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Q: I have a close friend who I usually get on well with. However, yesterday evening he told me that he is homophobic because he believes homosexual people mess up the whole cycle of life and they are selfish. I told him that people have the right to be who they want to be but he disagreed. Eventually I said that we could just forget it and agree to disagree but he wouldn't leave it. I told him I didn't want homosexual friends and refused to speak to him. I badly want to be his friend but he refuses to just forget our disagreement and not talk about it again. He just keeps saying that he is right and wont accept that it is a matter of opinion. I don't want to lose him as a friend, what should I do?
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The beauty of a mature relationship with a friend is being able to appreciate contradicting ideas as well as opinions. I have no right in telling you are right and he is wrong., But I am entitled to my opinion. A persons sexuality should not define their character. We are all human beings and with that comes originality, and uniqueness comes in various shapes and forms.There is nothing worse than being common. Tell your friend that part of a friendship is having respect for one another, and each others opinions. Express to him that its not important who’s right or wrong. Try to talk to him, and its sad to say but if he doesn’t reason to your words than he is not worth your friendship, he cant imply you never tried to work things out....
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Q: ok so um me and my friend (we are both girls)have sleep overs all the time and when we do she always puts her leg on me and so i would like rub on her leg and she would rub my boob and when i am in the bed i feel good about it but then when i am out of the bed i hate myself for even thinking of stuff like that and during the day i mean i LOVE guys and then when she sleeps over its a whole different story.......so anyways can u help me i dont understand what is wrong with me!
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The first thing that you have to do is dispute with yourself whether when you touch your friend its a friendly touch, or you lurking for much more.... Physical touch can be expression of ones own inverted feelings but sometimes you can be mislead by your emotions. What exactly goes through your mind at that exact moment when you two are engaging in this activity... Is one of the main keys in solving this dilemma. At least at this point that you might feel some sort of contradiction of your character. You are basically stranded in the thought of being a lesbian or straight.... Since the mind is beautiful but fallacious you should find comfort in knowing that life is not always black and white.......but an in between exists. You might want to consider the thought of you being a bisexual ( meaning you are sexually attracted to both men and women). If this is the case don't be ashamed of what you are feeling , remember you are your own worst enemy. Make sure that you communicate with the friend that these occasions happen with ...Maybe she's feeling the same way.... That way you can both help each other with this issue..... Hope I've been of some assistance.
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Q: Hey im getting into alot of fights with my really good friend on the internet and 1 day my mom read our confersation and now she never aloud over at my house again and at school we hang out alot and we havent got in a fight yet and i realyy want to ask my mom if she could come over but im to scared shell yell at me!! what should i do??
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This situation tends to happen when their is a third party in relationship, I mean I know it was an accident that your mom saw that conversation... But when you ever have a fight with someone try not envolving people that care about you . They always try to protect you from the person they think hurt you. In all actuallity they dont realize that you probably said some hurtfull things. My advice is for you to explain to your mother that you both exchanged some angry thoughts but you both apologized to eachother, and now are treating eachother differently. Tell her that you want to be able to show her how your friendship with this person has changed and you would like to invite her over. I am sure that your mom will understand....
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Life can be complicated... in the eye of the beholder....But the deep penetrating thought of someday being completely satisfied...keeps us going....I want to help you find that reason to keep on going....
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Website: Gender: Female Location: California Age: 19 Member Since: April 10, 2005 Answers: 22 Last Update: April 17, 2005 Visitors: 2942
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