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Q: Okay, well I made a promise not to lose my virginity before I got married. Not only did I promise myself, but I promised my friend (let say his name is Mark). So.. I found this guy I'm totally heels over head with (lets say his name is Anthony). I fell for this guy, and within the first 3 months, we became intimate. This was back in September. We're still together, and going strong, but we do have sex. I know I broke that promise to myself, but my friend had JUST found out (months later) and now like thinks I'm so stupid, and that I hurt him and blah blah blah. Cuz he's my "best friend", and yeah if you can't tell, he likes me ALOT. And I feel like I've let him down. I love Anthony, I don't regret having sex with him, and I'll keep having it. But how do I tell Mark that he needs to move on, and that it's my own life. Please give me good answers, I'll give good ratings!!

i dont think there is an easy way to tell him this, you can tell him how you feel about anthony and give him time to thin about it and try to understand that you don't feel the same way that he feels about you, hopefully things will bounce back eventually and he can move on.

Q: I have a workmate that has a problem. She is an extremely nice person and has plenty of friends and I quite like her as a friend too, the only problem is that she constantly tells lies. I have found that when she starts talking now I just switch off because I can't believe anything that she says. The other people that we work with feel the same way and we feel that even though she is a nice person we have just lost all respect for her. I have tried to catch her out on her lies to let her know that she can't keep getting away with it but she just lies her way out of it. I have even confronted her about this but she just denies it.One of her most recent lies was that her father has cancer which I know is not true because I have spoken to other family members. Not all of her lies are big like this one in fact some are just so insignificant that you would wonder WHY BOTHER?
What makes some people do this (feeling inadequate?) and how can I help her to overcome it.

I had a friend that lied to me, but it was for a good reason, he lied to me about comein to our band practice to get ready for a show, and he told us well it was his dad's birthday and couldnt go anywhere, well i caught him doing it by asking someone who went, i confronted him about it and he told me he didnt want to be in the band anymore and felt he was holding us back, just try confronting her and asking her why she lies, and tell her that she doesn't need to lie because everyone already thinks shes is a good person.

Q: Hi i'm 14 in grade 8 and of course all women!lol anoy way there's this guy and i really like him. I talk to him somtimes and stuff but i really wana make an impression on him. I'm not really ugly i don't think lol i've been told i'm pretty but i wanna be notice by him what a good way to make an awesome impression on him?

well im a 14 year old guy, and the thing that catches my eye is definently a girl who isnt afraid to be real with me, i really dont like n e who is self absorbed cause talking about them bores me, if they can talk to me and have conversation that lasts more than 1 minute than that girl is definently the girl for me.

Q: This is kinda a long one but I really need good advice.

There are these three girls I'm friends with at my school. We were all like a group of four and basically the "popular" group if my class has one. Well at least I was really good friends with them. Maybe I'm just paranoid but it always seems like two of them talk about me. I'm pretty sure the third one doesn't because she's always really nice to just about everyone. Well me and one of them got into a fight the other day and aren't talking. She's really close with the other one I think talks about me. I'm pretty she's mad just just because her best friend is. But the thing is, she acts all nice to my face and stuff.

I have other friends to hang out with but most of them aren't in most of my classes. Going to school is hell anymore though. I have my boyfriend and that's like it. I can't really explain this dilemma to him. He knows vaguely of it and that's like it.

I know what my "friends" can do. This one girl was really popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her and they turned her into a complete loser so everyone hates her and talks about her. I don't want this to happen to me.

The girl whose mad at me is not the apologizing type and I'm not apologizing to her.

So what do I do?

I rate 5's!

Its really hard to lose a good friend, you never want it to happen but sometimes thats just the way it is, im not sayin that you will lose these friends you have, but the best thing to do is just let her be, i've had friends who talk about me behind my back and its never a good feeling, but you cant let things like that get to you, im not very old, not even in high school, and i have seen my whole life just fly past me its not worth it to be mad at friends all the time because you dont wanna look back at bad times, you dont want n e bad times at all, you shouldnt care what other people think just cause you hang out with a certain person, and what r they gonna say?"oh you see her she hangs out with that girl there, so shes not kool anymore" you dont want to be around people that are so shallow, just try to let it all go, and do what you want to do, its not always best to be popular, i think you'd wanna be in the middle cause you get to meet a bunch of different people and are friends with everyone, just dont let it get you down.

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I'm a 14 year old guy. Wow I've been through a lot of things and I'm ready to answer any question you have, i'm not perfect just like the rest of us but i try to be friends with everyone and i think im a better person for that. I'm really into music and playin my guitar helps me calm down. P.S. In Pic Im the one on the left with the girly crown. I always get the girly crown........