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Ok here's the basics. I help people it's my thing. I'll answer all questions. Even simple ones. I give my opinion sometimes but you can ignore it.=) Im pretty nice ask me something and I'll tell you straight up!
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Alright, so my best friend from high school and I attend different colleges, about an hour away from each other. We occasionally make the trip to each other's school to hangout but it only happens once in a while due to lack of money and busy schedules. Anyways, I've just moved into a new apartment and my friend has been saying how she really wants to come see my new place and I've been wanting to go down there to see her and hangout. Well I found out tonight that she's in town (where I go to school/live) and didn't get ahold of me. I found out through a mutual friend of ours who she's been having a "thing" with for a year or so now (he's a guy, by the way). But they're all just hanging out and whatnot, so it's not like a date or something. He mentioned it to me and when I asked her she said she was "literally just going to ask if I had to work tomorrow" even though we had been talking all night. I suppose I don't really need advice, just clarification as to if it's a valid reason to be upset with her. Thanks! :)
I think it is a valid reason and besides, if you guys are really best friends, even if you were slightly jealous and upset over something insignificant she should respect those feelings anyway whether they can be justified or not. If she was my best friend though, I would worry.
17/f I have a reputation in school as a boyfriend stealer. The friends I do have, don't ever let me meet there boyfriends or near boys they like. I don't mean to take anyones boyfriend, and I never date any of my friends boyfriends but they always end up liking me. I really don't know why I'm just myself and
nice. But I was wondering on ways to NOT flirt.
Don't make any physical contact and stay away from them when you're with your friends. For example if you go for dinner sit next to two girls not the boy. If the guy makes fun of you just laugh. Don't say anything playful back. For example, "Yea but Jessicas always falling down the stairs." Don't say something back. For example "Yea but you're always tripping UP the stairs Jared." And then laugh. Cuz guys do take that as flirting. Definitely don't give the guy your email or your phone number and if he asks you in front of everyone and you do give it to him don't text him back if he does cuz that probably means he's in the beginning stages of liking you anyways. Hope I helped? :/
is it possible to fall in love online? or maybe, ...perhaps even like a best friend type of love? is it ridiculous if you've known the person for a long time?
15/f
No its not impossible but just becareful. If you've never met them before they might not turn out to be the person who you thought they were. If your thinking of meeting this person bring someone with you who can see you most of the time. Just incase its some really good pedifile lmao jk no but seriously even if its not. Your communicating through a computer you have no idea what their like in real life so don't fall for them too quickly. =) Hope I helped
my friend and i were at a party. she has a boyfriend of over a year now, but she seems to flirt with every guy she sees. there was this one guy at the party who has liked her for awhile so people kind of made them hug. nothing wrong with hugging. but then she started to act differently around him and to me, everything she did is almost like cheating on her boyfriend. later on, her cousin invited her and i to sleepover at his house with his friends (my mom said no, so her mom didnt let her either). the thing is, she REALLY wanted to sleepover. i think she wanted to be with that guy all night. so, do you think i should just ignore it and let her do what she wants, or should i tell her boyfriend?
Have you talked to her about how you feel? It will just make her really angry if you go off telling her boyfriend how you feel without telling her. If she doesn't respond and gives a lame answers like no I don't like him and that's it then go ahead and help them. The poor guy doesn't need that. All your doing is informing someone about what's going on. They have to make the decision of whether to break up or not! =) Hope I helped.
my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?
My bestfriend's dad died so I know how you feel. You can just ask him how he/she is holding up. Don't add on the Im sooo sorry too much because this usually makes them feel even worse. Letting them know that your there for them is usually all someone needs. You can ask when the funeral is and then say sorry. Don't linger on the subject too much. Be the friend that is willing to talk about something else and DO NOT ask them how.
Okay so I always seem to be the ONLY person making plans out of all of my friends. But the thing is, everytime I make a plan, no one even bothers to remember it or are ALWAYS too busy to hang out with me or sometimes don't even bother to show up. EVeryone just acts so flaky all the time. Idk what I'm doing wrong; when I do get a chance to hang out with these people, we have a great time. So why should I be the only one ever taking action and making plans, and being disappointed when they all can't time out of their "busy" lives to just hang out for one day during the summer?
Im sorry hun but Im going to have to say this quite harshly so that you won't forget it and be back in that vicious circle again. THEY DON'T LIKE YOU. =( Think about it always busy or leading you on that they are going to come through then not. I went through the same thing. You can't really call those people ''friends.'' Anyways Im really sorry next time notice the signs first before you get too caught up with them. For example not picking up your phone calls or if they do it's always only five minutes long. Seeing them all out together when they said they were ''busy.'' Them all laughing together and ''joking'' about you all the time. Girl read the signs they are so low they have to pretend they are better than you to make themselves feel good. Who needs friends like that. Im sure they all talk about eachother behind there backs. It's one thing about girls I can't stand. I hope I helped without getting too harsh.=( Ask me for more advice I have a column. Let me know how it's going. It's scary making new friends but your better off being alone then being degraded like that. =)
it all started yesterday. yesterday was a really bad day for me.. i mean we had to clean our entire house, and i couldnt even go out with my friend to see fireworks at some place, since we're not going anywhere for 4th of july, cause my mom has work, and my dad's busy as always. and i recently made a myspace, and i asked my friend (not her friend anymore i guess) if i could be on her top, and she said no, and then i asked what i should reply to her after she said that, and you guys at advicenators gave me advice and i took it and well.. this is what happened.
(by the way, i have been friends with this girl since like 4th grade, and she was more my friend during 5th and 6th grade but it changed during 7th. it was like she wasnt even interested in me sometimes... it got annoying but i didnt think that she didnt like me till she didnt invite me to her end of the year sleepover. i asked her if i was going and shes like "sorry its for close friends only" when some people she invited she didnt even know as long as i've known her! so it hurt.. and im real confused.)
me: hey (her name)! hows your summer? add me to your top? =]
her: umm...no your not going in my top
me: whatever, thats cool. by the way, why have you been acting kinda weird around me?
her: because, your rude. you piss me off alot and, you act as if the world loves you sometimes!!
now i dunno what to reply! cause what she said stuck in my head for the whole day. am i really rude? im usually nice to everyone, i dont even think i've ever been mean to her.. well i was mean to some girl because after a long time she just kept pissing me off, and i scribbled on her face in my yearbook. i didnt think people would find out but some of my friends saw it who didnt care, and this girl im talking about saw it and she didnt like it.. but it wasnt even about her and besides she doesnt know how that girl had been acting so i'd scribble on her face. i dont regret doing that, and it wasnt like i was gonna show them that i drew it, though they found out anyways... their problem.
and i dunno how i piss her off, and if i act like the world loves me.. doesnt that mean confidence? i dunno but maybe its cause im optimistic and stuff, but i really dont know cause nobody's ever said that to me before. :( what should i do? if im really rude or anything how can i fix it? and is this a friend i should really keep and how should i reply to that message without being "rude" or should i be rude?
Hey,I had the same problem so don't worry about it. So you want to keep this friend obviously and she means a lot to you. Get her by herself somewhere. Talking is the key to sucess.^^ Just ask her why she thinks your rude. Explain your actions to her. If she's friends with that girl you scribbled over then if you really want to keep the relationship apoligize to that girl. No matter how much she annoys you suck it up and say sorry. Tell your 6th grade friend that she should talk to you next time she gets annoye at you instead of buliding it up. If you guys are really friends then you should be able to get through anything. Just remember that not all people think things through before they react so she might even be feeling kind of harsh. Confront her and then swoop in and look like the person who took the highroad. No matter how badly you screw up she'll remember that day forever trust me. Hope all goes well. Ask me for more advice =). P.s. You might want to wait till school's over to scribble all over someone's face XD.