Hey Everyone! My name is Taryn but people call me T-bear! I have a a pretty rough roller coaster in my life but have made it to the top and love where I am at today. I have a beautiful family and am able to smile again everyday. I love helping other people keep the faith and know what you are going through and where you can end up. I love my fiance who I am about to marry here in 20 days and adore my one year old son. He reminds me why I continue to appreciate my breath here on earth. I am here for anyone at anytime. Just ask away!!! Luv u all!!
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So I would like to know if I'm wrong or right and what to do.... My wife has her best friend of about fifteen years....her friend has always been a bit of trouble .....if it wasn't drugs it was partying and being the village bicycle....my wife and I have been together for 11 of those and I've tried over the years to be ok with her friend in the picture but as soon as I start warming up to her she does something like cheats on her husband not to mention she is lazy treats her husband like servant and is so immature and when her and my wife get together they act like dumb little girls....now my wife and I met in high school and I'm two years older. We have each done our fair share of dumb shit but she 27 and me 29 now , have settled down, have goals that we both work for, but I still have to deal with her friend who is also 27 , that has no job and dresses and acts like a teenager. I couldn't have an intelligent conversation with her even if I wanted. This last weekend I took my wife to a concert and old town Sacramento ...... I decided to invite her friend and her husband along with a couple of our other friends and all her friend did was complain about the other couple, it was an all day concert but the last band she didn't sans see the last act and expected everyone to leave because she was ready.........and when we didn't she complained.....when we went to old town Sacramento........she was up my wife's butt......she gave me a little trinket and my wife one of those best friend necklaces and I notice she had a new purse and I was wondering Wtf then why couldn't they pitch in on gas and why was I feeding the. Come to find out she lifted that stuff and who knows what else? So am I crazy for wanting my wife to put distance at least til she catches up in maturity? Or am I being unreasonable? (link)
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Tough situation and trust me i have been in many of those. Hard part is you cant demand something on your wife or who she spends time with that would just make things tougher than they need to be. You can however talked to her about how you are feeling and set mutual boundaries that you both can agree on maybe u plan a once a week thing with her friend and to shut down every negative thing she says or does and show her you two want nothing but positive around and eventually she may mature but dont make her cut ties that will make things way bad
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So the only guy I truely have feelings for and I now live about 2 hours away from eachother. His name is jason and I went to go hang out with him about 3 days ago and I was supposed to go to my dads at ten pm to stay the night then I would go home the next morning. Well while we were hanging out we drank a bit and I noticed he was spending alot of time with my homegirl mariah and it pissed me off so I made out with his best freind matt. Then like 2 hourse later me and mariah walked to round table to meet this girl that wanted to hang out with us. Her name is leighanne and she is not allowed to chill with me alone so her mom sat in the parking lot of the pizza place, and me and mariah told her if she wanted 2 drink that we would go get the bottle and bring it back 4 her. So when she gave us the money we bought a bottle of vodka and went back to jasons house (ditching leighanne with her money/bottle). Anyways me mariah jason matt and this guy martino all drank the bottle then we went to a place where there was more drink and we drank there then left. We went to this pond where me and jason had a really long talk about our relationship that turned in to a huge fight. Mariah and Matt left and Jason told me he wanted me to stay the night at his house so we could talk some more. Me not caring about my ten pm curfew went back to his house with him and martino. .......Well I guess earlier Leighanne (the girl we ditched/jacked) snuck out the back of the pizza place with her boyfreind and when her dad caught her it was already 12:30 am. My dad was with her dadd and they were looking for us so when they found her since she was obviously mad at me for ditching her she told my dad where jason lived. So My dad shows up at jasons house and is telling his parents im a runaway which is not even close to true. I was simply 2hours late. THEN I see leighanne walk up with her dad and I was unabled to stop myself from putting my hands on her. I guess I hurt her really bad (thats what my dad says). But besides that Jason is so mad all that drama was brought to his house and he refuses my calls and wont reply my myspace messages, He even told mariah he is pissed at me cuz he thinks i was a runaway. I am unabled to explain to him anything plus he was already upset with me that day for making out with matt and our fight. Since im so far away from him also I cant just go find him and talk to him in person. I feel like it may really be over between us and that hurts especially that it ended this way! Plus I really want to call and make sure leighanne is ok and talk to her. I know I was EXTREMELY messed up to her that day but at one time she was my best friend. That day just pretty much fucked up my life! :::My parents dont trust me to come home on time! I lost A best friend! And may have lost the love of my life. (link)
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Well hun your in a mess and I was at one point too. Its going to take a lot of making up to do. Yes I am glad you know what you did was extremely wrong because I can probably guartee you that the friend you ditched is there for you more than the others one will ever be....this guy the love of your life shouldve never even looked at you friend in that way if he had feelings for you so be careful there in making sure he just doesnt want a bootycall for you. All I can do is tell you keep trying to explain and apologize but really I would try to make up with your friend first the hardest. Don't do it obssesively so they think your crazy but show them that you really mean it and that your sorry for your mistakes. It does suck but if it gives you any hope the guy and girl that this happened with with me the girl is my best friend... and the guy and I still talk I am now 4 hours away from him but we still text!! well good luck hun and don't worry everything happens for a reason. I wish you the best!!! let me know how things go plz!
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I am a guy, 17. I have a friend, 16 and her boyfriend, 17 looked up gay porn on her computer. She found it while looking on the history. She dumped him for a couple of hours and took him back. He acts childish and talks down to her and calls her names in front of her. She takes the crap. Sadly I was kind of happy she dumped her boyfriend, but then she took him back a couple of hours later. We start school tomorrow, September 1st... and when she told they talked it out and got back together I pretended to be okay with it. Should let it go or tell her how I feel? I've been friends with her since fourth grade and we have been friends since then.
WHAT SHOULD I SAY OR DO?
Thanks,
Onebirddog2000 (link)
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Honestly this sucks but you have to let her do what she wants to do and just tough it out and then be there for her when and if he does break her heart. Trust me she thinks he is the one right now and if you are the one that gets in between it she is just gonna think you are jealous acuse you and it will ruin your friendship. She is the only one that can make the decision.! So sadly your gonna have to wait it out and let her make her own decision!!! good luck
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16/f
I'm not trying to sound conceited when I say this, but I am a really good friend. I have helped people stop cutting and feel better about themselves. (only my close friends who tell me things) I tell them to get help and try to help them as much as I can to the best of my ability. I'm kind of like the go-to person, the one they vent to, then one they can trust.
So today, my best friend and I were talking on aim. and we were talking about how we felt we were drifting apart. we got mad at eachother at first because she accused me of judging her (when I don't, I really don't judge people, everyoneis who they are) and she wasn't acting herself. Then we got to the point in the conversation where she told me that she wasn't going to beg for me to be my friend, and I told her that I'd always be her friend, no matter what. Because she's been having a hard time lately, and has been going to the shore drinking alot and hooking up with random guys at random parites, and it's just not her.
Then she always blames everything on her ex boyfriend, how he screwed her up so much. and he did, he really messed her up, but i said she had to stop blaming him for everything, and that it's not her fault at all but that part of why she changed was because of the shore and summer. well, I guess that set her off, because she told me something that I cried when I read...
Her ex boyfriend, you would never suspect he would do this. He forced her to do stuff to him. (she never told anyone, this happened a few months ago) he told her that she didnt trust him and that she didnt find him attractive if she didnt give him a handjob. I knew that part, but I also knew that he ate her out when she told him she didnt want to. and he fingered her when she didnt want to be fingered and said so. He would get very violent with her and shove as many fingers as he could and finger her, and she tried to stop him, and tell him no but she couldn't breathe and he was bigger than her. Then she told me that one time, she was in his car and they were fighting as usual, he was telling her like, "oh i went to third for you and you won't do the same to me?" and she said, "i didn't want you to do that to me!" and he was like, "well it's been 2 or 3 months and if you loved me you would do this for me." so my friend ended up being guilted into saying she'd make it up to him by giving him a handjob. after she said that, she didnt know how it happened, but he pushed her head down to his pants and held her head there while he unzipped and he made her give him a blow job. she told me she was crying while she did it and he wouldnt stop. (i feel horrible not only because he did this to her, but because we talked about blow jobs and how id never give one ever and how she wouldnt either.. i felt bad she didnt tell me this!) so then like whenever they hung out, apparently he would just jump ontop of her and hold her down, and hump her, and shed say get off, but he wouldnt listen. and then when he was "finished" she could go home.
she told me that he told her he was gonna kill himself. she was scared. she was trapped inside a relatiosnhip with this guy. isnt that RAPE?!?! I told he to tell someone, she won't. I want her to get help, I told her she should get therapy, that i'd help her. but she said telling me helped her feel better.. but she was pretending this entire time that she's fine. but she told me she's depressed. I rpomise her I wouldn't tell anybody about this, but THIS IS RAPE. isn't it?! It is. my best friend was raped. and now all she wants is attention from guys. shes really screwed up because of this. Shes drinking because she doesn't think about her ex and what he did. I don't know what to do. please help me. I'm the ONLY ONE who knows. the only one. so what do i do?! I know I should tell someone, but who would I tell? and there's no proof he did that, so how would i be able to help? I promised her I wouldnt tell anyone, I know I should, but at the same time, she says she's not wasting her time on him. But if I was her, I would want to tell someone. I couldn't just hide that. I'm so lost. She acts like it's no big deal now.. just because it has been a few months. But it IS a big deal to ME. she's my best friend and he raped her. Well, I consider it rape. Ugh. help?
thank you all so much. (link)
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About a year and a half ago I was raped through intercourse. Any forceful sexual contact any body part entering another is considered rape. Honestly I know how you friend feels, shes scared. It is up to her to tell. You being a good friend, should convince her that telling someone should be the best thing. What my friends said to me, was "what if he does this to someone really close to you?" You need to make sure she knows that the next girl in his life could go through the exact same thing, but she can put an end to it by reporting him. Going to the authorities doesnt always work, because they could come back with the he said she said. But its always worth a try. Stand by your friend talk to her, and just be her shoulder. Drinking is the easy way out and the sleeping with guys and getting attention is all just a cry for help. you need to also be stern with her and tell her drinking can just lead to that too. If it gets to bad to the point where you friend needs serious help... you need to talk to one of her family members before you take it into your hands, that is not your deal and if you try to handle it you could end up in the same boat STRESSED. So good luck and let me know how it goes
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Help me make sense of this!!!! Two years ago I told my friend I had feelings for her that went deeper than friendship. (We are both females) She said she was SHOCKED when I told her. Although I don't think she was shocked at all. Keep in mind we live 1300 miles apart and she is in an unhappy marriage and has been for about 8 years, she has been married for 37 years and got married to get out of the house and away from her step-dad. (nothing sexual there, he was just mean). She is 55 years old and I am 48. Anyway at that time 2 years ago she denied feeling the same way towards me. We email often and just last week she flew up here to spend the week with me on vacation, left her husband home. During our time together that week she told me she had fallen out of love with her husband some time ago and she wished she would win the lottery so she could buy a summer home in the town I live so we could be closer. She also has told me if she was younger she would leave his hind-end in a heartbeat. We drank some wine and I told her I don't let myself get to tipsy anymore because I am a big flirt, but she kept saying to me through the week, hey let's get shit-faced, let's get a matching tattoo to commerate our vacation together. Now why would she want me to get shit-faced when I told her I get flirty?? And why would she want us to get matching tattoo's? She also touched me alot, putting her hand on my knee during a time when we had someone take our picture together, grabbing my arm etc. and I caught her looking at my legs and eyeing me up. She told me she didn't want to go back home and that we should have taken 2 weeks of vacation instead of one but if we did take 2 weeks vacation she wouldn't go back home. She called me a few days after she got home and back to work, she said she told her coworkers she had to pee and then called me while she was in the bathroom. She mentioned again we should have taken two weeks of vacation and she missed me alot and couldn't wait to see me again and get together again. What I don't understand is first, why would she spend a week with me, tell me how unhappy she is in her marriage, touch me alot and sometimes even in a baby tone of voice tell me how much she was going to miss me if she KNOWS how I feel about her??? She knows my feelings are stronger than friendship so WHY this behavior. Am I over reacting to her actions or is she into me but can't or won't admit it??? Sometimes I think she likes the fact that I am in love with her and she wants me to be. Where do I go from here? I do believe she is in love with me. Having said that, the whole marriage thing she is involved in makes it impossible for her to admit her feelings to herself much less me. I wonder and please tell me what you think!!! If I make myself less available to her and let her know I am going out and having fun with other friends of mine if it will push her into revealing her true feelings for me. One way or another I need to know and I know she won't tell me even if I ask her straight out. I wonder if maybe she starts to feel like she is losing me if she will step it up so to speak and tell me how she really feels.
Please help!!!!!!!! Thank you so much!!
Kelsi
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I think that your should be honest with her if you hide things and just pretend nothing is bugging you than things are gonna get worse and you guys will start becoming distant with each other and from the sounds of you question it doesnt seem like either of you want that. Really just talk to her tell her one more time how you feel, the vibe you got from her when she was on vacation with you. WARNING: It could be that she was only telling you all these things because you are such a great friend and shes feels comfortable talking to you and you are a comfort to her and make her feel better so she likes being around you. You never know that and bringing it up is better that sitting around and wondering what could of been and not taking the chance!!!! good luck I hope everything works out for you!
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17/f. -ok my best friend and I
Were getting mcdonalds and she
Saw her cousin and her cousin was like oh how are we all going to the water park can your friend come and there was a short pause and she was like oh do you want to come? And she
Never mentioned this to me and she does have another best friend and she started making other excuses how she wasn't going to go anyway. I just feel insecure and I know she doesn't have to take me but I don't know what do you think? Oh and she has ditched me in the past.. (link)
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wow doesnt really sound like a friend at all. you need to be straight up tell her how you feel and then give her a chance to talk also. Don't fall for the first thing she says bcuz then you will be the friend she can walk all over....... well good luck
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