I'm a wild and crazy 14 year old, I've had a lot of rough spots with guys, friends, family, etc. important things in life like that. I'm outgoing and bold, if something needs to be said I will say it without hesitation!
E-mail: babyBgoddess@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Portage, Michigan
Age: 14
Member Since: March 25, 2005
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Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!
Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.
I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.
At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.
What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.
It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much! (link)
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Give her time I've known my friends for years but when my parents got divored its not that i didnt stil love them its just that i neede time to myself to cool dowm and I DEFINAETLY did not want to talk about it to anyone. Its not that shes embarresed or anything she just wants to put it behind her not talk about it if she can help it sounds to me like you guys are very close, shell come aroudw when shes ready all you have to do is sit and be patient.
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There are these girls on my soccer team and their really popular and i'm a lot like them but I only started on this soccer team this year but it seems like they just wanna keep the clique their in and dont wanna let anyone else in although if they got to know me I think we could be really good friends what can I do to make them see that? (link)
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Girl, it sounds like their preps, plastics, snobs, maybe their not, strike up a conversation one day or compliment them on a game well played if they dont warm up to you, you dont want to be like them because if they're so unwelcoming to not try you as a friend they're not worth your time.
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On Wednesday in school I asked my friend if she wanted to go to the movies afterschool on Thursday. She said she'd go home and ask her mom, yada yada. Well, on Thursday she didn't know if she could go for sure, so she told me to call her when I got home. When I got home, I called her and she couldn't go because she said 'her mom was going to a party'. Well, later that night..thanks to her other friends away messages, I found out she was at her other friends house. I know for a fact this girl invited her over that very day, and I had invited her on wednesday. Wtf is her problem? Should I confront her about it, or what..cause that just pisses me off. And, she's ALWAYS doing stuff with this girl, she has no freaking time for anyone else. (link)
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Just tell her how you fell. Tell her that that girl is not the only person on earth and not her only friend and that if she wants to hang out with her instead to just tell you because honesty is the best policy.
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Hi.
Well, my friends have all fallen out and I'm finding it really difficult to not take sides. Friend A said something nasty about friend B and friend C took friend B's side. This means that A is mad at C because she didn't take her side.
However, the nasty thing that A said was, in my opinion justified...
No-one is A's friend and I try and stick up for her because I don't think it's fair that B and C just slag her off behind her back all the time, but that makes them hate me. I want to take A's side even more when they do that. Plus friend B is SO annoying and is always doing weird stuff like humping us (seriously...everyone thinks we're lesbians or something) and messing up our hair and all this crap. So I should take friend A's side, right? Wrong. Friend A has said some really mean stuff over the years, none directed at me but I can't deny that it makes me wonder what she's thinking about ME. All their arguing is driving me crazy and I have to do something, and I don't want to take sides but it feels like I'm being forced to - B and C are horrible to me every time I talk to A. What can I do? (link)
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If at all possible try not to take sides, but i know how friends can be sometimes, if they tell you that you have to chose sides or they'll be mad at you ask them why they are making you chose between your friends and put them on the spot tell them real friends wouldn't make you chose
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