a month later i met this really amazing guy named tim and we've been together since may 22nd and i love him more than anything in the world. he treats me so great and he would never hurt me like that. i started school today and this girl that i've known since i was really little, she had gone to another elementry school than me, i found out that she might go out with him. i told her not to because of the things he did to me. she wouldn't believe me at all. so i told her if you want to go out with him, fine, but if you come crying to me telling me that he's been messing around with other chicks i'm just gonna say i told you so. she said okay. she told me later in the day that he still had feelings for me and now she's not sure if she wants to go out with him or not.she won't believe anything i say! she thinks i'm just doing it because i'm jealous and i'm not. i love my boyfriend and i DO NOT like this other guy anymore and today i found out that she gave him HEAD and that's she's not a virgin. If she did that to him then that's the only reason why he's gonna want to be with her is because of that. and if he finds out that she's had sex then he's gonna want to have sex with her as well. He treats girls like shit and i can't take it... she came up to me today saying "em, it makes me really annoyed that you say that stuff about rob and it's not even true." i was like okay... and you definately know first hand? she's only known him for a month... NOT EVEN! THEY ARENT EVEN DATING! should i just be straight forward and tell her what he's gonna want from her? or should i let her get hurt?

You already told her your opinion, it's your turn to step away from the situation and let things happen as they will happen. People have to learn for themselves. Imagine if someone had told you the things you are telling her when YOU were going out with him, when you were in love with him. Would you have wanted to listen? The most you can do is hope for the best. **Kacie**

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alrighty then my best friend that i've been bests friends w/ for like 4 yrs won't speak to me. and i had no idea why until yesterday --- i'm going out w/ chris and i just found out that she had feelings for him and i told her that i'd break up w/ him just so she could try to have him and she wont say a word and i try to talk to her but she just ignores me so i dont know if i should break up w/ chris...i mean i really really like him and he treats me right.....doesnt try to have sex w/ me, he just holds my hand and kisses me, and is always there when i need him most...i just dont know wat to do...help please i need it
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Your friend is being selfish. Did you know she liked him before you guys started going out? If not, how can she expect you to know? She shouldn't hold it against you and it is really immature to use the silent treatment instead of talking it out. Tell her that you really wanna keep being friends but you don't like how she's treating you and you wanna talk your problems out. If she doesn't listen then put her on the back burner until she's ready to talk to you and go on with your relationship. **Kacie**

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hey i like my 2nd best friend hes also my best friends ex b/f should i like him or should i froget about him she says its ok but is she really ok with it

REgardless of wether or not she's okay with it ... she SAID she was. So if it messes stuff up later or she brings it back up you always have that ammunition. And when that comes around, which it might .. tell her that you took what she said to heart and you thought she was being honest with you but if you had even once thought she wasn't okay you wouldn't have done it and you're really sorry she feels that way.

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I have a long time friend who has turned.....slutty. She doesn't think anything that she is doing is wrong at all. How do I get her back to well.....her? What do I say or do?

Well you said it was a long time friend so you should prbly be really careful when talking about it to her because you don't wanna lose her completely. Tell her how you feel and if she doesn't listen then oh well at least you tried. Just don't hang out with her when she's doing something you don't agree with... just because she has became this way doesn't mean she isn't the same person you were friends with before. **Kacie**

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Hey, i had a friend problem, like 2 months ago. All my friends had ditched meeh cause they thought i was a bad influenced and i had hurt them too much..when i don't do drugs i dont smoke,. i dont know why they did that. Now they think that i've made a mistake they can never be my friiend again, what do ii do!?

Kimmey

Tell them that one mistake hasn't changed who you are and why they were friends with you in the first place. Ask them if they wanna start over and maybe they can help you stay on the right track even though you plan to from now on!

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