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My best friend Julz is goin out w/ my favorite cousin Jon!! Julz is turning 14 in october and Jon is turning 13 this september. i really hate them goin out, cuz he's changed ever since they started goin out!! they broke up and they just got back together!! i dont wanna tell julz that i cant stand it cuz she's my best friend and she'll get mad, but i think i have to. ive talked to jon about it but they like eachother so much!! what should i do?? --Chels
p.s. please help me out here cuz i give you guys advice!! return the favor lol (link)
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well u really have no place breaking them up but telling them that it makes you uncomfortable is fine. when you tell your friend just tell her how he acts different and how it bothers you and not that you dont want them to be happy but it really bothers you. u have a right to say it bothers you but you do have to respect their desicion especially if its ur best friend. u should never do anything that would ruin her happiness just for your own.
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Okay..me and my two friends crack and smack have a band crack played the drums but then he decided he wanted to play the guitar so he got into it. so we found a new guy, sven, that was into the drums so we got him..he didnt even know how to play..he bought a really expensive drumset and that was a while ago and he's still not good. Well anyways we just originally wanted the band to be me, crack and smack. so crack went back to drums..we've had band practice with just us three and sven just doesnt ever bother getting better with the drums. so we hadnt heard from him in forever so we pretty much figured he was out of the band...but just recently he keeps calling up and telling us his thoughts on how OUR band should be doing..and he think hes still in it..what should we tell him????we dont want him in the band!!! (link)
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well...what was ur name? oh u didnt say well im going to call u swan..anyways swan if u dont want him in the band then i really suggest u tell him straight up he cant be in it. and if hes not good then hes not good. so u gotta tell him its for the better of the band.. eventually he'll understand and get over it. but then again if u kick him out whos gonna play the drums?? well im sure u can figure that out but in any case it was ur guys' band in the first place and if hes just slowing u down and giving u a hard time then u have to tell him he cant be in the band... just be nice about it but tell him that u guys just need someone w/ more talent and stuff...dont let him walk all over u... if he puts up a fight, fight back
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One of my best guy friends, Rob, is being really stupid and immature for lame reasons. Every time I start liking another guy and think of maybe dating him, Rob starts getting really distant and annoyed even if I don't do anything or talk about the other guy. If I so much as have a conversation with a guy that doesn't really hang out with our group much, he starts avoiding me and giving me the silent treatment. I'm 15 and a really independent girl so I normally don't put up with this crap typically but apart from his jealousy, he's extrememly fun to hang out with. But this is getting really old. Can you give me some advice on what I can do……or if I should do anything? (link)
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talk to him... definitly talk to him. ask him whats up and why it bothers him so much u might learn something. maybe he has a logical explination for his jealousy. he proly cares about u a lot so just talk to him and be understanding but tell him how u feel
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Hi Im Shelly and im 14 years old. Me and my best friends Kim and roxie seem to fall out alot and its putting me down. We have been friends for 3 years and we still are falling out over stupid things. Its starting to get me down and im worried that we will be like this all of our school lives. I just want to stop faling out. We have all tried really hard and im wondering whether to give up. Of course i don't want to but its not fair on any of us if we are falling out 24/7. We are a 3 best mate group by the way which makes it even harder because when we go in pairs one is always left out and it always seems to be Kim. This isn't fair what shall i do? plz help me
Luv Shelly
xxxxx (link)
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getting in fights and such is completely normal in a friendship and in any relationship. but i can understand when u feel enough is enough. this advice is actually something my brother told me. him and his friends used to have a day where they would all meet and just trash each other and basically get it out of their systems and they would talk things thro and be as honest as humanly possible. i think this is a good idea especially since there is only 3 of u so it'll be easier to talk and get things off ur chest. and then talk them out civily. make sure everyone is expressing themselves fully. and make sure u all understand that the most important thing is that u all get ur voice heard about how u feel then u can decide how to fix things. i hope this helped
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ok... i like my guy friend **bob** :) he-he bob... ok ne ways, i know he has a physical attraction to me. how do u go about asking if he likes u all in all? can u give me some pointers?
thanx f/16 (link)
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well honestly just ask him... act kool and just be calm about it. just casually bring it up and ask him if he likes u... it might also help to tell him u like him. cause it makes guys feel more confident when they know the girl already likes them.
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what do i do when i feel like everytime i get down or upset or depressed sometimes for no reason that i wanna kill myself.. or hurt myself... what can i do for help? my friends help by keeping me from actually doing it but im tired of feeling like i should do it.. i use to cut but my friends stoped me from doing that... what should i do? (link)
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well wanting to hurt urself for bad things going on in ur life is, sadly, quite common. one reason some people do it is cause they feel like cutting or w/e will get rid of w/e other pain they have and it will distract them. and while in a way this is a good idea its not because harming urself is never a good idea. however maybe stabing a pillow or something instead could also relieve the same pain. just whenever u have the urge to hurt urself try doing something else that can express that pain w/ out inflicting it upon urself.
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alright well i had this one friend in the beginnin of our school year n we like considered eachother best friends and stuff. but we grew apart or whatever and she told people she didnt like me because someone told her stuff that wasnt true. i mean we used to have a good friendship and all she was such a great girl but its weird being around her now because we talk and stuff but not like friends do. but we have mutual friends so we gotta get along, but i kinda miss laughing with her and our inside jokes.. got any advice??? (link)
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well if u guys were good friends before and u can be civil around each other now then its possible later you could be friends again. but if you are bugged about not being friends anymore when u feel like you could be then talk to her. tell her that the things she heard weren't true and tell her you still wanna be her friend. if this girl is that kool then i think she'll consider it u kno. and maybe she still thinks ur kool she just isnt sure of what you think. let her know
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ok my old friends from my jr high were all DRAMA.. especially this chick erynne. well i was so used to the drama thing that i didnt even realize people( like my new friends) could be so laid back. i dont really talk to that many peeps from my jr high. but then again most of them dont make an effort to talk to me nemore, when i used to always be the 1st person they called on the weekends. now they always act like they r mad at me so i just decided to find new friends. should i ask them if they r mad at me for sumthing or just forget them..??
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well if things r going so well for u now i wouldnt bother. but if u really feel the need to talk to them then yeah u could ask them what happened and if they r mad at u... there is no harm in that either.
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I used to know this guy for a long time. We were really good friends and I could tell him basically anything. He was the best. But now he avoids me and never talks to me. This really upsets me and I dont know what to do about it. I still love him a lot, but he always ignores me and dosent want anything to do with me. What should I do? Chrissy, age 15 (link)
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well first off ask him whats going on and why he doesnt talk to you. tell him u love him but u dont understand why he avoids you. just be open minded and listen to his answers. if he was that close to you b4 im sure its not anything big maybe hes just got a lot on his mind.
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hi again. ok. i have this friend and she is soo nuce and i love her to death but, weve grown in different directions. Shes become like a major punk and tells me all this stuff i dont want to hear. She wants me to do all sorts of stuff with her and i want to its just hard to decide what to do because shes not all that great of an influence. what should i do?? (link)
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ok well listen friends grow apart that happens. but i can totally understand u wanting to stay friends and you should try. but if shes bringing bad things into ur life and friendship and u dont like it u have to let her know. that might mean that shell get upset for a little while but u have to speak ur mind and if u want ur friendship to last u have to tell her what ur not comfortable with... i hope this helps!
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i dont no what to do anymore my best friend she seems like shes not my best friend anymore.i am in 7th grade, but anyway it seems like she never wants to do anything wit me any more. HELP ME PLEASE. (link)
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i suggest u talk to her. ask her about it. ask her if it is that u are growing apart, which is very possible. if she denys this then shes proly just got other things on her mind or something. its proly not u at all. and if she does say that she feels like u 2 r growing apart then u have to realize that these things happen and maybe shell change her mind. just dont ignore it. and dont push her away back.
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