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Hi. I am a 31 year old life coach and professional writer and the mother of a beautiful 6 year old little boy. I believe in the kids and teens out there today and I want to be of service in any way I can. I know what it's like to be young and not want to talk to parents about problems. I specialize in relationships of all kinds and parenting. I also am very well versed in health and beauty. I will always respond with sincerity and to the best of my ability. I will always be honest, even if that means I may tell you something you don't want to hear but need to. I am all about inspiring the best from people I come in contact with so that's the approach I take with everyone.
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OK, brace your self, a while ago this guy trent ased me out and he was 2 years older. I said know cus i just got out of a bad relation ship. Now hes reallllly good friends with one of my good friends James. James is going out with alexa and trent is going out with alexas friend ashlyn. well me ash and alexa are all 14 ( im not good friends woth them) and james and trent just turned 16. WELL ANY WAY... I have these to other real good friends Morie (girl) and briana. and one day we (james trent bri morie me) were all hangin out at night and out of absoluty no where briana goes Oh My Gosh I LIKE TRENT!!! ...ALOT!!!! A WHOLE LOT!!!!! .. I WANT TO MAKE OUT WITH HIM!!! and i was all confused , she suddenly likes this guy and just goes to atempt to make out with him (BTW bri just turned 13 last week) Well after she triend to and failed at making out with him she told MOrie to do it. Morie said she didnt want to chus this was the first night she ever met him. well bri said if she didnt so wuold kill herself ( she "cuts") so morie talked to trent about it ( mo turned 12 last month) and they went in the back and made out. well over the night trent began to really like her. They made out like 5 time and he followed her EVERY WHERE!! and they flirted alll night. SO me and james were like "trent arnt you going out with ashlyn???" He said " im taking a break" But later ashlyn called james saying "trent isnt anserwing his fone if u see him tell him to call." James asked if they were still going out and ashlyn said yes. So trent is baisicly cheating on her with morie, but Mo and trent arnt actually going out cus mo likes his little brother(14) who likes Alexas cusin mandy and also because trent is almost 5 years older then morie. And latly he is flirting a lot with me to and i keep telling him hes taken and i dont mess with taken guys. but i do like him a little. And I am just soooo lost! what do i do, what should MO do, Should we tell aslyn, or what should we tell trent... or just help!!
sorry its so long. If you actually read this and anserwed you get an auto 5 ( unless your response just SUCKED!)
That just sounds like a totally tangled web that has been woven. I would say, if you are not in the middle of it - don't put yourself there! The problem is that if you tell then people will get hurt and mad. I would stay way out of it! If this guy likes you and he has a girlfriend, tell him that if he's serious about it - to let you know when he breaks up with his girl and if you are available then you guys can hook up. Don't be 'the other girl' especially knowing that he has a girl. As for MO - well she's already into him now so let her see where it goes. I would recommend the same thing though - tell trent to dump the girl or leave MO alone - but remember - that is for MO to do - you keep to the side. The less you can be in the drama - the better. And tell your friend who cuts herself to get some help. That is just awful and I hate to hear that because life does not have to be so bad that you cut yourself. She should try to figure out what is going on in her life and get it straitened out before she grows up with lots of scars and regrets it!!!
Hope any or all of it helped!
Rebecca
My friend has had a crush on this guy for a little while, and she's REALLY into him. Problem is, he's... not such a great guy. He went out with one of my other friends for a short period of time (when my other friend liked him, which caused a lot of tension between them), broke up with her, and then started liking me for a while and then stopped. Two nights ago I was at her house, and he called and they started talking and he said he liked her. This scared me and I told her to think before she comitted to anything, and she hung up... We talked for a long time, and I told her to really think about it. 10 minutes later he calls and says he doesn't like her, he was being stupid and he was half-asleep. You can imagine how this made her feel. He wasn't even sorry about it later...
And she still likes him. How can I get her to realize that this guy isn't worth her time, and to move on? BTW, she and him are both 14.
Sounds like you won't have to convince her because he doesn't like her anyway. The part about being a friend is to listen when they fall - but let them fall sometimes because when it comes to love there is not a lot someone else can say - even your best friend! I'm not saying she's in love - but this sounds like something she's gonna have to figure out on her own. Of course you can be there to listen to her and give her advice. Now, you could get with some other guys and get her interested in someone else....
Im 14 year old girl, and my friends are the same age, I went to the beach for a week this past week and my best friend, we'll call her, Jess *hold that thought* I also played volleyball this season and made some great friends and I went to hang out with them and invited Jess. but since I went away for the week. Jess has pretty much taken my place. My friends dont even think about calling me to do stuff... they call Jess, its like. she stole my friends. and shes taken my place in every aspect. I dont remember the last time any of them called to see what i was doing.
I want my friends back.. what do i do
How about call them? You went away and they probably did get closer to Jess, but that doesn't mean they don't like you anymore. Don't make the mistake of thinking you know what they are thinking if they haven't told you. Lots of friendships end because someone assumes that someone else feels a certain way. Just give them the benefit of the doubt. Tell them you want to hang out and you miss them. Don't think the worst. Just remember what you like about them. Oh yeah, I'm sure your best friend did not try to 'steal' your friends. She probably just liked them too. Go hang out and don't make too much of it. Have fun!!
Ok there is this really hot guy I like. I have liked him since the moment I saw him, and I told my friend that. She said ok, and she told me she liked this other kid. Well now shes trying to hook up with the guy I like. The guy told the both of us that he was gonna hook up with us tonight. We know that he told the both of us, and she said oh really, im just not going to. Well after that she was all over him. And I talked to him about it and he said he wants to hook up the next time he sees me. I really want to, but i know that hes probably saying the same thing to my friend. I don't know what to do, I've never hooked up with a guy and I just want to make out. I don't want me and my friend to hate eachother though. What do I do?
So you just want to make out with this guy? You don't really like him? Or do you think if you make out with him you two will be together? Either way, I say you are ruining a friendship. True, you liked him first, but it got a little too sticky and I would just leave it alone. The guy obviously doesn't like you for anything more than a 'make out session' or he wouldn't have been trying to hook up with your friend. Leave him alone. And what is the deal with just wanting to make out with someone? You have to be proud of your body and respect it before any man will!
well this girl used to be one of my best friends but then she got all pissy to my boyfriend so i got mad at her then i became her friend after a couple of months but i was talkin to this kid and he all of the sudden said dont talk to me n i looked at his profile and my page said that this girl made up a little thing call the Hayley Haters thing and all they do is talk about me! and there are people in it! what should i do because its pissing me off! PLEASE HELP! i rate high!!!
First of all, if people are giving you that much power and credit to sit around and talk about you all day - thank them. It just means you are getting to them and they either want what you have or feel so inferior that they have to make a page to talk about you. That is pretty funny you know. The first thing I would do is ignore it. Really, don't even let people know it affects you because that is obviously what they are looking for. Don't retaliate because there again it means you are affected by them.
Don't let the haters get to you honey. They are jealous!! Leave them alone and keep your power - your energy. You don't need friends like here anyway.