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ok well i just learned that my best friend has been talking bout me behind my back and i dont know what to do :[ (link)
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The truth is everyone talks about everyone. The things she saying I assume are negative, but maybe it was just because you two got in a fight or she was annoyed at you, so she was ranting to other people? I admit I do that when I'm in a fight with someone, but it doesn't mean we aren't best friends. I would never tell her secrets, though. I don't have much information to go on, but if she was just saying that you're annoying or ugle then chances are she was just annoyed at you and there is nothing to get upset over. However if she was spreading rumors about you or spreading your secrets then confront her and ask her why she did so or ask a friend to ask her if you don't like confrontation. There may be a very good explanation, so wait and get the full story then react!
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Ive been sick and nearly failed two years of school with a sleep/ mood disorder and depression. Well my best buddy, weve been friends since age two and now were fifteen! But Ive basically turned into a hermit or something because Im still recovering for the start of tenth grade come fall. Ive just gotten used to being home all the time and spending time with my mom. It doesnt sound healthy, I know, but I dont mind it.
But my friend, were BBFLs, [best buds for life], and when she asks me to hang out but I dont feel well enough to get up and go, I say something like "well Ill see how I feel and maybe we can hang out in a few days, the weather is supposed to be better for the pool anyways" she just says "yeah well you say that all the time! and its not like im asking you to run a marathon! whatever i gtg!!"
But shes also had a big history of health problems. They used to call her Typhoid Mary, until she got her tonsils taken out.
But I feel like she of ALL people should know what Im going through! After all, shes a carrier for mono. I just have nothing to say to her about it and I dont want to ruin our friendship after all of these years. Please, please, help. (link)
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I can completely relate to you. I'm 15 also and entering 10th grade. I must admit that I too am a hermit because i have OCD and depression. I go out occasionally with friends when im in the mood, but I know what you mean when you say that some days you just don't feel like it.
1)Talk to her and tell her how you feel. You guys have been friends for a really long time, so i'm sure that if you talk to her then it won't ruin your friendship. Tell her that you thought she would be able to understand considering shes been through a lot and tell her that the reason you don't go out with her isn't because you don't like her anymore. tell her its because some days you just feel too sad or too tired to go out and explain to her that maybe that is most days, but that as your best friends you hope that she can understand what your going through.
2) Could she possibly come over and hang out around the house with you? That could also be a solution. you two could talk together and just hang out and watch tv or play board games. It may not be what she had in mind, but atleast you guys are together. I also understand that going out when you're not in the mood would just ruin your day and hers, so I don't recommend that.
Let me know if you want to talk. I mean frankly I'd love to talk to someone my age who's going through some of the same things as me. So message me if you want my SN or email :)
I really hope things get better with your friend, i really do!
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