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I am a person who loves meeting people and giving them advice at their most vulnerable moments. I don't don't give advice for anything rather than my want and need to help people. I just feel happy when someone feels clear or has weight lifted off their shoulders when i give them advice. I am not saying I am perfect or mother Teresa but I can say that with life you get knowledge and the power to give someone advice on something using both your heart and mind. I have a wide range of advice I give because I believe that anyone with a soul can find someone else that needs help an answer. Technology,love,and limitless troubles are something that I love helping with. Whether someone is 14 or 45...I don't care. People are who they are. They are not perfect because they are indeed human. With that I know I have a lot of advice to give.


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hey, so i've known this girl since 1st grade we have always been very close, bestfriends. but then when i hit beginnging of 6th grade i was going through some trauma in my life, only later did i realize what was happening, that i was depressed, and only later, exactly a year later did i see a therapist. Family problems. horrible family problems. I got worse. i slit my wrists at one point. actually a year and half into it. thats when it all hit me. and i drank some and smoked a little. And would have meltdowns, and panick attacks. It was pretty bad. i was losing friends. I was losing respect. i was losing the will to live. I was losing to see the beauty in life, but to see the uglynes curupt the world. it was all very hard to handle at such a young age. and i think i took it worst out of my family. i am currently still with the same therapist. it has helped me alot. through the course of a year, gradually i have changed. And change is always hard, so is growth. So let me be clear and honest and hopefully you will take the time to read the rest of this. Well up until this big divorce of my parents, it was breaking up my family as well, as to why it was so horrible.Anyway up until that point that it had happened, i had always been the happy fun, funny, outragoues loyal friend, and didnt give a f*** what you thought about me. No, i wasnt a bully, i was a great friend to my friends, and an entertainer at that. i always have been. But i would not let anyone tear me down or cross me, i was confident but not cocky, stable but not an overachiever, you get it, just a fun person to want to be around, popular,etc. So my bff Kara and i were great friends. and Kara and Ann were bffs too, so were just the perfect trio. It was so much fun, and great having best friends i could rely on, and have fun with. Back then i never looked at it twice, not saying i took it for granted, but never really looked at it under a microscope. So as i said my depression was from beginning of 6 grade to end of 7th grade. i am going into eighth grade soon. So i became this keep to myself. shut off from the world, shallow person. for a long time. It had hit so dramatically because i was always the kid growing up with a big family and love, and now this; this just destroyed me, and my rep. I beat myslef down. Because i fell in the populatry group. self-esteem was a big part of me, an di was losing it under my feet. And worst of all was that i didnt even see my best friend slipping away. We are currently friends but not like we were before, nothing like that. And so theres this girl Taylor, and she was very much like me, as i described. only diference is that she is very bossy and controlling and shit. you'd think we'd have this amazing friendship or bond,wrong. We've had some complications in the past, i wanted to move past it, so i said i was sorry for anything i did, we moved on. But she cant seem to get past it, Fuck it, fuck her, i say im not waiting around the clock for her to be my friend. I dont need her. So basically she saw me and kara were not as close, and she jumped on it. She became the new me between her and kara and ann. It was devastating, if i had been seeing a therapist longer i probly would have been more concerned about my friends than my split family at the time. But now they are all best friends. I want to have a best friend again. I want to be there for her and vise versa. I know we went throught phases this year but i defintily dont think it was permanent. She is used to me being my funny self and when she didnt see that, she had a new friend. i know it sounds bad, but she is a really good person. she is still my friend, but i need her, she has changed but not drastically like me, but shes not mean or anything. So anyway my therapist said call her you'll never know if you dont call her. So she changed phones. I asked her a couple weeks ago on chat if she changed numbers. she said yes, and gave me another number. The voicemail went to a regualr answering machine. I called this other one this girl gave me, it was some kid's, so thats not it. I tryed her old one, and it rang and rang, but went to HER voicemail with her name and everything. I left several messages a few weeks ago, like everyother day, and texted her. she never repsonded. So whats happening is she just blowing me off or did she really changed numbers? so i figured i dont just want to wait around, so my therapist posting something on her fb wall, so she'll see it. i did and basically said call me tonight or tomorrow. so i mean hopefully she'll call me back. I dont know if its because of taylor that she saying dont call her back, i dont think that'd be the case. and i dont think shes on vacation. i just want to tell her i have changed and i am not JUST their yet but i am a work in progress and will get back to my happy place soon, im determined. and i want to get her back, shes my friend, and no one is gonna take her away from me, i say its time for taylor to get a taste of her own med and back off. i was too depressed to defend myself. And now that im back im ready to get her back. and hopefuly she'll get the memo. Soooo what do you think about the phone calls, and the friendship, and whats going on here? it would make me so happy to tell what i said before, nothing negative just positive and be able to have the amazing chemistry and bond and sisterly love for one another. i realze she really does mean something to me. And i need your help and opinion on the situation. Write as much as you can. I know its baby steps and all and i am one to jump the gun but i am willing to do anything; because i realized all you need is love and friendship in your lifetime. and i am young but i very mature for my age and i know what i want. i want to show her this though i am also that girl she once knew that knows how to have a good time. Because she hasnt seen me happy in a long time. whats the best thing to do here? and dont say move on or she isnt a good friend. not happeining! thanksssss sooo muchhh!

Some people have the saying friendship comes and goes but that is if they are not working at it. Some people have setbacks like you have and are willing to get back to their original state for the sake of friendship which makes you the great person you are.


I know you really care about your friends and that is why I am going to tell you these advices.


First of all............The girl who Took your spot in the best friends trio IS NOT you therefore WILL NEVER take your place. You said it YOURSELF and that is why I am telling you this. She can try but she will never come close to this. If you don't want to be friends with her then just be friends with KARA AND ANN.

Second of all.............BABY STEPS. Don't expect to be best friends in a day. What I advice you is to tell the truth and nothing more. Tell why you were distant.


Thirdly.........The phone. You don't know what happens to Kara because you are not her. She could of had her phone taken away or lost it. The point is if you believe that she hasn't changed....there is no reason for her to do something like ignoring or giving you the wrong phone number.


I think that with good time you will find yourself again but it might not be the same person you are expecting. You have been through so much....don't be surprised at your strength and agility in certain situations.



What I ask you though as another person in the world with experience is don't just find Kara and Ann as friends.......find some other people. They make you strong and happy. I am not saying ditch anyone but gather another group of FRIENDS not BEST FRIENDS. Trust me when I say they are also important.



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Friendship never ends......unless you want it to


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soo ive been dating this guy for the past few months. and this is our 3rd time dating( i broke up with him everytime) my friends want me to break up with him but i just tell them to back off and stay out of our relationship. he makes me soo mad sometimes. all he wants to do is talk about baseball and wanting to sleep with me. he claims he "loves me" and every time he says he does i feel guilty saying it back so i joke around and say who doesnt??
my friends have told me they are concerned about us because when hes around me hes always touching me and rubbing up on me. we walk home from school together. i have to turn befor he does. we hung and kiss befor i leave but every day he trys to stick his tunge down my throat. we have a very complicated relationship. i do care about him but i just feel bad that im dating him again. the only reason why im dating him this time is because he was begging me and asking to "take him back" every day.
i dont really know what im trying to say. i just dont know if i should just still date him cause i do truly care about him or break up with him. i need help! please help! thanks!

There is not such thing as a perfect guy but there is such a thing as a horrible boyfriend. I am not saying your boyfriend is a horrible one but I think he might be a bad one FOR U in certain situations. Some of these situations occur a lot which is why i advise you to think CAREFULLY.

I am not you therefore I will not tell you to break up with him because I don't have the feelings you have for him.


First of all....it seems YOUR boyfriend seems to care more about baseball then YOU. A relationship is 2 people not 2 people and a sport. I know how it feels to talk to a guy and get bored because ALL he talks about is sports!!!! It is INFURIATING that you think about killing yourself. When you find the one....you will have the conversation that bind you and make your relationship interesting. I don't see that in your relationship. With that there is more of a chance of failure.


Secondly.....SEX SEX SEX SEX.........doesn't make a relationship!!! I understand HE IS A GUY but its too much. DO NOT.I REPEAT DO NOT have SEX because you want to keep your boyfriend. No offense but it seems to be the REAL reason he is with you. i COMMEND your friends for trying to make you break up with him but then again...They are not u!!

With that ask yourself WHAT attracted him to you and HOW you made a relationship. List something that made you so interested in the first place ignoring LOOKS and other things......think about what made you choose him as a partner.


After that just think and make your decision. Whatever you decide........will be whatever you want. Don't listen to anybody but yourself but I ask you to think about all the bad things and the GOOD things that have happened with him and just try to see which ways the most. :) GOOD LUCK


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Hi, i'm 13 and my birthday is coming up and i'm turning 14! I'm so excited and i cant think of a theme for my party!:/ I am inviting boys and girls. I am planning for the girls to spend the night and the boys to go home after a while. i would like to have a theme involving the colors blue and green. i have absolutely no idea what to do!! i want to have the party at my house. last year i just had friends come over to spend the night it was really boring. i'm hoping for this year to be fun and exciting for everyone. please help. thanks!

MOVIE NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!! You should have a movie night with movies EVERYONE will like. I remember I ordered pizzas and Chinese takeout for my 14 birthday. Anyway I chose these cool movies which everyone thought was cool and the party was a smash. I also bought ice cream so everyone can have dessert. What I did that was cool was that I had toppings for the dessert so people can choose what they want like crushed waffle cones...white chocolate. That part was loved by both sides. :)

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HAPPY soon to be 14th Birthday

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What are some fun sleepover games for two people?

Truth or dare
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This site i believe has some fun games!!
http://thepajamacompany.com/blog/sleepover-fun/

Enjoy your sleep-over!!!

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My friend and I used to be so close but now one of my other friends is sort of stealing my friend away from me. All three of us used to be really good friends but now im being pushed out of the group. i dont want to loose her because we have been friends since pre-school. we are now in grade 7 (almost 8)
What do i do?????

YOU SOUND JUST LIKE ME!!!! You need to realize that all friends come and go. The mistake I made was pushing both so much and causing drama that i lost my friends all together. You should become friends and find common interest with the other girl. She can be a great friend. Don't hate the other girl because you think she is stealing you friend. Connect yourself with the other girl and find something that the three of you can do together. That way you can have a new friend and reconnect with the old one.

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I'm trying to make some new friends and I was told that I should find some common things between us to form a link, which should spur more conversation and positive attitudes between each other. I'm not entirely sure what to ask to get to know these people though! What are some really good questions to ask to get to know someone?

To get to know someone ask their age, hobbies, likes and dislikes something you both you can agree on in the future. It makes them interested if you have something in common which will lead you to friendship in the near future.


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just turned 19- female.

not feeling pretty isnt really something ive had a problem with UNTIL now. my brother whose 22 always says i look like cindy lou who from the grinch and everyone always agrees, i think its because of my nose (which ive always been insecure about) and then last night this guy was like you kinda look like a chimpmunk. and i was like ooooh thaaanks? now i am so embarassed and feel like when someone looks at me their going to think i either look like cindy lou who or a chimpmunk or something like that. its not a good feeling. thanks to them my self esteem is very low now. what do i do?

So who cares....... ok so you do

think about it. maybe a guy.. the one your meant to marry loves chipmunks and your nose. We may all be equal but we're all different. We don't have the same faces unless we're twins.....

Use that nose for something better and forget about the disadvantages and try using the its best advantages.


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frist of all i would like to introduce my self i am abenezer from awassa city of ethiopia.i like this team very much i have enjoyed good things as well as good behavioural change.i am 16 years old boy.my question is i wanna get a friend boy or girl to discuss differnt things as a world.
thank u a lot!

Hi. I have the same story as you. I was born in Addis, Ababa. I lived there since I was 8. Now I live in the U.S. and I speak amharic, English, and Spanish.

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have you ever lost a friend? What did you feel like? Do you still miss him or her? I think I'm on the verge of losing my friend, and i just wanted to know what you have gone thru. Thanks.

Yes I lost a friend and it was horrible. It made me feel like rying which I did. I lost memories with that person and lost what we both had gone through. It was something horrible that happened to me. If you don't want to go through this sit down with your friend and talk everything over. I didn't get the chance but you can.

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so 3 days ago my friend told me that she smoked weed that day. i pretended to be all cool about it and laughed along with him but i'm worried. he also told me that he got a months worth on cigs. what do i do? do i just let him or try to stop him or what??

Ok. so you care about you friend right? What are you doing? Don't just stand there. Your friend needs your help more than ever. He is really making a mistake. Tell him he shouldn'y be smoking and that its wrong. You should make him listen to you. If he doesn't listen then tell him he's throwing his life away. You should tell him if you your his true friend.

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