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Q: Ever since summer started, it seems that all i do is sit around all day. I always call my friends, and ask if they want to hang out, but there always busy. I know for a fact, that some of my friends parents, do not like me, but its not fair that they keep my best friends from seeing me.
For instance, everytime i call my friend kirstie, she's always busy. I'll ask if she wants to hang out, but she says, "oh, my parents are already doing stuff with me today" or, "I already promised my mom i would hang out with her." And, she's always complaing about this girl, that is kinda...the emo one in our group, but it seems like she hangs out with her more than me. It really hurts, because she always says were best friends, but arn't best friends supossed to hang out?

I just really want to know, if maybe i should try to push more to hang out, or give up, or...i dont know, it just stinks cause i'm always alone.

Please help!

Ps. sorry its so long!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

~Melissa~

Well,I understand it hurts.Maybe try to talk to her and tell her how you feel.Maybe you can compramise.Make dates of what your doing and tell her not to break them.Maybe try out for a team or join a club so you can spend more time together.

And it's not fair that you can't see her.Why don't you talk to the parents about it and tell them you really want to be there childs friend.If all else fails have your parents talk to them.

Don't yell at them.It will make it worse.Just state your opinion and then listen to theres.It will help more then yelling.

Hope it all works out
~Kelleigh

Q: lately i have not been able to sleep and i have been waking up in the middle of the night..it never happens to me...my mom said it could be becasue i am worried a about somethine...but i told her i wasn't...the truth is i am...my dad past away when i was 13...ever since i have been very afraid to get close to anyone...and it been 3 years...aroudn christmas time i meet a guy named christian he is a few years younger than me..(14)...and he is my best friend..we tell each other everything...he keeps talking about how when he turns 16 he is running away...and he said i could come with...but i told him i would not go..iw ant to finish high school and go to college!!!!! i am afraid i am going to lose him..i think that si why i can't sleep at night!!!what should i do..please help!

If you want him to be the person you love go with him.But the only way to fufill finishing highschool and college is to stay with your mother.Just think if you ran away who would she be with?

And you can meet plenty of guys when you grow older.Loseing one isn't gonna kill you

~Kelleigh

Q: okay so im in drivers ed and im 16. there is another girl in there who is 14. she always starts talking to me randomly and she asked for my number so we could go to the beach today. i didnt want to, but i gave it to her, because what am i suposed to do, say no? so she called 5 times and left a message and i never picked up. now im freaked out she thinks were like, best friends. i dont even want to hang out with her! what should i do?

I would hang out with her a bit.See how she really acts like.If she doesn't change then get straight to the point.If you feel bad for her gather some kids her own age and see if they would like to hangout with her.But don't go yelling at her.It would upset her

~Kelleigh

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Ok,HI!My name is Kelli and I'm 13.Kelleigh is my nickname from my friend Meg.I like softball,track,IMing,myspace,forums,and pictures.I have many friends and always looking for more ^-^ I'm not a goody-goody type of girl so you watch out.I like to help people and go on the computer.So if you need anything you know were to find me.