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I have a friend(B) and she has a friend(C). The problem, (B)'s friend, is my worst enemy. (B) and I are really good friends. Well, I kinda started hanging out with other people. I found out later, (B) hated the people I was hanging with. So I started to hang out with (B) more. Come to find out, (B) is friends with (C). (C) acts really nice to me. I got nervous because (C) is like really smart and i don't trust her. When (B) leaves (C) attacks me with all kinds of insults. She named them all to me. I told (B), but she doesn't believe me because every time (C) and (B) are both around I snap at (C) before she can snap at me. Well, (C) started insulting everybody. Even (B) behind her back. (B) won't believe me that (C) is starting fights and stuff. One day, I lost it and almost tore (C)'s face off. I didn't get in trouble because I made her swear not to tell. (B) doesn't know about this fight. What should I do? Stop hanging out with (B)?

i would probably stop being friends with b i mean seriously what kind of friend just blows you off and doesnt believe you. b and c should just go be friends with themselves since they are both pretty pathetic. go find some new better friends. you deserve friends who you can trust and who treat you like a friend
-katie

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ok well, there's this girl; Paige i'll use names because it's eaiser. Well we were best friends since like 6th grade and we got in a fight about a month ago and we're good now. BUT, while we weren't friends she became really good friends with this girl who i hate, Lauren. I just don't like her. I could go on it's just too long. Anyway, i really didn't care because i had other friends too but they started doing EVERYTHING and then they both are going to the same high school- i'm not. They both made a sports team lauren's getting a big head- Paige isn't. Well recently my friend Nick and Clayton ran into lauren and she threatened nick to talk to paige and maybe ask her out. and pretty much grabbed him by the shirt and said ask her out soon or you'll die. Clayton and Nick told me and i really believe them. Nick's scared to death because he doesn't really like Paige. Paige, doesn't know what her new BFF - Lauren did. Should i tell her or just keep my mouth shut? I'm just afraid Paige is going to get hurt...again. and i hate it because somehow it'll come back on me. Please, help!

sorry it's long

ok so basically you have 3 options:
A. you can tell your friend about what nick and clayton told you and hope that she believes you over lauren... which no affense i dont think is very likely since you said that lauren and paige have become really close.you could also risk your friendship with paige if you tell her what nick and clayton told you
B. you could just stay out of this situation all together.. the only down side is that what if paige finds out that you knew about what lauren was doing and you didnt tell her... she might feel like betrayed by you which is never good
C. you could maybe have clayton and nick tell paige what lauren has been doing to them and how shes been threatening them.

if i were you i would go with choice c if nick and clayton are willing to do it if not stick with b and just stay out of this whole mess its sometimes easier that way

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hey. well there's this girl, we'll call her ...lauren. well in eigth grade we got into a fight. [yes, a fist fight] well, the thing is that she didnt even know me when she wanted to fight me. (she was the one who wanted to fight me, she punched first and so i hit back) and she won. but, she like.. sat on me and i couldnt get up and she talks about how stupid that is to do that to someone because its unfair all the time. anyway, sorry for rambling. but, she hates me. Honestly, i don't know why. I'm not one of those girls who does things and someone would actually have a ligit. reason for it. she just...hates me. i mean, in class i dont talk. and out of school we have NEVER talked, not even for a second. well, besides the fight.. but that wasnt for very long. lol. she's always soo nice to me- but behind my back she talks about me. anyway. i dont want this to escalate into a fight again because i have to focus on my studies. [like, seriously] I hope someone can give me advice on what to do whenever she does try and talk about me. do i just ignore it? do i stand up for myself? and how would i be able to do that without getting into a fight with her. if you met her, you'd know what i meant. shes the type of person who gets mad at EVERYTHING. please help & thankyou in advance.

i would ignore her...after awhile when she sees that ou have no reaction to this she will probably get bored and move to the next victim

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my friend [let's call her bert] has, like, a serious problem. or so she says. i think its just because she has practically no self control and can't restrain herself. but, anyway, when she has a "good" book, she's ALWAYS reading. now, first thing you might think is: "well, good for her, most kids aren't reading ENOUGH." but when i say always i mean ALWAYS.
last week really pissed me off 'cause bert, i, and another friend [lets call her adam] were on a field trip and we stuck together the whole time. except instead of talking to us like friends should do bert read and read and read. and when we tried to tell her to restrain herself 'cause she was ignoring us, she said she didn't care [but she doesn't say that if she's not reading].
another thing, this might just be because i'm on my period, but bert is seriously pissing me off. she reads during school when she should be paying attention [even more so because her grades aren't great] and then who does she ask for help? me. who's actually doing my work 'cause i actually get it 'cause i was actually paying attention.
it wasn't like this before, it started this [school] year. & i don't know what to do.

maybe, you should give bert a taste of her own medicine i guess you could say...when she starts talking to you be like oh sorry im busy or be right back or something like that... maybe she will get the point ane respect you and you other friend more and realize that shes being rude. or... you could just say it right to her that u think shes rude about how she does that or even just find some new friends to hang with...when she finds out that she has no friend left maybe it will hit her that she should treat them right...hope i helped

-katie

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Me and my other two friends are pretty close. I've just started hanging out with one of them about a year ago. We go out places and have a good time. But the thing is that they ALWAYS exclude me. They have sleepovers without me and they are even going to disney world together and talk about it in front of me all the time! Very rarely do I ever get included in their plans. I don't want to sound needy/clingy and whine to them about how they never include me and I'm afraid they'll get mad if I say something. I'm so hurt and confused. Do I have a right to be angry? What should I do to fix this?!

if i were you i would just try to find some other cool people to hang out with so that you dont feel like the third wheel...im sure theres some old friends that you could maybe reconnect with...its not fair of them to treat you that way but dont let them get to you...once they see you with some other friends maybe you will get included in more of their plans..who knows but if i were u i would go hangout with some other people...theres alot of people so that shouldnt be hard


hope i helped alittle...
-katie

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need someone to talk about my problems with in a conversation.
they are mostly friendship ones.

is there anyplace i can find people to talk to who will kind of give me a total other point of view?
since they are not my friend?

fraybay443 if you want just i-m me

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13/f..sorry if it's long..
Ok, I have this friend, let's name her sally. Well sally and i were BEST friends all last year, but we got in a huge fight over the summer and decided to not be such close friends. We couldn't completely stop being friend because we're kind of in the same circle. Well we obviously hadn't resolved our feelings because for the next few months (up until around november or december) we kept getting in huge fights. One of us would talk about the other behind her back, etc. Things finally settled down and we've become ok friends, like we talk and can be normal around each other. I even went over and hung out at her house once. Lately, especially within the last two or three weeks, we've been a really nice to each other. She recently broke up (then later got back together) with her boyfriend and i helped talk her through that and she thanked me for being there. Today, she and i were talking on aim and we started talking about her and her bf and then got on the subject of my love life, i let it slip the guy i like (who she knows) and we talked about him and then later i told her not to tell anyone and she was like of course not. shes a good person, but theres so much history between us, good and bad (and once last year she got mad at me and accidently told the guy i liked i liked him -it was really an accident, its a long story-she keep apologizing and i knew she felt bad), i dont know whether or not i can trust her. I'm afraid to accuse her of being untrustworthy because of course that would get anyone pissed off. Can i trust her?

well i don't know if this helps much but i like live by this quote 'fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me' well it basically means that if some1 does something that betrays you or does something that loses your trust in them or w/e then its your friends fault entirely but if you take them back as a friend you are always going to have the chance that they will do it again-not many people are willing to change- so if she fools you twice then its kina in a way your fault cause you set yourself up for it... so if i were you i would maybe trust her one more time but i would be careful what i tell her...hope i helped!

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theres a guy... & he flirts with me all the time. we hung out Monday and he was flirting with me so much and he called me beautiful and all this stuff. then one of my friends tells me today that he likes another girl. I was really upset because I felt stupid... i set my feelings on him and then this happened. i just don't know how i should act around him, because i'm not sure if he still likes me. i mean, i still like him but should i not show it? should i flirt with him even more? should i not even talk to him? any ideas?

well either your best friend misheard something or this guy is totally playing you. If i were you i would like lightly flirt back like a fourth of how much he is flirting but maybe flirt with some other guys around him to show him that he isnt the only guy you can get. And if he confronts you about you flirting with other guys then thats a sure sign that hes interested. But play it cool...make him fall for you. If he has you whipped then he has you and thats sometimes a not so great place to be so unless you two start dating try not to like him too much.

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