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my best friend died one week ago and im very upset im not gunna do nethin dumb but my fanily and friends dont belive me and im really gettin mad that i cant do nething with out the feelin like im bein watched i mean i mis my friend soo much she was my best friend and i want her back but i no that isnt gunna happen so i need to find a way to get over this but my mom is like buyin me all this stuff about greif and my family r send me laters and callin me whne i uesly nevre talk to them and im gettin really really upset and i cant stand it

I'm really sorry you lost your friend. Think of is this way, if you had a child that just lost a friend, wouldn't you have the feeling that they might do something when the pain takes over? I can understand why it's bothering you that they aren't leaving you alone, but it's just to help you. Try talking to your mom, or another adult. They'll listen to you. Tell everyone that you're just fine and that you'll talk when you need to but by them pestering you about it, it's just making you even more upset. They probably don't understand that they're making it harder for you. But if you bring it to their attention they may stop. Hope I helped a lil...lemme know how it goes. IM me if you needa talk.

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One of my good friends is telling one of my friends that she thinks im psycho and i was wondering should i still be friends with her or should i tell her that i don't want to be friends ne-more?

I don't think that something like this should ruin a friendship, but if the friend that is telling the other friend you are psycho has done other things you don't appreciate, then maybe it's time to find another friend who'll be nicer to you. Just talk to you friend(s) about it. Confrontation is a good thing. It may be hard at first, but it will make your friendship stronger knowing you can talk to eachother about anything,

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hey, i'm a 14 year old with a problem one of really close guy friends has a crush on me and i like him back but i'm afraid if we go out then we break up then we won't be friends any more what should i do?

I've been in this situation before, so I know how you feel. Just talk to the guy about it. Get both of your opinions on it and find the best decision about the situation. Sometimes it take sthat risking the friendship to find out where a relationship will take you, it might make you even closer with eachother. Or you might decided to just stay friends, it's not the end of the world. Just hang out a lot and talk a lot. Lemme know how it goes!

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I don't know what exactly brought this into my head. But I've been thinking about it a lot lately. My friend and I have been ..eh.. not having the greatest time of our lives lately, but hers is mainly over a guy that hurt her really bad. Was/Is it wrong for me to be jealous of his and her friendship? We're really close but we tended/tend to argue about him a lot b/c I dont like him. I just wanted to know if it was ok or if i'm just being stupid over a little thing. Your advice would be much appreciated.

I'm going thru this right now too. I don't think you're acting stupid over a little thing. Sometimes making your friend mad at you because you're trying to get your point across isn't a bad thing. In my situation I was really close to this one guy and I liked him a lot, but all of my friends could see something I couldn't see. I didn't want to believe them, so I ignored all of their remarks. But I should have listened to them because he ended up hurting me really bad, and all of my friends knew it was coming. So i think you should keep trying to tell her why you don't like him, it may make her mad at you but when she gets hurt you can say "well i told you he was going to hurt you" and then she'll realize she should have listened to you. Hope this is some advice that helps you.

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is it wrong to be mad at someone and pretend like everything is fine just so that you dont have to deal with the fighting? i have a tendency to do that a lot and keep all my feelings inside and its starting to come back and really get to me... i just can't hold in the anger all the time but i hate fighting with my friends.... help me

Sometimes pretending to be fine when you're really mad at someone can make things worse. Try explaining in a calm manner to the person you're mad at why you're mad at them,then try and have a nice and calm conversation with them to try and solve it without fighting. If you feel angry but don't want to talk to anyone about it try writing it out and then tearing it up, it might make you feel better without having to talk to anyone about it. Hope I helped you!

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Me and this one girl used to be really good friends. Now that she has a new friend it seems like she doesn't ever want to be around me anymore. Should I tell her that it's making me upset that she stopped wanting to hang around me anymore? Or should I just stop being her friend. Please help me. Thanks

I'm going thru this same situation right now, and I'm pretty sure I know who this is...

Honestly I think talking about things will eventually bring things to a conclusion. It may not be the conclusion you are hoping for, but it will stop the argument. Maybe you and this friend have different tastes now and you aren't as close as you used to be. I don't know what else I can tell you...but I hope this helps you

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