My friend and I just fought over something that happened weeks ago. Apparently she never let it go and felt she had to bring it up again. She won't leave me alone and keeps texting me about it and I'm getting sick of it. What should I do?
We're not sure what your fight was all about since you didn't state it, but I'm gonna say, your fight's something mediocre, but of course it's gonna cause you two to fight.
Here's the thing, if you love your friend and you don't want her to leave you, you should try to be understanding. If it's something you did, everytime she texts you, just say "I'm sorry", it doesn't have to be sincere, just text her everytime she texts you, I'm sure that'd be easy since you don't have to act and cry and everything, you're just gonna type, unless you meet, then just do it with more emotion ;)
If you don't care about her, and you don't exactly want her to be around, then just ignore her until she gets tired of saying it over and over again. That's not that hard. Or at least say "I don't want to bother you anymore, I'm getting out of your life." then ignore her forever.
Typical teen problems ;)
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It's my last year of high school and I regret one thing, I regret staying in my one group of friends (two people) and not branching out and befriending other people, I mean I've made many acquaintances but the relationship never becomes at least a friendship. Long story short the friends that I came into high school with aren't the friends I'm leaving high school with, one of the friends completely cut me off she was never really my friend I knew she was waiting for an opportunity to cut me out of her life and she finally did last year. The other friend is my friend but we only talk in school, last time we hung out in public was at her birthday last year. Now it's my last year and I feel like a total loser I have no social life, I'm always home and I barely have any friends. I know I should be greatful for the ones I have but how would you like it if you had friends and they always made you feel left out or the third wheel? It's like a cycle with me ever since elementary school I've always been that third friend to two best friends. Nobody has considered me they're best friend and if they have they have another friend who they'd call their sister, so it's like the "best friend" title is pointless. Like I've tried making different friends but like I said earlier the relationship never passes the acquaintance stage. Here's some background info on me I'm almost 17, female I am socially awkward and have socially anxiety people complain that I talk too quiet but I don't understand it's like when I'm around people I don't know too well I feel uncomfortable, my eyes feel like they're gonna cross and I start to stutter (I've never had a stutter before) also I don't have any guy friends, the ones that I do are from my elementary school so they don't really count. My school is basically a school where if you're attractive, people will approach you no matter what and everyone will know your name or want to be friends with you, if you're not attractive like me you're basically fighting to fit in, or at least get someone to talk to you. (but that's for another story) anyways please give me some tips on how to make friends and how to make my speech better because it wasn't this bad till I started high school, in elementary school boys made fun of me saying my voice was too deep (this was before they hit puberty) ever since then I stopped talking and now people complain that I'm monotone, soft-spoken and mumble. It's like I can never win
Ok, just to make you feel better, before I met my bestfriend, no one would approach me. I could sense you're the kind of teen who always sits in the corner and mumble about how you don't have any friends, don't worry, everyone's like that once in a while. But after some time, you'll realize that it's not exactly socially healthy to just sit there and wait for someone to come and befriend you. Like you said, you're physically unattractive, so most people'll not try to befriend you. But trust me, a friendship that initiates through physical qualities are false friendships.
Here's what you should do. You're surely a fan of something right? Let me guess, you like books, or games, or something, so dwell on that. Having friends is not limited only to the people in your school. Decypher what you really want, if it's something popular, then surely there'll be a fandom, or a fanpage on facebook, join that group and you'll find the best kind of friends you could pick from the fruit tree. Who knows, you might find someone who's just around your area
Hope this helps ;)
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I got employed recently and got my first month salary a few days back. The problem is one of my friends asked for 1000 bucks to lend him and he said he will return it next month. I know him since I was 14 and I'm 24 now. I know he won't return the money coz he already owes me money. I have a problem telling no and I agreed to give him the money. I am so confused on this. I don't have a lot of friends so I'm afraid of losing him. Further more if my mother comes to know about this she will kill me. I know the mother part sounds silly but thats how I grew up. I don't want to give the money nor do I want to lose him. The more frustrating thing is that I haven't spend any of it for my family nor myself. That adds to my dilemma. As far as l know he is jobless and will probably spend the money to get drunk and do other stuff. We have another friend in common and he has blew him off saying that he spent the money.Kindly advise me on this
Normally, you can lend a friend a dollar and you won't expect it back. But dear, a thousand dollars is not a joke. You can't seriously give him the money knowing nothing will come back.
As his friend, sustaining his vices would be very very unfriendly, what you can do is give him what he needs! and even that's too much. If he leaves you for not giving him the money, then you'll know he's not a true friend.
You might be happy with him as a friend, but if that's how he'll act, then I'll say it now that is not true friendship
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She started dating this guy a few weeks ago maybe a month. the first day they started dating he sucked her boobs and they have had sex and shes given him blow jobs. I know all of this cause she told me and i saw her text messages. she also started smoking weed which is really easy to get were i live. i feel like i should tell someone but i dot want to get her in trouble whet do i do?
I wont want to sound like a mom, so im gonna advice you this... Sex? That isnt really bad in terms of physical aspects, though its indecent, smoking weed though, that's the prob... My advice is use all your capacity to stop her, if you cant, then you need to tell someone else. If your afraid that this'll ruin your friendship, then you're selfish, why? Because a true friend would risk everything for the sake of one's state.
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