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he's about as weird as they get. i'm absolutely in love with him though. this guy is in a class of mine at school. he's not nerdy, he just doesn't go out, and doesn't really do anything about his social life, so we never cross paths outside of school aside from the internet where we talk. we've become good friends though and he clicks well with mine. i think he likes me by the way he smiles at me and talks to me differently than with other girls. he flirts with me like crazy and turns red every time we talk. he doesn't talk to many girls though. i try to make it obvious that i like him but boys can be stupid and i don't think he's getting the picture since he's never had a girlfriend or much experience, and i really want him to ask me to hang out. what do i do?
That's so cute! I've known plenty of guys who were too shy to make the first move, or had zero clue on what to say/do to let you know they want to be with you too. I think your best bet is to be the one to ask him out, because i can almost assure you that if you don't make the first move, nothing will happen. Just go for it and soon enough he will start to loosen up and feel more comfortable with things, i promise!
This is not a huge deal, I just don't know what to do. I have these two very good friends, Sabrina and Julie. We are pretty close, and all three of us do track together. The thing is, I always feel like a third wheel with them. They are always laughing and joking and I am standing there trying to go along with it, but when I say something they kind of just look at me. They have eachother, cool. Thing is I don't have many friends on track, so without them I am pretty lonely. Whenever one of them is not at practice or whatever, the other one comes and is all chummy with me until the other one is back. It is like I am the friend that is being used when the other is not there. It doesn't seem fair. Today at the meet they left me, so I was alone for most of the time. I am friends with other people on the team of course, but not close enough. I want to just swallow the problem and ignore it, but it is just getting worse. I don't want to seem like the whining friend that complains, "Oh, you ignore me." So I don't really know what to do.
Any help?
i dont know how long you guys have been friends with each other, but it kind of seems to me that maybe they have known each other longer so thats why they are closer, and have there own little jokes between them.
again, i could be wrong. but when i see something like that, it tends to be in that direction of some sort.
i definitely dont think you should just brush this off though. you guys are all really good friends, so feeling left out is something that shouldnt happen when it comes to best friends. if you start to feel left out when it comes to whatever they are doing again, i think it would be best to let them know whats going on in your head about all of this.
chances are, they dont realize you feel this way. sometimes people cant tell whats really bothering other people, thats why we always need to express our feelings towards others.
so let them know. and when you do, they are going to do everything they can to make sure it doesnt happen again. i know they want to be close with you too, so make sure and point out the fact that you feel like they arent meeting you half way.
good luck
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It happens a few times but this time it made me sad. . . .
okk this is what happened:
we went to this dance right and i have these 3 friends i mostly hang out with and i admire them as my sisters but we aren't blood related though. . . yeahh.
My three friends were dancing but then more friends came and i was backed off and they did nothing. . . i was alone
this happened a few times i felt like i was nothing to them.
when it was over we hang out in front of the school and wait a while until we decided to go home
As usual they formed their own circle thingy
and i was out of it
one time my eldest friend
our class was skating
i told her i was going to go skate fast and yeah but then i came back to her and skated with her
while i was skating fast she was with lets call her A.
Friend A said to her to go skate with me because she was tired but then my friend said that i wasn't like a talkative person like talk about stuff
i was hurt.
I am sometimes talk alot one day and not the other day.
When I heard her say that I ignored it.
Sometimes they talk about stuff I don't even know of and talk behind my back
What do they think I am to them?
What should I do?
it seems like your friends dont respect you that much, which isnt the way friends should treat others at all.
i really dont think this is the case to be telling you how to get your friends to notice you or anything, because something like this should never happen in a friendship.
my advice is you might need to re-think the people you call 'friends'. i would say you need to start meeting different people. aim for others who arent already in your group of friends, because more than likely, they could end up treating you the same way as these people are now.
theres always going to be certain people who pretty much think that they are the only important people in the world. i cant stand when people dont think about how they are treating someone, because they are so focused on what they want.
no one deserves to get treated like they dont matter, you are better than that. and there are people that will treat you the way they want to be treated, i promise. so put yourself out there to meeting new people.
good luck
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so i have this best friend. she is so great and we do and think everything the same. i LOVE being with her. is it possible to like her TO much? like not in a sexuall way but in like a way that she might get sick of each other way.
we hate the thought of becoming so close to our best friend, that it ends up tearing us apart, but unfortunately it does happen.
ill give you an example. real life examples seem to help people out a little more.
my two best friends go to the same college together and they are roommates. they made it where they have the same classes everyday, at the same time. they have the same friends so of course they are going to be seeing eachother a lot that way. only one of them has a car, so shes the one that drives wherever the want to go, which ends up being the same places. and when they come home for the weekends, my other friend who doesnt have a car is always getting rides to and from everywhere as well.
now the girl with the car is an independent person. she likes her space, and just doing things alone sometimes, but as for my other friend, thats not her at all. to be honest, she is dependent on everyone around her. and thats the problem. its like if she doesnt have someone do something for her, she falls apart.
now, the independent girl has done so much for my other friend and doesnt even ask for any gratidude whatsoever. but the other one can be really stubborn at times if she doesnt get her way.
they reached their breaking point, and everything that was bottled up from the beginning of the year came out one night. all the things that they couldnt take anymore was brought up and it wasnt good.
this happend last week, and finially they just clashed. they are total opposites, and all hell broke loose. they were yelling at each other and ended up completely not talking at all. the girl with the car went home, and just communted to school all week. [which is driving from home to school, then back home.]
the girl who stayed in their dorm rooms wouldnt apologize for calling the other girl a mean bitch and all this. i love them both to death, and i hate taking sides, but in this case, i had to stay by my friend who went home. she does everything for her roommate. with gas being so high as it is now, its crazy expensive using so much gas like she does each week. she doesnt even ask for money, but in reality its common courtusy to help out a friend. but the stubborn one didnt do anything for her.
they are acutally better now. they finally made up a couple days ago, so its all good.
my point is that if your with someone 24/7 your going to clash somehow. your going to start noticing that one pet peeve that your friend always does that gets on your nerves. when your with someone every second of your life, you just simply get fed up with them at times.
so i would advice you to just not be clingy towards your friend. everyone needs their space, so respect that.
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you seem to know everythingi guess you have expiernced eveything there is to experience huh!? Love the advice@!!
well thank you. but i know for a fact that i dont know everything, i still have so much more to learn. just like everyone else.
i have been through a lot of things though, so i try my best to put certain things into perspective for others to help them out.
im glad there are some people who appreciate what i have to say. its nice, so thanks
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Well here's what I've been debating with myself for the past couple of weeks:
This girl and I briefly were seeing each other last summer. We hung out at least once a week at the end of May through the middle of August last summer. When mid august came around she decided that she was not ready for a relationship so we decided to remain friends. We still hung out, probably about once a month August through November, but still kept in touch on a weekly basis through e-mail. She even hung out with my friends and I in October. The holidays rolled around, so we really couldn't hang out. We tried to get together a
couple of times, but things didn't work out. One day at the end of February I
sent her a text and asked if she wanted to hang out and catch up. I usually get a response back, so i figured it may have not gone through. So i sent her an e-mail asking if she had received it. She replied back a couple of days later and said that she did and was just really busy with work and other things. However out of the blue in the e-mail she also said "I don't
want to be anything more than friends" and ended the e-mail by saying that she
was going to hang out downtown in a couple of weeks and that i could join her and her friends of i wanted to. This really confused me since we already had this conversation back in August, so i replied back and told her that I wasn't looking for anything more than friends and i am sorry if i came off that way. She than responded back: "now that I am confident that we're friends, we should catch up, i didn't want to lead you on by texting you back or hanging out with you, we should catch up" I responded by telling her i didn't think that she was leading me on, and that the next time there's an issue that she should call me so we can talk it out. I haven't received a response since and this was at the end of February.
Now she did come off as a little vain, which surprised me. She's actually a
really sweet girl. The debate I've been having is whether or not to shoot her an e-mail and invite her to grab food, so we can talk or should i just
consider this a loss and move on? If i should e-mail, what should i say?
Thanks
one reason for her not responding could very well be that she has been really busy, and im sure her intentions have been to reply to you but maybe she just hasnt had the chance to.
if your really set on trying to have a good friendship with this girl, you shouldnt give up. so i think emailing her would be fine.
but in this case, how about you try to make it a little more personal and actually give her a call. if she sees that your calling her, she will know that you still have your mind set on being friends with her and she will ackowledge that.
just have a simple conversation with her asking how her day has been, and what she has been up to. then your going to end the conversation with, "id really like to see you and catch up. would you want to get some dinner sometime soon?"
if she does want to be friends, she will have no problem accepting your offer.
it seems to me like this girl does mean a lot to you and im glad that you would rather have her in your life as a friend than nothing at all. since you do have these feelings for her, whatever you do, dont let this oppurtunity get away.
life is short; we need to make the best of things, and when we want something to go our way, its our job to make it happen.
good luck
(:
okay, i have no idea where to put this question so i'll just put it here. okay, well i'm ALWAYS angry, or mad. i don't know why. its ruining my relationship with my friends and family. i can't help it its like if the slightest thing is happening i'll like freak out. i hate it. i say what i want when i want. i tell people what i feel when i feel about it..i can't help it. councling won't work...i've tried that...but should i try agian? i mean, i have NO idea why i act like this. and for the most time i don't think i'm that bad but others do. i really want to change. you know be a better person all around. get a better life. part of this is because like there are 3 kids in the family i'm the middle and least favorite. i try REALLY hard in school so i can get into a good college and get out of here. i hate it here. i really want to leave. but everything i do isn't good enough. so i stopped caring...and did it for me and i did SO good in school. I don't know what to do anymore..how do i become a better person? how do i stop myself from saying mean things? the smallest things bother me...
PLEASE help this is ruining my life!
i think everyone may get angry sometime in their lifetime, honestly i dont know the reason behind that, it just happens.
it seems to me that you may just need some time apart from your everyday life. as in your family and your enviorment. im not saying that what your feeling is going to make you completly want to forget about everyone you love, but sometimes we just need our space.
so look at it this way,
keep working your butt off in school like you have been doing. and once college comes around, it will pay off so much. you will be glad to know that you are at a wonderful university, AND this can be the time where you get your freedom from all the drama that you may have in your life right now.
think of it as a new beginning of a new chapter in your life.
as for the counseling, i would try and give it another shot. but try to aim for a higher kind of counseling like a shrink or somewhere in that area. their life is to truley listen to what teenagers have to say and they will give you their input as well.
sometimes all we need is someone to talk to. it relieves so much stress from our shoulders, no joke. so i would advise you to try that as well. just sit down with your best friend and talk to her about what has been going on lately.
i hope everything works out girl. (:
I'm friends with this guy, and whenever we talk, he's always like making contact with me. Like we were having a conversation this morning in school, and he would have his hand on like my waist.
And then we were messing around, and he just grabbed my hands, and was holding onto them.
Also, randomly he'll just hug me and hold me tight.
Is this a sign of him being interested?
Thanks!
oh yeah. hes into you (:
My birthday is coming up in april, and it will be my sweet 16 so I'd like to do something special. I was considering either a huge party or a cool trip with my best friends. If anyone had any fun ideas to do for my birthday please let me know :]
theme partys are always fun. people enjoy them.
a few themes that you could think about:
coctail party-casino night-pretty in pink-vegas theme-beach theme-luau-formal theme-costume party-hollywood party-rock and roll-western-mardi gras.
there are so many different types. be creative and have fun! happy early birthday (:
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A little bit about me, I am in my 3rd quarter of 8th grade. There is a named Erica that sits at my lunch table. She is really mean to me. Not to be rude or anything but she is that type of girl that thinks that she is so popular when she really isn't (snobby). She calls me bad names all the time. Lets just say stuff like BIT**, all the time. Her father used to be an important member of the school district so she is a teachers pet. So she goes to the guidance counselor and says that I tried to kick her out of the tableand make fun of her all the time. I did ask her to move out of the table but i do not make fun of her. And the guidance counselor wont believe me.
if you want to know why she doesn't like me its because her ex boyfriend loves me. but i didn't go out with him.
immature middle school drama is all she is about. that girl is just looking for attention.
just ignore her as much as possible, and brush off whatever she says about you. you and your friends know nothing she says is true.
in cases like this, its just better to be the bigger person.
good luck!
I live in the dorms with a roommate at my college. My roommate is wonderful and she's really sweet, BUT she has really bad body odor. I don't know what causes it because she showers everyday and stuff, but she smells just awful and so does her side of the room.
At first, I thought it was just the room we were in, so I bought a bunch of air fresheners and I kept the window open to kind of air out the room. It worked for a little while, but it came back and I think it's because of her. I've noticed she never does laundry other than her work clothes and she never wears socks (like ever) so the smell is possibly coming from her feet.
I cannot move because I've already moved once this year and it would be too much to move again.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to be rude to her, but I don't want my stuff to start smelling like her either. Is there any way I can talk to her about it? Should I buy her socks as a gift or something?
I really can't stand to hurt her feelings. :(
one of my friends had the exact problem.
but she came off as kind of rude about it without knowing it, and the other girl moved out. haha.
so i would definatly not recommend straight up telling your roommate that she stinks.
i would take her to the store with her, and be like "oh i heard this deoderant works really good." and like hint that you both should try it out together.
getting her socks as a gifts is actually a good idea. there are a ton of cute socks out there!
good luck