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Hello, I am seventeen years old.And I am currently a Senior at my high school.
I like giving advice.
One day, I want to make a living out of it.
There's really nothing in the world that I like more than:
Music [New Wave, Electronic, Alternative, HipHop]
Photography [I take many pictures]
Friendships [They're really important me]
& Helping out people [I am always helping out]
There's really not a lot to me.
Other than I like to help out people.
Sometimes, I think that I should take my own advice.
But I rarely do =/
So yeah, that's about all I have to say.
advice
I've got this guy I know at work and he seems really depressed at the moment and I'm scared that he'll hurt himself. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I'm 16f he's about 18/19
Try to get him help. Perhaps you should tell his family. You should not let him deal with this alone because he could indeed hurt himself. Try to tell his family or someone close to him. They could then set up an appointment with a therapist or something of that sort. You should not ignore this. Get him help!
Good Luck & Hoped I Helped
- LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
my friend (girl) has a problem with guys.When she was younger (around 9years old or may be younger),a relative used to masturbate in front of her and to abuse her sexually.He used to open the toilet door when she is using the toilet, and things like that.She didn't tell me she was raped but she told me this terrifies her.Now she doesn't trust any guy and she's afraid when she is left alone with a guy.How can i help her to get over this problem and go on with her life?I really want to help her but don't know how!!!
Okay, well first of all I would advice you to ask your friend if she wants any help. Because believe it or not there are people that don't want any help. And if given help, they turn their back on you. Second, you should talk to her and ask her what causes her not to like being around guys and how she feels. I recommend that your friend goes to see a psychologist. They can help her cope with what she's been through and they could advice what to do and they can help her get over the fear of being around guys.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck!
-LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
ok so ive had this BEST FRIEND since like the 6th grade (i am now going into the 9th). we were inseperable forever. until i had to move to germany. but i came back and everything and we would always talk on the phone and/or make plans. but she always had something to do and shed tell me the day before we were supposed to go wherever we go. or she just tells me straight up that she cant go because her mom has a new boyfriend and theyre trying to bond (the bf thing is true, im not so sure about the bonding thing). i always tell her to call me when she can do something and she says she will. but she hasnt called me since i came back which was in may. its not like i stalk her or anything, i just call her occassionally-maybe twice or three times a week. and lately she hasnt been answering my phone calls and it takes her forever just to call me back. im so sorry this was so long =[
please help me !!!!!! =/
Well, I think that it's best that you find a new friend. There is a high chance that she's avoiding you. I'm pretty sure that you could find another friend. But if you really want her friendship, maybe go over to her house and talk to her about it. Tell her how you feel. Maybe she doesn't want to be best friends anymore. If so, ask if you guy can still be friends.
Hoped I helped & Good luck
--LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
I am in a HUGE fight with one of my best friends at school and she is a really complicated person to get along with! Fights with her are like going into world war! I already said sorry and she isn't cracking! This was all over a HUGE misunderstanding about this boy but then we brought up other things like how we were never really were friends and sometimes I just find myself crying over it all! What should I do? I really don't want to lose my best friend!
Well, since you appologize there's really nothing you can do. Just keep appologizing until she cracks. Talk to her and tell her that everything was a misunderstanding. Tell her how you feel about the whole fight and that it's unneccesary to get like that over a boy.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck!
--LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
Hi, im a 14 year old girl, and recently a group of people i used to hang out with have been doing cocaine. The only reason i ever hung around them was because I was dating one of the people who does cocaine the most. I was very deeply in love with him ( i know, im young, and im not trying to be like those silly 9 year old girls who claim they're in love with everyone. I was really in love with him and it was a serious relation ship) hes changed completely and does coke alot. I dont really care about the others. They are my friends..we..aquantences..and all, but I know none of them will ever listen. They love it tooo much. And even if he's with other people who are in love with him and care about him, im happy hes happy, but I still worry that if they cant put any control over him...how will i ever be able to help? Its turned into a vicious cycle or stealing hundreds of dollars of cocaine and getting into fights. None of them really talk to me anymore, but I feel restless like i should do somthing. You have the responsibility for the people you care for right? Cocaine is almost a fad now. And its getting kind of irritating. Part of me feels like this isnt my buisness. Im not doing cocaine, so why worry? But then agian, if one of them were to die. How would I feel not making an attempt?
I have been in your situation. And all I can say is that the best thing to do is too tell their parents. Sure they won't like you afterwards. But it's best that they don't like you than to have them dead. If you let this go far, someone could get hurt or they could die. If you don't want them to know, tell their parents what they are doing and that you would like to keep anonymous. But I strongly recommend letting an adult handle this. You are too young to handle this all by yourself.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck
--LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
what if you ask someone out and he said something mean back would you still go for it.
Well, I guess it depends how bad it was. If it was really bad, then screw it. You asked them out and they blew you off like that, you don't deserve that. I personally wouldn't go for it anymore.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck!
-LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
My two best friends are fighting and i'm in the middle of it. They want me to choose sides. What should I do?
Tell them that you're not going to choose sides. You want to stay mutual with them. And that they should settle their own differences and not get you in it. Sit down with them and help them solve their problems with one another. But just make sure that you're not in the middle of it. Tell them that it's not fair on you because you're not the one with the problem.
Hoped I Helped & Good Luck!
-LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
ok the thing is a friend of mine might be bi. but the thing is, would she act any different if she is? i mean i havent known her for long, and i dont know if she acted differently b4. but a friend of hers and mine as well(she known her 3 years ago) told me she acted different this year. im worried, does it make a difference if a persons not straight? one of my friends told me she had a bi friend and dat she isnt different. well the thing is i dont noe any bi or gay or lesbian people so i dont know. i need advice! please! thank you.
Well I have a friend that recently came out to us and she told us that she's bi. She's still the same she hasn't change with us. And it's like she never told us anything. Not all of them change, but some of them do. I think it's because now that people know, they feel more comfortable. But if you feel like your friend has changed, talked to her about how you feel.
Hoped I Helped.
-LiTTLEGiRLBLUE
Hello,
My question is there is this teacher who has taught me twice and he has been like a really good friend to me and is moving to Australia. He loves to play guitar and i wanted to give him a heart felt gift to say goodbye and let him remember me by. I have made him cards and whatever. My idea was getting him a strap for his guitar, but i thought that it wasnt good enough for a good bye gift, any other thoughts/ideas? Thanks!
[Well it depends where you get it done; I got mine done for like $40]
I had a teacher who loved guitars, and as a goodbye gift I bought him a custom guitar strap. And since he liked the beach and surfing..I had the straps say his name (Mr Roberts) and I had had like designs of beaches and surfboard. Maybe you can do that but with pirates. and so incase he wont forget try adding your name on it; maybe on the back or something.
hoped i helped.
-LiTTLEGIRLBLUE
Well I have this friend who is a girl and her birthday is this Sunday. I'm planning on making something for her..but the thing is not sure what. I also want it to be very special because she became my SECOND FRIEND ever since I started highschool and she helped me break my shell so now I have a couple of more friends..Real ones this time..Also I have a crush on her so I want it to maybe possibly, maybe a tiny bit make her fall in love with me or maybe get the hint that I have a crush on her. Any suggestions what I should make or can anyone help me decide what to do? I'm planning on maybe making a birthday song/poem and put it in an envelope along with maybe a stuff animal. Or is drawing a portrait of her good? I'm not sure because I don't quite know her that much and I don't want her to feel awkward. So anyways any suggestions what I can do?
Well If I were here, I would love the poem and a teddy bear. Maybe in your poem you can give out hints that you like her more than a friend. Other suggeestions: make her a card- it would show her that you took some time and actually make her something. take her out to dinner- just tell her that it's for her birthday. and maybe while you're out at dinner you and her can get to know more about each other. and maybe you can tell her that you like her.
hoped i helped.
i need sweet sixteen themes, im planning on having one...please help i need as many as possible
All white: everyone can wear white..and you would be the only one wearing a different color.
Beach Theme
60's
Grease
Vegas
Laua
Paris
Jungle
Vintage
New York
Celebrities: People can dress up as celebrites.
Hoped I Help & Good Luck!
So i am 15 and i am going to my friend birthday party in 2 days. At the party there is not going to be alcohol or smoking or anything. But afterwards I am spending the night at her house with a whole bunch of people and there is gonna be drinking and smoking and i already know i don't want to smoke but I am iffy on the drinking. My friend told me I didn't have to but I would feel kind of left out so I kinda want to. Do you think its a bad idea? or should I enjoy my youth?
Ugh. This happens to me all the time. I am fifteen. And my friends are the same age. They're always drinking and getting high. But I am not into that stuff. So i don't do anything. But you do what you're most comfortable with. I know that if you don't do anything, you'll feel left out. But it's better than dieing at a young age. If you do want to br part of the "fun" just drink wisely and don't get too drunk. Cause I garantee you'll do something you regret. Hope I helped.
Ok well my friend really likes this guy. Shes liked him for like two school years i think. We Anyway, I dont like him, but I have this feeling that me and him might date in the future... like soon, in a couple of months of getting to know eachother again, because we used to be friends. And like i said I dont like him but I do sometimes wonder what me and him would be like. And I dont want to lose this friend, she like him and I would never date her crush, but I wouldn't want to like him either. What should I do?? This feeling is strong, and i feel so right.
Well, I think you should just wait a little. And If he asks you out and you don't like him. Tell him that you don't like him that way, but you know someone who does like. And ask him if he's willing to meet the person. If he asks you out, and you have feeling for him. Ask him to wait until you talk to yor friend. Then you should tell your friend that you have feelings for her crush. And that you really like him. If she was a true friend she would let you be happy with him.
Good Luck![=
I am a 14yearold girl with a bazillion guy friends. ok maybe like 10 and only 2 gal friends. Some people think i am weird but i honestly feel more comfortable around guys. These guys are not the hunky-hunky-baywatch guys they are more the nerdyish-computer-advanced classes-bandgeek guys. Now i have to tell you that i am much like them besides the computer part. Everyone else besides my friends talk about me and my gal friends and think that we are gay because we hang around guys. and that we are "nerdy girly girl virgins". I hear them talking down the halls and in the classroom and at lunch.
But now that summer has come i have mostly forgot about besides the fact the Drivers Ed. came up and i am now constaly reminded. It drives me crazy.
Should i drop my guy friends or what?
HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
No, I say you don't srop your guy friends. You're friends with them for a reason. You shouldn't care what people think about them or you. Some of them might be jealous that they aren't that close with their guy friends. So yes, don't drop your friends just because people talk.
alrightt
so tomorrow im suppose to go downtown chicago
with some of my friends
and im 14
and i live like 30 or 45 min rom it?
and my mom told me i have to ask my dad if i can go
and i have been bugging them all week, well my mom
cause she gives in more then my dad
and i have a feeling he is gonna say no
and yeah im 14 blahblahblah im gonna get rapped
and i know theres gangs and stuffy like that
but really if i didnt think i wasnt gonna be safe i really wouldnt ask
and we are gonna go on a train
how can i get my parents to let me go?
This has happened to me many times. & I hate it when they do that. Well, in the past I've told them:
1) That my friend's parents were going to come with us.
2) That I was old enough to take care of myself. And that I would have me cellphone on. And if they want I would call them every 5 minutes. (I never did though)
3) I told them that my friend's older sibling was coming with us. And that they were a very responsible adult. Who finished college and has a good paying job. [Of course there really wasn't an older sibling]
Well Good Luck!(:
I live near a city so i go into there a lot. when i do, i see soldiers sometimes, and marines. I always want to walk up to them and just give them big hugs, thank them and walk away. But i never do. Would it be weird if i walked up to them and stuck out my hand and said "thanks for everything"???
Well where I live I always see Marines training. They actually run around my neighborhood. And one day me and my friends were outside and we see them coming. And at that moment, we knew we had to do something to show them that we cared. So we quickly, got a pen and wrote on our shirt "WE CARE" and they stopped and said thanked us. So I say you go up to them and thank them for everything. After all, they do deserve. Show them that you care(: