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Well my BEST FRIEND moved really far away about 2 years ago. We have still managed to stay very close. We only see each other once or twice a year though. Lately i feel liie she is forgetting about me. I feel like I am being replaced for her frinds down there. I mean i want her to make friends but i still want to be friends with her too. She never calls anymore so I end up calling her and she always says she cant talk and she'll call me back, but never does. So i stopped calling her just to see if she would stop and think that she hasnt talked to me in a while and should call or sumthing. It hasnt happend. I havent talked to her for about a week. So heres my question. Am i being totaly selfish about this? If so what is a better way to solve it. helpp please! What should i do?

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youre not being selfish at all. friends who move away are always going to loose touch a bit. start calling her back, and talk to her about it. tell her you feel like the two of you are drifting and try to set up a specific time each week that you two can call each other and talk. something that you guys arent aloud to skip or say that your too busy for. and/or write/email each other each week, a letter/email that you have to send. make it a rule between the both of you to promise to do this.

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okay i juss got my haircut nottttt that long ago & i got the whole sidebang thing but i'm running out've ideas. my hairs curly too so if anyone has any ideas. i thought maybe scrunching it & juss leaving the bang go?? what do you guys think??

thanks!!

do you like your hair curly??? cause if its already naturally wavy/curly then you should try this(its what i do), take your shower in the morning, then with a towel get out excess water, scrunch in some gel, and blow dry it using a diffuser, a diffuser is an attachment for your blow dryer, and youll need a round ended blow dryer for the attachment to fit, to dry it just flip your head and let the hair sit in the diffuser

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As you all know Christmas is comming up and i dont know what i should get my bestfriend for christmas..should i make her something ?? or buy something ?? I dont know..im lost!! lol so if yall could help me that would be great..im 14/f and my bestfriend is 13/f ( almost 14 ) if that helps!!

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i liked the other persons idea of a photo albumn, memories are always something people like, or bake her a plate of cookie and buy her a movie that ya'll can watch together

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The guy that I like and I are friends. I thought it was pretty easy to see that but today when we were talking he wanted to know who i liked. So I just told him so he wouldn't keep bugging me. I knew he didn't like me back, but he said "i don't know if we can hook up right now cause I like...whatever her name is." And I think its a little bit weird talking to him know just because. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me more than a friend or for it not to be weird to talk to him?

ps. the girl he likes likes him back but doesnt want a boyfriend right now. and they just went to the movies together with some other friends. so i don't know what to do and it really sucks. someone help me please!

i read the other answer to your question that you got and obviously that person read it wrong, but anyways, you cant make someone like you, but i can try to help you get back to normal, my friend was is a similar situation recently,if your friends with someone theyre gonna care about you alot, and if you two are friends then he cares about you, just try to think about it like hes not at that point yet, and just remember that friendship is strong, he'll always love you even if he dosent likelike you

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Well i new my bff for 9 years now, and i was moved away in a different state for seven of them (but we kept in touch, i visited constintly) but now we are losing a bff style, like whenever i call she has to go, or if she doesnt she'll proply hang up on me in a few minutes anyway. i cant trust her because she always lies to me and brakes promises and tells secrets.i am really starting to dislike her, but never the less i have known her and was her bff for 9 years now, and she used to be so kind and sweet to me (its only been a year where she was rude to me) i miss her being the way she was. please help me!

ok, i have the same problem as you, my bff for years moved away she wrote me one letter and i wrote back but she never wrote again, it didnt really hit me much then, and then she moved back about 2 years later,we visited and hugged and had parties and were bffs again,and then one day she went to high school (she was a year older than me and i was held back in first grade)and became a cheerleader, suddenly we werent friends anymore, she didnt call, i didnt call, we never visited, and whenever we did see each other we didnt hug or anything, we didnt even so much as say hello one time, and you know what, i was becoming bitter towards her, because she wasnt my friend anymore, she just left me one day, i thought how could this even be happening, i have your letter, and all the gifts youv ever given me, ive kept everything, i remember everything, and it mad me mad, i just wanted to go over to her house and scream, whenever i look at her friends screen name(dont ask how i got it...i dont really remember)i get jealous and really pissed off, i always go back to her letter when i see her friends names used and see if they are the friends she mentioned in the letter. sorry this is long, and all i can do is be mad, but thats just my point, you drift away, your both getting older and things are changing,she was the best friend i ever had, and since then the only one i can call a best friend,but we just have to let go, you cant help it if your drifting apart, let it drift because you will get a new bff, dont tell her your secrets anymore, just be there and be her bff, keep it as long as you can, but one day youll just have to let go

sorry its sooooooooooooooooooo long

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I moved here in 6th grade and I've always wanted to be popular...So I tried hanging with the white popular people and it seriously was HARD work!! Each year, things got better..and now I'm at that point where we'd be better friends if I'd invite them over (I haven't invited them over yet because I'm embaress that they will say that my house is small compared to theres..or that they will make fun of my lifestyle..and everything) I'm now in 11th grade..and I really want to be friends with these people..I don't think I can keep a close relationship with them if I never invite them over...I'm just very embaressed of the way I live...Compared to them, I'm so much uglier and poorer..and they're rich...Please don't judge..Thanks

if they wont be friends with you because of money then they arent worth your time

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I know this guy since we were 7 years old. I think he is gay. He always talks about gay people. He always points out who is gay. He has no male friends of his own and he goes to gay clubs and claims he is just watching to see who lives a secretly gay life. He also has a lot of woman friends and gossips very much.
He dates women have no flaws. Very pretty women that look like models.He is very picky. He calls every body ugly. when i date a guy he tells me he's not that cute. I've seen cuter. Is it just me or is that something a girl would say? What do you think about this situation.?

well the dating pretty women thing, guys are shallow like that, not saying he is but mabey he prob. just like that more, the gay bar/club thing, huh, interesting ,mabey he just finds it interesting, and saying the guys you date arent cute, mabey hes just saying that cause he wants the best for you, thats my fight against saying hes gay, now do i think he is though, could be but i dont know him, ask him, mabeys hes bi. or shy about being gay or not even at all

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This is sortof long but please!!!


Ok i have this EX friend Rachael. She hangs out with William and Laura. We aren't good friends but we used to be best friends. But one day we got in a big fight and got back together. It hapened 3 more times. Then just last week William told me that Laura recorded me on her phone saying that Rachael is a b@#$% but i only called her that when i didnt like her. i asked Laura but she said she didnt.. And Rachael is like going around telling peoeple bull about me and telling people to stay away. She is just so ARGH!! i don't want anythig to do with her, but shes in my french class and she always sets her infront of me. I JUST HATE RACHEAL!!! how the heck can i get her out of my friggin life? as well as Laura and William

Tell them off! tell them off! Tell them off!
jk jk jk jk jk dont do that itll make it much worse
just dont talk to them, tell them you dont want them to talk to you
if you want them out of your life them make it so they arent
and when racheal sits in front of you, move

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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks

it seems like you care about kelly alotso you do need to be patient and persistant, but you need to go up to julie and ask her why she blamed you for something you didnt do, honestly tht sounds like a cover up, and remember, if kelly wont let you talk to her then she dosent trust you as much as she said, you cant just be her most trustworthy frienda and then one person says something so she wont pay attention to you anymore,she isnt worth your time if you cant believe in her and she cant believe in you MY ADVICE:Talk to Julie, Try to explain to Kelly, and if that dosent work, give up on her, she isnt worth your friendship

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