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My name is Megan, I'm 22 years old, and I live in Brownwood, Texas! I am engaged to a wonderful man who just takes my breath away. ;) I'm an EKG Tech and I LOVE my job. I had a column here YEARS ago, but simply cannot remember the log in :)

I really enjoy inspiring others and provoking change. I find solace in providing others with a happier disposition. A single word of praise or a simple well-wish can seriously change how people see themselves. I love it!

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Recently I switched my schedule so I could have a drawing and painting class to work on my portfolio. My teacher placed me at te end of the class next to this sophomore , David. He seemed real nnice at first, but then he just kept staring at me and making odd comments about everything. And he breathes on me heavily(his breath stinks).
I really want to switch seats but another girl Maggi sits there and thinks David is a real creeper too.
I don't want to say anything to him cause that's mean.
And I don't want to ask the teacher cause she might put me in a MORE uncofortable position.
How can I get this creeper vibe out of my system??
I'm 16/f/junior in high school. I don't know what age he is. About 15?

The only thing you can do is tell your teacher. Just say that you'd like to sit closer to her to be able to hear the lessons better, or you could just be honest and say that the guy makes you uncomfortable. Make sure you let her know that he hasn't made any sexual comments/advances (if he hasn't!) so she doesn't get the wrong idea. Don't be immature and catty about it, just be honest.

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My friend pricilla is a cool friend but shes a total tomboy and bully shes always hurting me and if i tell her to stop bothering me i know she will kill me or at least give me a black eye i need seriose help.NOW!!

Stand up for yourself! Tell her you think she's a cool girl, and you'd love to still be friends, but you can't continue the friendship if she continues the abuse. If she won't stop, get the authorities involved. Assault is illegal for a reason. :)


Good luck!

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OKkkk! So i have a bestfriend and he has a girlfriend who happens to be my cousin but honestly she is a "SLUT!" he wants to leave but she always make ways for him to come back ((HE SAYS HE LOVE HER) Just recently He called me mad as JASON ((the killer lls)) sayn she BLOW JOB his blood brother! IM LIKE WTFFFFF and he wants me :/ WHAT SHOULD I SAY?

If he stays with a girl like that, you don't want him.

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19/f.
I am seeking advice on making some new friends and in mending previous friendships. In the past, I've been really shy and uptight when I meet people, and I feel as though I may come across to new people as being unfriendly...and my old friends don't really ask me to hang out anymore. I miss them and I feel uncomfortable asking them to get together because I am scared of rejection and awkwardness. I do really care about my friends and miss their presence in my life, but I don't know how to show it.

I want to change this perspective that I think people have of me, and I want to make new friends and become close with my old friends again.

It's my second year of college and I commute to classes daily by my car and live at home with my family still. I think I lost a lot of friends when I started becoming serious with my boyfriend last year.

What can I do to reach out to people and be more friendly/confident? I want to show people that I'm not as uptight as I was before.

The only thing you really can do is ask them to hang out. Try and reconnect. If you all have Facebook, you could send them each a message saying how you miss them and you're sorry for neglecting the friendship, and hopefully you can do something together soon. People will be receptive to that kind of thing.

As far as making new friends, people LOVE confidence. You have to figure out how to carry yourself in a confident manner, and not be too shy, but not too outgoing. Just be honest. If you meet a new friend from a mutual friend, get to know them. "Hey, those shoes are really cute, where did you get them?" "What are you majoring in?" "Did you grow up here? It's a pretty cool place to live" etc.

Good luck!

Megan

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I am a 14 yr old girl going into gr 9 and i have one friend who treats me really badly she went as far as to tells me i was ugly and so was my grad dress.(which she knew i loved) i dont know how much longer i can put up with her abuse (both pyhsical as well as mental) but dont know how a can not be friends with her and still be friends with my other friends, as they will most likly hang out with her.....

Personally, I'd rather have no friends than a friend like that. If you're worried about your other friends abandoning you if you stop being friends with this one girl - wait. She will likely display this behavior to one of your other friends once she doesn't have you to pick on any more. Bullies don't just pick on one person and be completely nice to everyone else. I'm sure she'll victimize someone else and the rest of your friends will realize what kind of person she is.

I would simply ask her why she is so cruel to you. Tell her that friends don't behave like this towards on another, and if she doesn't want to be friends, you're okay with that. If she DOES want to be friends, tell her she needs to alter her behavior because you refuse to deal with her drama.


I know it's easier said than done, but you need to stand up for yourself. Don't let some girl walk all over you and make you feel like dirt. It's about control. She wants to control you and you're letting her by allowing her comments to go unpunished. Speak up.

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My best friend and I use to spend almost everyday together. We are both females & 26. I have a 1 year old daughter and my best friend is/was a significant part of her life as well. Her boyfriend just quit his job because he is moving 6 hours away. He's not positive when he's moving but possibly in 2 months. Now that he has quit his job they spend every night and day together. The only time I see her is if her BF has something else to do. This really hurts my feelings and I'm feeling taken advantage of. She came to my house last night,for the 1st time in 3weeks (her BF was at one of his friends house). She couldn't get here until 12:30am but we planned on watching one of our favorite shows and even though I had to get up at 6am w/ my baby I so badly wanted to spend time w/ my friend. Well we didn't even get to watch our show because a half hour after she got here her BF called and said he wanted to go get something to eat and so she left. I'm not the kind of girl that gets jealous of my best friends relationship w/ her bf. It just drives me nuts because I could never imagine treating a friend like that and then expecting that friend to be there for me 100% when my BF moves away. Its even more hurtful because I have a one year old daughter that she use to see everyday and now hasn't seen her in over a month. My friend always says "I feel so bad that I haven't seen you guys but he's moving so I want to spend as much time with him as possible". I feel like my friendship is being taken for granted. Am I being selfish or being taken advantage of?

I can understand both sides.

On yours, you feel abandoned. On hers, she is GOING to feel abandoned.

When it comes to a romantic relationship, people really cling to that. She clearly really loves her boyfriend and I can understand her wanting to spend as much time with him as she possibly can before he moves, though I do think it's unfair for her to be your friend only when it's convenient for her.

Best solution is just talk to her. Don't guilt her, just simply state how you're feeling. Try to be as understanding about her situation as you'd expect her to be about yours.

Hopefully y'all can patch things up! :)

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