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Q: 15/f.
So theres this kidd i like a lot. I dont know i think i may even love him. but its just hard. Like i've known him all my life & you could say we are pretty good friends. Now he has known i like him for a very long time. And everytime i see him or talk to me i just fall for him even more and more. Now he doesnt like me back which hurts. I know i cant do anything about him liking me but idk. Sometimes i just feel like im ugly and he doesnt like me because of that & if thast the reason it is extremely shallow. I know im not that ugly im not the prettiest thing but im deff not that ugly. And i've been told i have a great personality, which people say is what people like in a relationship. Most of my friends don't like him. They always tell me to get rid of him as a friend. But i've known him almost all my life. And ive long him for a very very long time. I want to get over him because although i may possibly love him. He doesnt love me back, well not like that. He jokes around with all the sexual hints and stuff, but he doesnt mean it & i know for a fact. I guess im just wondering what i should do. should i drop him as a friend? or should i try and stop liking/loving him. Because i honestly dont know how to get over him. It's like im always going to like him.
Any help would be nice.
thank you.
Awh,,Im so sorry.Im in this exact situation.I dont know where to go for advice,but maybe I can give it.
Youre prolly NOT ugly.and personality is VERY important.And think about this..why are your friends telling you to get rid of him as a friend?.Is he bad...does he do bad things...why would they tell you that?.Then you dont really need to "get over" him..your friends arent ALWAYS right.But then again,,if you think their oppion is valid,use it.Anyways..have your own oppion.Just listen to your heart.And if youre not sure of what it's saying..ask someone..a youth pastor,parent,aunt,uncle..and if it's REALLY bad,maybe even a conselor.
The only words that will prolly be helpful are:
"Think through this."
Its the only thing that makes sense.

Q: me and my friends were talking to this guy on the phone. tina was like, "melissa and __(me) are making out!" and then the guy laughed and was like, "stop teasing me." what does that mean exactly?
Yeah,Just like the answer under mine.
He just means that he knows youre joking and wants to show you that he knows.
Lol.
Hopefully you get it.=]]

Q: allright, my friend likes this kid, lets call him bob? allright, well she sits next to him in science and she likes him. She told me she did a wheil ago, but then she told me a couple months later that she didnt. I was afriad to get close to him because i was afriad that he was going to start liking me. But after she told me she didnt like him anymore, i got closer to him. We where just on a trip for school and we spent the entier time together. We laughed so much and i dont think either of us was not smiling the entier day. Now that night my friend told me that she still had a massive crush on him, she was just upset because they were going no where in the friendshipn when she told me she didnt. Now i like bob. I'm not going to not like him because she likes him, but what do i do if he ends up liking me, because i'm pretty sure he does.When we were on that trip we were inceperable. I dont know what to do about my friend. She knows that we are close, but she doesnt think i like him, because she does, basiclly because his bestfriend likes me too, and she thinks that sence we are best friends itd be cool if our boyfriends were bestfriends lol. so yeah the other boy that likes me, we have chemistry but not like me and bob... god, i dont know what to do im so confused. I mean i like the other boy too, but like me and bob are just so close. and another thing, if i were to go out with bob, i dont think our relasonship would stay the same, im sure it wouldnt, and i dont want the to happen. so would it be better if i were to just attempt to not like him anymore? cause i dont want to give up the friendship we have.
Omg.It is confusing isnt it?.For one,I dont think its possible for you to totally stop liking someone just like that.It so takes time,or you find out that hes not who you think he is,which,hopefully,hasnt happened(that totally sucks.).I know,I know,your friend likes him,and has liked him.Its not fair that she flipped like that but it happened,and Im pretty sure you cant change that.But if he likes you(and,sadly he doesnt like your friend),and he asks you out,just either say that you cant,it wouldnt be right(even though you really want to,for your friends sake you would do this.),or you go out and make your friend feel uncomfortable and probably not be friends with you,even though its totally your life,and your friend shouldnt controll it.Idontknow if this helped.
Hope it did.=]]

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Hey..:]]
Im Victoria Lejean Wood.Yess,,the middle name is kinda lame..but at least its not like everyone elses.
I wish to help you with things..I hope I give good advice.
I love cows.And Myspace rocks my world.
I love my school and all the people there.My church is also amazing.All the people there are so encouraging.Chicago is aweeesome..Ilovethecity.
I really like this guy.He doesnt even know it though.He would never talk to me again if he knew.Maybe its better he didnt.
Anyways..
Im in 8thgrade.:]]
And Im in a family of 8 kids.
and Feel free to ask me ANYTHING.Ill answer my BEST.:]]

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