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Q: Yeah. I kind of need help!! Me and my best friend r having a huge fight right now and I don't know what to do. We both said things we didnt mean. What should I do? Im so confused? ;0; Please help me. I already apologized but she wont take my apology!!
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Don't keep pushing them, but don't just back off either. Just make sure that you make it well known to them that you want to work things out. A resolution cannot move forward until both are ready to put your guard down and talk it through.
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Q: okay i have this x- friend. we were friends for about a year and then all of a sudden she started getting weird. like she said she was bi and then said she was joking, but i dont think she was. and shes really creepy to be around, like she got a weird haircut, but i dont wanna talk to her. am i wrong?
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People can change for no apparent reason. But whether you want to accept her or not, you should always still be at the very least civil to each other, after all, you were friends, right?
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Q: ok well i have a friend and she is really sweet. But i recently found out she had been cutting her wrists, so i told one of my teachers and she reported it to the office as an annonimous report. So she got called down to the office today to be talked to and well lets just say she was really upset. Shes not aloud back at school untill she goes to a shrink atleast 6times! So anyways well she keeps e-mailing me and im scarred shes going to find out it was me because someone told her that they saw a girl friend taalking to one of our teachers about her. So how am i suppost to approch her in a way that dosent hint to be proven it was me? Did I do the right thing? I really dont want to loose a friend i have already lost so many this year! I go threw school with only 3 friends! And i dont want to walk arond alone! Helllp
Alyssa 13
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You are a true friend for risking your friendship to help her! And I think in time, she will realize that. But a way you could approach her is by just being really supportive, be as positive as you possibly can. This is going to be unimaginabley difficult for the both of you, whether or not she figures out it's you, and if she does, whether or not she can accept that you were only trying to help.
Having few friends hurts, it flat out sucks, but at least you are a TRUE friend to the ones that you DO have. That will pay off throughout your life, don't lose that quality. Fight for it with everything you have, like you are fighting to help your friend.
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Q: So.. my friend, whom we'll call stacy, and her boyfriend, whom we'll call sean is what this is about i think. Not so much with sean..but i could be wrong. Stacy for the past 2 months, i just found out has been throwing up her food , and lately she can't hold it down..its a natural thing now, and because she does this, she cuts herself, and cutting herself makes her eat..its a vicious cycle. She wants to tell her mom, but her pregnant sister ran away and her mom is under a LOT of stress, so she doesn't want to put that load on top of it. She knows she has a problem, and i want to help her. But i know i can't do it by myself, she's stubborn. Would it be okay to talk to our schools couselor about this? thanx for any thing you can help w/. Oh, and where sean comes in, i think she's throwing up because of him, she thinks she's too fat? or something maybe? i hope not because he isnt like that. but plz help me. I'm the only one she's told about the cutting
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First of all, she obviously trusts you to have told you these things. And it's the first step for her to realize that it is a problem. Stuff like this is impossible to give an answer that will work for every situation, but in this case, talking to your school counselor is a WONDERFUL idea! And you're right, you can't do this by yourself, and neither can she. So the most important thing is to be there for her, and support her in trying to overcome this. You are obviously VERY mature, that is clear by the way you are trying to handle this situation. But stay in there! You might want to read up on other cases like your friend's on the internet or in health magazines for more advice.I must say this, however, THIS WILL NOT BE EASY! But I promise that it will be worth it. Her revealing this to you is a way of her asking for help. Turning away would be the worst thing to do, but you already know that...otherwise you wouldn't have asked.
Just don't give up, and don't let her give up either. Best of Luck!
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I'm a very openminded person who loves to have fun and figure things out. I guess you could say I am a "deep thinker" because I actually enjoy thinking about the kind of things that no one else will mention because they're afraid of offending someone. I hope to one day, for at least a while, be an Advice Columnest for a large Newspaper or Magazine. And I figure, what could be a better way to learn how, and be truly comfortable with it then doing it?
I'm not here to judge you, I don't care if what you believe in isn't exactly the most widely accepted, or what your sexual preference is or anything like that. The only reason I'm here is to give advice.So ask me any kind of question, I am not specific on any particular topic, and then I'll tell you what I think.
Or, if you would prefer, you can e-mail me at Bekhales@yahoo.com
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Age: 18 MSN: JadeBT1@hotmail.com Member Since: May 2, 2006 Answers: 32 Last Update: January 19, 2007 Visitors: 3494
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