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I like to dance,sing,cook,do flips,and do a split. I ahve some real friends and some fake friend. I hate when peolpe lie.Alot of the boys in my school like me.

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hi! sorry if this might be a bit long but i realy need an answer
me and one of my friends do voulentire work at a farm with people with learnin disabilities. the other day this woman brought to baby guineapigs in and i took one and my friend took one! there reali little only about as big as a hamster and we were goin to put them wih our pet rabbits but i thort that it was to small and that my rabbit might hurt it so its in a cage in the house now but my friend did after i said it mite be to small and her rabbit stood on it and she had to get it put to sleep! the staff at farm are all ace! but my friend turned round and told my not to say out about having it put to sleep as hey might hink she cant look after it properly but i fel sooo bad lieing to then about it as they ask daily how our guineapigs are both getting on and i hate it when my friend turnes round and say its hers is fine!! i want to tell the staff at farm as i hate having to lie to them but i promised i wouldnt to my friend and if i did say something to them she deffinatly wouldnt talk to me whitth them causes problems at farm as i no from experiance!! also if i did say that and then the staff know that she was lieing to them they might think less of her and it would be all my fault
sorry its so long but im realy stuck about what to do xx thank you

If you know you should do the right thing then go ahead. If she really is your freind she will forgive you. So make sure that you do the right thing.

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I have a best friend whom I've known since the 7th grade, and one of the things we promised each other in our ring of friends is that "Friends come first always before boyfriends." However, I feel that this best friend of mine is not keeping this promise. Besides being close friends with me, she also had this really close guy-friend since the 7th grade, who has now become her boyfriend. I know that I should understand that its okay for her to be closer to him because they were close before, and are now in a relationship together, but I feel hurt that its against what we promised... Like, she would always, always stress it to to us that friends are always first, but this now seems hypocritical... We rarely talk on the phone anymore, or talk at all because she's always spending time with her boyfriend... What can I do to repair this friendship, or to understand???

Thank you very much. (16/f - Junior)

well if she doesn't keep her promise you shouldn't keep your promise either. If you think that she betrated you guys then all of you should get boyfriends to because me and my friends made that path. Everytime I have a boyfriend i still hang out with my friends becasue he wants to know them because their like sisters to me. Anyway get a boyfriend.

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My friend, who I used to be best friends with, used to go out with this guy that I like now. They had gone out for 7 months. I talked to him, and told him that I like him, and he said he likes me as well. I went to my friend and asked her what she would do if me and her ex went out, and she said that she probably wouldn't be able to be friends with me anymore. Her ex is still friends with her, and doesn't want to hurt her feelings. I kind of feel the same way, but I'm leaning more towards not being her friend anymore anyway because we barely ever get along anymore. I really want to go out with this guy, but I don't know what to do, because I don't want my friend getting hurt, and he doesn't want to hurt her as well. Any suggestions?
-- How would I convince him to not care what she thinks, and just go out with me? she broke up with him anyway, so what's the big deal?
Please help me.

If she was a true friend she woiuld let both of ya'll be happy and not interfere. If you like him and he likes you then it doesn't matter what she thinks and if she is threating you with your friendship then she's maybe jealous. If you want to convince him tell him you or his ex girlfriend. If he chosse her then you really have know choice.

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hey everone ok well i have this friend and she's mad at me /c i told some people about this guy she told me abuout.. and ya we're not friends nmore.. and she lives across the street from me!!! omg now her friends r making fun of me.. and today one of them wuz making fun of me of how i walk... and ya my mom thinks im friends w/ her still and i can't tell her that we're not friends nemore over some stupid guy!! cuz she'll get really mad at me!! so what should i do? pleese help me!!!

You should go up to her and tell her how you feel about the fight and if that doesn't work then you could write her a letter and explain everything to her.

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My bff is evil. I've known her since 2nd grade when she was nice, then in 5th grade she turned evil. Nobody likes her. She's mean to everybody including me for no reason. I try to help her out and I never get anything positive out of her. Everybody since 5th grade (even my parents) has been telling me to ditch her, but would it be too late? Should I continue being her friend? Should I tell her off? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

You should leave her because if shes being mean to you you shouldn't stay with someone you doesn't care about what she's doing or saying to you. If she's acting like this than she's not a true friend.

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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?

please help. how can i tell her to just quit it?

You can sit down with her and tell her her problem. Yes I can relate to this.

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Ok so there's this girl who we will call Katie. She's kinda friends with some of my friends (especially the guys) and it feels like she's taking over my life. I heard her calling herself best friends with my best friend even though she realy isn't. She's taking all of my friends and probably talking crap about me (we don't have the best past) and turning them against me. Now she's even coming with us to this thing that was only supposed to be a tight group of friends. What do I do?

Tell her to back off or you can just find new friends to replace her. If you like do what i did act like someone else.That might give her an idea of her own.

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Okay, so one of my best friends (well, really, my best friends boyfriend, but him and i are really close as well) got home from the hospital last week after being there for almost a month. Now, I'm wicked happy that he was home and I was like so hyper today because his seat at out lunch table was finally filled (he came for just half of the day for the first part of the week). So what's tha problem? I don't know what to say to him/how to act/etc. For some reason it's not a problem on the phone (we just had a wicked funny conversation), but in person I don't know...its like I'm afriad of one of my best friends. Any advice at all?

The problem might be that you like your bestfriends boyfriend.

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alright. see heres the thing. last night i had a dream where i was hanging out with my bestfriend (hes a guy. im a girl) and ive known him a loooonng time and when i first met him i liked him alot but i had a boyfriend (still have the same bf) and i ignored my feelings for him and really they went away now that i know him really intamitly as a bestfriend. so last night i had a dream that was with him and we were 5 years older and i was laying on him and stuff and we were making out and then we had sex. and im really worried cuz i liked the dream :( and being that i have a boyfriend and hes my bestfriend and on top of that i am really good friends with his girlfriend. so all of this is freakin me out. do you think it was just some random dream or something more?

I think what this dream is trying to tell you is that you can't put your feelings on hold for your best freind and that they have returned. The best solution to this problem is to tell him how you actually feel about him or else you will lose him forever.

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