My names Becks, Im otherwise known as moon.
Im 20 years old,although I am not that old, I have lived alot, and have alot of experince with diffrent situations and feelings through-out life.
I have been a constant counciller, throughtout my life and have been told Im a good listener and I also give good advice.
I will always be honnest and blunt about what I think, but Im also very good at seing a problem from every angle.
More about me.
I and am studying to be a blacksmith, hopeing to start my degree at the end of this year.
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E-mail: Freakchildx@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: London(se)/ W.Sussex
Occupation: student
Age: 20
Member Since: March 10, 2008
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Never in my life will I do this again.
I'm making a very long story short.
-i needed a ride home from a party
-friend said he could and wanted to hang out anyways
-got n car @ 2am. Said I had 2 b home at 230
-we didn't kno where to go... drove around to big houses n hills
-i said to turn around. He finally did.
>turned off engine.
>grabbed me ( you know when u watch movies and the girl gets raped? Well I always think, 'o why doesn't she jus play it off so he doesn't get mad?' well I did!) tried to kiss me I kissed him back after saying no.
>shoved my hand on his thing through his pants.
>shoved his hand on my private part.
[This still occured even though I kept saying NO. He kept saying ITS OK.]
>finally stopped n kept drivin
-drives a different way to this place to view the city.
-pulls over.
>grabs me across his lap, puts his tonge down my throat.
>tried to get up. He pulled me back down. And tried to kiss me again. I finally got up & said we gotta go home!
-on ride home we act like nothing happened.
-drops me off. Done.
I don't know if I should tell him how I feel? Ignore it? Act like it never happend?
I never want to see him again. But I have to because we go to the same school.
I'm not that type of girl AT all. I'm a virgin, but most people don't think so. Maybe he didn't? I can't believe he thought I would do that. I can't believe he did that to me.
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Heya,
In your question, it’s hard to tell if this guy actually raped you, so I’m going to try and answer your question from two different sides.
Lets just give him the benefit of doubt, maybe he didn’t realise that you didn’t want to do what he was up for (I'm not saying this is the case, just maybe)
You said you “play it off” I don’t think this was the best course of action at all, because this could have given him the wrong idea to start with.
But if someone says no to sexual contact, and the other person in question ignores this fact, surely that is counted as sexual assault, and therefore, maybe you should be telling a adult, about this experience
You mentioned that you go to the same school, well this is going to become very difficult and uncomfortable for you, so I suggest you tell someone about what happened, at your school, maybe a teacher, or a head of year (not sure if your from the U.K)
No-one should feel threatened at school, so really you should tell a teacher.
Personally if I was in your position, I would march right up to the guy and shout in front of everybody, about what he did, but I realise and think this isn’t the best approach you should take.
I think you should tell him exactly how you felt about the whole situation, and make him realise that his actions were wrong, this is if you don’t wish to take things higher.
If you feel nervous about doing this on your own, confine in a friend, and ask a friend to come with you whilst you talk to him.
I hope this is of some help.
I’m sorry you’ve been put into this awful position.
Moon x
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[wrong category..sorry]
16/f. i got a new boyfriend 2 months ago. after that, basically, i've completely lost all touch with my inner self. my grades went down. some friends turned their backs on me. my parents are giving up on me. i feel horrible. i've become an attention seeking whore. but i'm depressed (i've been diagnosed.)
all because of a boyfriend..? there must be something wrong. it's very pathetic to see myself like this. it's like a drug to me now, this male affection/attention. and it's not like i'm putting less effort into my schoolwork. the grades just decline..
i'm sure this is not normal. any advice would be very much appreciated. =| (link)
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Heya.
Your in a vunrable postion right now (being depressed) therefore, I definetly think you need to spend time on yourself, and healing from depression does take awhile, but before your happy in yourself, things will seem alot more negative.
School is so important, you wouldent think it half the time when your there, and most (older) people will tell you how important it is,and believe me I've personally found out the hard way, that education is important, it seems, as if your putting a guy that you've been with before things that actually will have a all round impact on your life.
If your friends, were the true friends they wouldent turn their back on you, I suggest you confront them.
You say your depressed, have you throught that your depression is what is actually sparking off all these other problems, because when you are depressed, you can feel that everything and everyone around you, is crumbeling.
Have you been to the doctors?
As you are young, I think you should talk to a parent, or a teacher, or someone you can trust.
Hope everything works out
Moon x
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