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Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

you're probably just jealous because theres another main girl in his life and you arent getting as much attention. that shouldnt be a problem though because he should have time for both of you. its normal to be jealous but eventually you'll get used to it. good luck

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ok this is wicked embarassing but im a 14 year old boy and im not alot like my friends. i get scared wicked easily. i hate it! i hav panick attax wen im outside in the dark.after i saw the movie The Village(which sucked) i couldnt get those creatures out of my head and ive had a hard time sleeping ever since. wen me and my friend saw it i kept grabbing the arms on the seat(not his arms of course} and he kept asking me if i was feeling ok and he sed that my face was all white and harfly ever blinked. i just wanna no how i can stop being afraid so that wen i c a scary movie w/ a girl im not the one huddled up againstt her

i hate scary movies too. i saw the village a few weeks ago and i thought it was gonna scare the crap out of me. it wasnt that bad but i still huddled up next to the girl i was sitting next to. but anyways i hate scary movies so i gotta remember that duh someone hadtove made it. like a producton crew and that its not real. its not like its a true story. if it was then how would someone just coincidentally be able to tape it? thats at least what i think. if youre still freaked out about the village creatures then remember that even the movie said that they werent real. and plus even that one time that someone did dress up as the red thing (if you've seen angels in the outfield) the person dressing up was danny hemmerling the utility infielder (from angels in the outfield). when i couldnt go to sleep i just remembered that even though i was scared as hell that the person in the red costume was psyco and had a bloody mouth that it was only danny hemmerling. its weird but it works

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I have this friends and I really like her like more than a friend. A couple of months after we became friends I asked her out but she thought that it would be better if we stayed friends. After that was said, we became much closer and im kinda getting signals. what should I do, I really like her?

you should ask her out again if shes sending you signals. the best that could happen is that you two go out, and the worst that could happen is that she just says that you should stay friends like last time. so either way you cant lose if she reacts the same way as last time.

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okay well i've knownone of my friends sence the 6th grade and she was so sweet before and in the 7th she beganacting a little kinda slutty but now in the 8th she doesn't even much talk to me when she's around her group of friends that don't like me y don't they like me i dunno i never did anything to them but thats a PI (personal issue)so i wont get into that but ya she doesnt even talk to me no more and meand her were so close but now its like she will let boiz touch up on her and she just turned 13 and her bf is 22 or 21 i think.I don't like that at all i told her and she is like okay wutever and im trying to watch her back but she's just a LITTLE gurl and that guy is in his 20's he expects things and im trying to get her to understand but apperntly im the only one that cares cause her friends that don't like me agree with the relationship and i dunno wut do 4get about our friendship or keep on nagging her about it cause i do get tired trying to watch her back but i dont wannasee her suffer .so i dunno wut i can do and i wish that the old her came out but everytime i bring that up she gets offended and assumes that im just JELOUS (im not i dunno where she gets that idea from?!?!?!)plz help me!!!

13-year-old going out with a 20-year-old... hmm...i wonder if thats true love. probably not. i dont know what this guy is trying to accomplish by going out with an eighth-grader but it cant be good. if her new friends are really her friends, they should tell her that going out with a twenty-year-old isnt cool. it seems like you have your head on straight more than they do. even if she thinks youre jealous, gets offended, and is even annoyed of you, don't stop telling her that shes doing the wrong thing. one person can make a difference, and trust me, she'll thank you in the long run. good luck

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All right, so, I'm 14/f, and this is basically about my guy friend, Jarrod. He really likes one of my best friends, Cora. He has liked her a really long time, and I was the first person he told after almost a year of liking her. He knows he can trust me not to tell anyone because I am an excellent secret-keeper, and so far I have told no one.
Although I did tell him that he should just tell her. Because I had to do that with this guy I liked, and everything turned out fine. But Jarrod and I both know that Cora doesn't really like him that way, although she really cherishes their friendship, I can tell. I told him that if he didn't do it by the end of this school year, I would tell her. (It's also sort of hard to keep this kind of thing from a best friend of yours for this long, even if Jarrod is a good friend too.)
And now, almost completely out of the blue, Jarrod told me that he's not sure why he told me in the first place, that there are other people he should have told before me, and that he doesn't want me privy to his love life anymore, and that I can't, under ANY circumstances, tell Cora. He also said that there is a personal reason that he doesn't want to tell Cora, and that he could not and WOULD not tell me.
What do I do? Why has Jarrod all of a sudden turned on me? Should I tell Cora and risk Jarrod's trust? HELP!!

Sorry about the long question...I rate!

i wouldnt tell cora yet. if you wait until the end of the school year, maybe jarrod won't like cora anymore, or maybe jarrod will have already asked her out. if there's a possibility that something could change, i would wait for a while. i dont think jarrod has turned on you, but its probably just that he thinks he cant trust you. if you keep this secret then youll gain back his trust and plus like i said before, who knows whatll happen from now until later. the personal reason is probably the biggest reason he cant tell cora. no problem about the long question, but for right now id just say wait and see what happens before you tell cora. good luck

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A friend of mine has recently put on some extra weight, yet she continues to wear the same clothes that are obviously to small for her. While in her bathing suit she said she didn't understand why it was so small, and that it must have shrunk. I don't know if she realizes the truth or if she is in denial.

I am her good friend, should I tell her the truth of what I am thinking, and if so how do I do it without hurting her feelings?

i can't think of a way to tell her the news without making it seem like you're saying that she's fat, which you're not. i would say to just say to her "hey lets start a diet" or "lets start working out. itll be fun" that should work if she isnt aware about putting on the extra weight. hopefully after a few weeks or a month at least she'll be fitting into her old clothes and it'll be like nothing has changed at all.

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